Originally posted by: Neel_M
In our society when a girl get married, her in laws family becomes her responsibility, I will not call it as forced responsibility. That's how our society is designed. Not comparing with western society.
Sandhya took RP as her responsibility and I'm OK with that, but she allows them to abuse her right and left. She acts dumb in front of them.
Unlike Meena and Emily she couldn't make a strong hold on RP's.
CVs sketched Sandhya character a week beendeni in-house and a strong person for outer world.
In reality I don't think a many of dual character or dual personality people exists. Yes, there are people with dual personality but they are more or less evil in character, and not pure like Sandhya.
Hi, to understand Sandya's mental strength a or why she is so, we need to remember in which condition she came to RP. When she came to RP she was angry with her brother for cheating her and also had a guilt in her mind towards Ratis thinking that her brother cheated them. When she came she knew nothing about household work which was the main theme of Ratis and she had lost her parents and in vulnerable condition. More over her bringing up never taught her to rebel in family where as Meena's mother never taught her about respecting elders and can't expect that Meena and Emily was a dare devil character even before getting into Ratis as DIL and she had gone to court to get her right. SO we can't compare Sandya with the other two.
Sandya is not a weak DIL but a sanskari one. If she were weak, she would not have fought with Bhabo for Emily, she would not have convinced Bhabo to retain Meena in the family for the sake of her unborn child.If she were weak, she would not have convinced Chavvi's MIL for her marriage which was about break due to Chavvi's theft idea of her wedding dress. Just because she doesn't rebel, we can't brand her as weak.
Even I don't reply back to my in laws or never retorted on them when they talk (off course my MIL was not as rude as Bhabo but to attract the audience, the CVs have to hype the stress level) frustrated or when they are angry on something. But will definitely talk to them later on the issue when they are cooled down, so that they could think logically. I am a Marketing Executive and even in my family I am the only working DIL. It is natural for them expect me to fulfill all the responsibilities of a DIL and I can't miss any functions or poojas. But I had assured my family (both my parenst and parent in laws) that my working will not affect the family in any way and will not come between my responsibilities, so they had agreed for me to continue with my work. So I had struggle initially to keep up to the mark of a DIL and working lady but now I have made my place in my home (in laws). Now after many years, they know I care for the family as much as I care for my career, so now they will check before finalixzing date for some functions and if it is inevitable to have it on a week day, I will get relaxation (some times, not always) to attend the function either in the morning or evening, according to my convenience. But yes, in a conservative family where only one lady works outside while others are house wives, they tend to face some problem and it is nothing but natural in India. Because the family doesn't depend on that lady's earnings and they can do without it, so it is not so easy to get an approval to work and that too with great enthusiasm.
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