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Actually Umaji's post combined with me watching SURYA heart to heart talk at night college where she refuses to go class made me write this. Dont kill me for writing this. But I guess it is time we discussed. We all are drooling over SURYA and DABH as it is completing 500 episode tomorrow. I am also with you happy about 500 episode and all. Unlike many senior members I am not worried about lack of DBC between SURYA, but there is something else that troubles me in their so called perfect relationship.
So let me come to the point. In that heart to heart talk Sandhya clearly tells that what Bhabo wanted was a simple beendini and her brother had known that and knowing that only he married her to RP. So Bhabo didnt hide her expectation and it is her duty to safeguard the word given by her brother to RP. So her priority has been to safeguard the word of being a Bahu, her brother had not given any word that she will be a perfect wife. So the wife picture simply does not have seem to bother her.
Sooraj being a nice person she might tolerate him so that she fulfills all the duties of a bahu that includes giving a waaris to RP. But her whole problem now is Sooraj who simply preventing her from being that 😃😃, I mean perfect bahu. Somehow Sooraj doesnt seem to be among guys who doesnt think much about how their wives feel. They would like to think their wives are happy being wife and mother. In other hand Sooraj has guessed Sandhya's trauma, her indecisions, her reluctance to have a married life and of course her dream. He wants to bring all the happiness to her and he wants her as the person she is. He doesnt seem to want her in a way that Bhabo wants to make out of Sandhya. Somehow Sooraj doesnt seem to able to love her like that. His whole business of staying away from DBC may be because of that as he feels she somehow still doesnt seems to open up to him and tries to please Bhabo.
Now Sooraj's business of supporting Sandhya whenever Bhabo opposes her has put Sandhya in a real dilemma. I mean she cannot be gratitude less to such a helping person. She thinks she loves him, but the fact is that she likes him and has an attraction towards him and again she sees her relationship to him only through the eyes of Bhabo. She considers Sooraj a friend a person who can console her after Bhabo's aangan drama. Not a husband with whom she should share her most intimate fears. I am sure Sandhya will walk out if Bhabo says she no longer wants Sandhya as her Bahu as she doesnt meet her expectations. But Bhabo's problem is that she is unable to do that because of Sooraj 😃😃.
This is the problem I see in SURYA relationship. Sandhya's utter lack of romantic interest in Sooraj and placing Bhabo over him. She does not even shown spending time with him discussing her fears and about their married life. She does not seem to understand her husband loves her the way she is and cannot love her the way Bhabo wants her to be. She is not understanding for a woman the most important thing is the acceptance of her husband, other people are secondary. Sooraj has told her this multiple times, but still she thinks of Bhabo only.
So what do you think. Will Sandhya come out of Bhabo and Parivaar business. Will she choose Sooraj once and for all. What do you think need to happen in the serial for this to happen. For her to understand it is only Sooraj she has and it needs to be Sooraj's interest she has to place on top of everything.
Geet - Hui Sabse Parayee
Anupamaa
