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leavesandwaves

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Posted: 13 years ago

Sandhya is on a mission. She wants to teach Suraj the fundamentals of good citizenship. Using a dustbin, wearing e helmet, voting etc. She also wants to excel in all those things like cooking, doing poojas and following traditions. Both are learning to adjust and understand. This is what is called reciprocity.
Both of them started to trust each other. No one can drive a wedge and cause misunderstandings.
But something is needed. Sandhya can be a bit warm physically. She can hold his hands. Oil his hair. Massage his head. Give him simple hugs. A little teasing. How can Sandhya be so cold towards Suraj without whose support cant stay even for a day?

Afterall life is not a set of rules and correct behaviour. It is also walking that mile to reach out to the other person. In case Suraj is some ordinary male and tries to touch her, I am sure that Sandhya will give him bhashan and angry looks. Rishton ka aadar karna. Do it fully. Not just for the sake of society.

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leavesandwaves

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Posted: 13 years ago

I think all of you must have observed the way he looked at the sleeping Sandhya. It has so many interpretations. Suraj will always keep his desires and his thoughts to himself most of the time.

First he was always in awe of his mom and placated her whenever she sulked.
Now he is in awe of 2 women. Mother and wife.

I want him to develop his own personality, a bit forceful. Express himself. Or assert himself.

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megustajalebi

@megustajalebi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: rightnow
I think all of you must have observed the way he looked at the sleeping Sandhya. It has so many interpretations. Suraj will always keep his desires and his thoughts to himself most of the time.

First he was always in awe of his mom and placated her whenever she sulked.
Now he is in awe of 2 women. Mother and wife.

I want him to develop his own personality, a bit forceful. Express himself. Or assert himself.

I think he's handling it well and after the drama with Bhabho regarding their lack of sex life, he will not make the first move anytime soon. Sandhya may be hesitant because she's too worried about Bhabho kicking her out or becoming extremely upset. If you have that much stress in your head, it can be difficult to feel affectionate, even with an awesome husband like Suraj.

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Juna04

@Juna04

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Posted: 13 years ago

Totally agree with megastujalebi's post...

Suraj is very strong character bec it is not easy for a man to handle 2 strong women and keep them happy...

He has shown his strength by doing and supporting the right thing...

He also keeps his respect and calmness with all other members of the family. Frankly if Sandhya was not supportive to him it could not happen.

I see Suraj and Sandhya both as strong characters bec to support the right thing even when it can go against the social norms is not easy...

Suraj and Sandhya have both handled the situation very well so far but now it is a tricky situation where both of them probably want to take their relationship to the next level but hesitate to make that first move...

They would probably need some push or help in that direction either this Holi festival will bring that or Maasa's visit... who knows????

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meenakshi dhiman

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Posted: 13 years ago

Sorry guys i don't agree with u that Sandhya is cold and so..

we see suraj love sandhya and sandhya is not responding back...

just think every moment she gets torture.. s suffer from pain... but she never cries or speak.. just suffering from inside.. from her also its not easy.. we see suraj pain that he is getting pissed off between 2 women.. but he know about his mom and little bit till now about sandhya...

he always tries to help her but he also never expressed his feelings openly.. they showed him less educated so when sandhya show her concern by other means we say it as social issue..but when ever Sandhya gets insulted instead of trying to resolve things he is always quite and let her insulted.. in such state of mind How can a girl to show her love and all.. she is always in situation of pain suffering and insult... never get chance to show herself or feel but now she is quite expressive than before.

before when ever suraj helped her she never smiled but now she do.. she show her smile n feelings on his acts.. recent fan act... and alll.. if we try to notice her then only we can see.

if u remember starting character she was so lively n cheerful person.. full of happiness, joy, life n love.. but the things happened and happening its not easy for her..

She is always in a state of pain... and suraj supports her and whenever she gets chance she shows her concern..

But the main problem is story track.. CV's don't know what to show and how to show... when there is something to show they abruptly end everything they lose main track and goes some where..

in maha episode there was an awesome chance to show Sandhya's feelings and what they think... but they abrupty end the part and just show sandhya as clueless and emotionless..

before on winning awards when she was trying to express her feelings.. that scene was also left incomplete.. CV's never give her chance to show her feelings and expreesions... so how we can see..

Cv's don't know ho to write and picturise a story well.. they always left important and worthy scenes inbetween they never justify with situations...

then whats Sandhya's fault.. Cv's made her character so inferior..many time the original track lost and new track starts..thats alao always with Insult of Sandhya by bhabhoo and suraj see all this..then say sorry to sandhya and show concern... but its not easy for person who suffers...

today epic starting unexpected.. yesterday ended with bhabhoo and sandhya conversation which was supppose to be one of important and strong scene but there also they just abruptly ended all..

i remember one shair from movie dilwale...

Humein toh aapno ne loota

Gairon mein kahan dam tha

meri kashti thi doobi

wahan jahan pani kam tha..

here Sandhya's bro was the person who cheated her and changed her whole life.. and gave her new life which is full of insult and pain..

the main concentration of Cv is bhabhoo and her taunts and insulting sandhya... Suraj helps her but for that also she suffers..

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shehjar

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Posted: 13 years ago

i really agree with ur view ..ur so right ..give sandhya some time she would be awsome..

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RJMbi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Still He need to understand his marital realation . Suraj lets her get insulted before his Mother and shows his concern for her in private at Personnel. He has to say word to his Mother not to make too much nonsense for silly things too. He himself not clear whether his Mother is doing good or Bad on his Life. He has to Get More Assertive and Bold for Sandhya peaceness, Freedom from quarrels and to end war or other hostilities.

On one end she is in living hell with Bhabo and on other end Suraj. How could she be in a peace state of mind with such tortures.When She herself dont know when is she going to leave that marital realation... In that situation How could u expect her to show warmth at him and be happy for Suraj concern.

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RJMbi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Though he is a Good Husband. Her life is getng Dictated by dat Old unEducated Lady.She is killing her attitude and living with him.She is not happy but insearch of Happiness in her compromising life. With an intention to make everyone happy she is dieng inside everyday and moment .

There is nothing Left Private to her in that Family. She became a Doormat , everyone taking advantage of her humble nature.

Suraj has to be made Assertive, If u dont wnt to see so cold at her Husband

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leavesandwaves

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: ananth12

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JaZzs

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Posted: 13 years ago

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one thing i dont understand in sandhya is how she is not feeling guilty of not giving that marital happiness to sooraj 😕...she knows very well how much he loves her and how he is yearning for her (we remember that scene when sooraj came close to sandhya's shadow and she moved away) ... after their truth exposed by bhabho sooraj gave her the option of leaving with her brother ..actually it should have been sandhya who should have apologised & given sooraj the option of marrying some other girl and moving on (though she is confident of him not doing it)... she may be confident of feeling for sooraj one day but till then shouldnt she be guilty now 😕

"Here is the contradiction. If she is in such torture and hell, why she is not leaving the house and go with her brother? She can pursue her studies and can move forward. Here she seems to be enjoying all the torture with a smiling face just to win Bhabo's heart. Or win best bahu award. "
this is a good point ... sooraj asked bhabho a few questions like why sandhya is still sticking with them ...if i were bhabho my answer would be sandhya likes to win tests at any cost so she has taken up this as her own personal challenge ,she dnt like losing ... next she is angry on her brother so she will not move on with him but at the same time has so much respect for her bobby (the very reason why she did not disclosed about her education for a long time) so she dont wanna be a disgrace to their family and her bobby by getting a divorce ,& personally it may be like a black mark on her for her future life and she could become a burden(though she will earn) for her bhai-bobby or she has to live alone which is also not a piece of cake...
so for all these selfish motives she might be still sticking with rathis ...

else i dont understand what is actually the need to win bhabho's heart 🤪

Edited by --jas-- - 13 years ago

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