Originally posted by: b2011
I don't agree with most of your views.
I agree with opposites attract, will have different views and opinions on a situation, it won't be interesting if everything is agreed upon easily, etc. but I think mental compatibility is most important. What if the couple does not agree or do not want to listen to each other or does not want to adjust for each other in a situation where one wants only a housewife and the other wants career. Hmm, true if one want to see situations from different angles, it has to be talked out first , be it in both cases,
In a situation like which Sandhya is facing, she has a big dream, she lost her parents, her brother forced her into this marraige (I don't argue why she married though hostel was a best option and I really don't like girls who have no family values...you have to achieve your goal and maintain the family relationships too), her last hope was her husband is educated and may respect her dream and support her. Exactly , she expected he will surely support her , and one cannot dismiss husband standing by u is the biggest support a gal can ever get in her life
I don't think Sandhya is looking down on Suraj or his profession and though she said he is a ninth pass halwaii, she did not tell it in insulting tone. She thinks his value towards education is less since he tore the page from the book which she gifted him to just serve jalebis. I definitely agree with Sandhya that with her high ambition to achieve and a practically very difficult goal that needs too much of hard work, time and support of family members and her understanding of the commanding nature of Bhabho and Suraj's obediency to Bhabho all have left her in a despair state of mind. Hmm, who said about Sandhya looking down on him ??? sorry i didnot notice some posts , though the points she said was right, his life starts and ends at sweetshop, so does the ones who has a working careers, its just wat the work demands which are different else all work need same dedication , happiness in working ...
I agree, she never said anything bitter about him infact she said he would make a brilliant husband, but her aim in life is different and demands more support from a hubby ji
Whether the couple have same views or not and whether the husband is educated or not, it is difficult to assume they will understand and support their wife. Here, we know Suraj is very understanding, has respect to education too and manages situations convincingly, so he will help her which Sandhya does not know yet. If one want support in life, education should not be a big deal, wats imp is whether ur supporting ur better half in every walk of life , goes for both male and female, like said before, suraj can continue his education just like sandhya does, or sandhya can help him with studies, completing and complementing each other
PS: Do not know whether I expressed my views clearly or not but I agree with Sandhya's explaination on why she thinks this marriage is incompatible and cannot work. U did good work Bharti ...
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