Commitment: A Lost Virtue

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Posted: 15 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: monar
@cookies, wonderfully explained, and I second every thought of yours

"I may just end up falling in love with Sid." suffice that people should give another chance to themselves.

Thank you for replying! Really, that is all I want too...life is all about new beginnings.

~Cookies

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prerna4rishav

@prerna4rishav

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Posted: 15 years ago

#12

In practical life, I have not seen a girl divorcing her husband if her x-lover who left her w/o telling her the reason.. And neither I have seen her going back to that person again, breaking all present / current relationship 😃

If CV's want to make DMG a hit show, it must follow the latest trend i.e. Love after marriage.. Or else, like as always, DMG can remain out of top 100👏

And to the topic maker -- How could I put tht in a better way?⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ It's a FABULOUS post and AWESOME points dear!!😳Agree to each and everything⭐️

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Fatima

@Rhimjhimsawan

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Posted: 15 years ago

#13

beautiful post. Agree with every word 😊

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Shanti

@shanti05

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Posted: 15 years ago

#14

Very nice post and as you said She might end up liking Siddhant !!

If things have to be that way it happens

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--Nargis--

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Posted: 15 years ago

#15

@Topicmaker....

Because a commitment is based not on feelings (which are fleeting, restless, and ever changing) but instead, it's an agreement, a pledge, a promise to fulfill a certain goal, to achieve a desired result, to turn a dream into a reality.

I agree with this statement...but what I fail to understand is how, where, and when did SID and Riddhima mutually decide to this agreement, this pledge, this promise? Sid was coerced by Dr. Shashank and Riddhima was emotionally blackmailed into this marriage...so for me there is no question of commitment here...as Riddhima never decided this for herself.

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@Cookies01

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Posted: 15 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: dua_44ever
All you said is understandable...just one question... Marriage is NOT based on feelings? So as long as there are commitments...The marriage works? Then you are absolutely right b/c without LOVE (and love is a feeling...not a forced feeling either), Marriage is not a marriage...it's an agreement and a contract!

Thanks for replying. I respect your POV and believe it or not, I see where you're coming from.

What brings two people together may be love but what will keep them together is their commitment to their relationship. In real life, even happily married couples fall out of love with their spouse over time. Some at that point will get a divorce--their reason is b/c they no longer love that person. Others understand they need to work to re-discover that love...which comes back to commitment. If you've made a commitment to someone, then you have to work hard and consistently to make a relationship stronger. It's easy to fall in love but very hard to stay in love and abide by it.

If love was the be all and end all, then why do so many love marriages end up in divorce? A marriage is more than just love...its trust, understanding, and commitment to the relationship. Just because someone loves roses and decides to plant some in their garden, doesn't mean roses will blossom overnight. They have to tend to the seeds, water them, and only with time and patience will roses bloom. In my humble opinion, SR have all the elements in their marriage that make love blossom.

~Cookies

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ramsha

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Posted: 15 years ago

#17

AMAZING Post!! You put it together very well!

Also to all people who are saying Riddhima has feelings for Armaan.. ofcourse she does.. she has loved him so much and perhaps still cares for him but why does she need to break her marriage?

Its not her fault she moved on and now her love is questioning her why she moved on?

Why should she break her marriage? What about the commitment and the decision she made of moving on! All will be gone only because her lover has return?!

Seriously there is no proper and valid reason why she should break her marriage with Sid.

And all who are saying that she had to fall in love with Sid since she had no choice so you will call it force love? There is a difference.. if Riddhima will fall for Sid... it will be truly from her heart.. you can't call those feelings fake which she had developed already a bit and was quite happy with them.

Marriage is not broken due to such minor reasons. The reasons given on this forum are ridiculous and childish...

Forgot that.. now people will promote Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna and extra marital affairs and divorces here..

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ramsha

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Posted: 15 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: AKANargis
@Topicmaker....

Because a commitment is based
not on feelings (which are fleeting, restless, and ever changing) but
instead, it's an agreement, a pledge, a promise to fulfill a certain
goal, to achieve a desired result, to turn a dream into a reality.

I agree with this statement...but what I fail to understand is how, where, and when did SID and Riddhima mutually decide to this agreement, this pledge, this promise? Sid was coerced by Dr. Shashank and Riddhima was emotionally blackmailed into this marriage...so for me there is no question of commitment here...as Riddhima never decided this for herself.

Riddhima was very much committed and she was almost on a verge of starting her new life fully but BANG she met Armaan.

But that should not affect her commitment and her marriage.

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prerna4rishav

@prerna4rishav

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Posted: 15 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: AKANargis
@Topicmaker....

Because a commitment is based not on feelings (which are fleeting, restless, and ever changing) but instead, it's an agreement, a pledge, a promise to fulfill a certain goal, to achieve a desired result, to turn a dream into a reality.

I agree with this statement...but what I fail to understand is how, where, and when did SID and Riddhima mutually decide to this agreement, this pledge, this promise? Sid was coerced by Dr. Shashank and Riddhima was emotionally blackmailed into this marriage...so for me there is no question of commitment here...as Riddhima never decided this for herself.

Nargis, good point, but did u see in yest's epi, Ridz actually dreamt of Sid.. That it's Sid who is wearing her the mangalsutra.. Putting aside my happiness regarding her dream, I'd say that shows that Ridz has already been a part of this commitment now.. If it's mere compromise, she can't dream Sid with mangalsutra😊 Though they have started their journey with compromise, it's not necessary it will always be constant.. Like the topic maker said, Change is inevitable😛Ridz's and Sid's feeling for each other shows and proves that😳