Adjusting to another's standards?

Hey guys

Just purely based on something a few moments ago, and thought to post the Question here.

Imagine a situation

-Girl or Boy is rich either one of them and not done a single days work in their life.🤢

-Always used a car to get everywhere

-Have luxuries in life

-But have to marry girl/Boy who is totally oppsite to them in society standard - one may be high upper class, other maybe just from normal working class.

Just say the girl for instance was the upper class one, and is a bit snobbish, by not doing a days work in he rlife, being pampered, etc

Is it fair on her if she is forced to marry someone to in her eyes dont meet her 'standards'. 😳

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I was just reading this kind of sitution, and just thought this is just stupid, in today's world, is it necessary to marry according to your status in society?

As i think it should not really matter all that much. Tbh i just thought that this girl is too much, one day in life you may not be all that rich, isnt it betetr to have a wide experience of everything as it will be harder if you come from upper class to be able to adjust in a standard that is much lower to what you are used to.

Also it is stupid not doing a single days work in your life... harder for her in married life, dont you think?

What do u guys think of this situation? Shuld some1 adjust to someone elses standards?

Sorry if its been discussed b4, feel free to trash this, 😊

Originally posted by: anon

Is it fair on her if she is forced to marry someone to in her eyes dont meet her 'standards'. 😳

Well, the only thing which really matter is mentality if anyone is compitable on that level .. life become easier..

forced marriage in any situation is not acceptable .... forget about differences which can add further complications .

Even apparently compatible match required alot of work in its initial stages (I am talking about arrange marriage) so parents need to be careful about preferences of their children .

Originally posted by: Morning_Dew

Well, the only thing which really matter is mentality if anyone is compitable on that level .. life become easier..

forced marriage in any situation is not acceptable .... forget about differences which can add further complications .

Even apparently compatible match required alot of work in its initial stages (I am talking about arrange marriage) so parents need to be careful about preferences of their children .

Reading from wht this person write, i believe, that she does not seem the type of grl that would even try..or try and adjust..or be flexible. Yeah life is easier if both are compatible n have same thinking.

and yuup true what you say.😊

Originally posted by: raj5000

Whats the problem here? 😉 😆 reason dowry or helping boy's family concept came in play. 😆 😆 that was joke.. am against dowry..not relavant to this post. 😊

Problem seems she is too snobbish IMHO😳 Not even tht the guy isnt of her social class...i hink problem is her herself, her parents are ones wanting her to marry t this guy, but as of these reasons she will nit simple as she is everything he is not, whole hing is coming down to shes rich, hes not, anyway this is just based on all wht i read.😳 and thats the main jist of it.

The basic problem is not doing any work. In the scenario you explained, but steering the topic from rich/poor etc would say " Whats the limit of adjustments or compromises in new living environment after marraige?" I would say to the extend from both parties that thier relationship is not impacted. If situation cann't be helped, no need to break the back and time to re-consider other options, with other options I means... options other then painfull adjustments not another partner 😉 😆

Thanks for your Views Anshu😊 and yeah its arranged marriage, but hole problem is girl, not willin to marry-- as of guys class in society.

Originally posted by: anon

Is it fair on her if she is forced to marry someone to in her eyes dont meet her 'standards'. 😳

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I was just reading this kind of sitution, and just thought this is just stupid, in today's world, is it necessary to marry according to your status in society?

I have heard that girls should always marry "up".😛. or at least have it in her to bring the standard of living in the marriage to what is comfortable for her and her family.

Originally posted by: lighthouse

I have heard that girls should always marry "up".😛. or at least have it in her to bring the standard of living in the marriage to what is comfortable for her and her family.

😆😆 mary "up" - ladki loo from lower status and give in higher status - Concur LH 👏

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

if she loves the guy, adjustment won't be such a big deal! if she doesn't love him, then she should marry anyway whether he is financially richer / poorer / @ same level.

😆😆 wahi toh problem hai, its a arranged marraige, am not sure if the girl is open fo ghar jaamayii 😉 kind of arrangment😆

Pardon me.. just kiddin.

Originally posted by: raj5000

😆😆 wahi toh problem hai, its a arranged marraige, am not sure if the girl is open fo ghar jaamayii 😉 kind of arrangment😆

Pardon me.. just kiddin.

oh lol