Being Single Parent - Adv or DisAdv

Today there was an article of SaReGaMaPa contestant Poonam.. She had adopted a child at the age of 20 and she is now her life and her own daughter.. Previously we have seen Sushmita Sen adopting a child.. There may be few other people who would have adopted a kid and been as a single parent..

What are your thoughts on it??

Being a single parent is advantageous or disadvantageous or will you leave it to the choice of the individual to decide if they want to be a single parent... Even if you leave the choices, who do you think can be a better single parent - a man or woman???

Lets discuss this!!!

Anu good to see you here kiddo 😛
will return back later with my answers 😛

^^ lol di, i hv been a silent reader here, but today wanted to open this topic 😳

Ok something from myside to start with:

I feel that it should be left to the choice of the individual to be a single parent or not.. Im not sure if its advantageous or not.. Yes, there will be lot of hurdles which has to be faced by the parent in bringing up the child.. And we do not know if the child will accept it or not as in many cases once the child grows up, there will be various queries raising in the tender minds of the kid and managing it and making the kid understand would be tough job..

To the answer of who can make a better single parent - I definitely think that a woman has an upper hand on this than the men.. Im not saying that a man cannot be a single parent - but its difficult at many times like taking care of the house hold..

But the main question here is - Will the child be able to accept a single parent or will the child look for both of them??

Child will not have much chioce as they donot get to choose their parents. so he/she will adopt the circumstances. Child may feel the space of missing the other person.
To be single parent by adopting is again a chioce. A kid will for sure get more attention and better life. Question will be when second parents joins, will the adopted kid same attention. if yes then perfect.

Sngle parent due to death of spouse..again is not by choice. But if the single parent can give a better life to kid and also have a good relationship should get remarried.

Single parent due to a relationship or due to broken realtionship does effect the child as the child is aware of his other parent who does not live with them.So situation does get tricky.

Good to see in DM Anu 🤗

my few random thoughts (clearly won't make sweeping statements due to sheer inexperience of parenthood, especially single parenting 😆)

Pros-
1. you can plan your work and career around the kid and his/ her necessities with relative ease since time allocation for another person (the other parent) is lacking
2. you can imbibe the values, the discipline, the virtues that you feel are essential. among two parents, there could be disconcord.
3. responsibility of an entire family (the spouse's side) is missing and could add positivity to lives of some women

Cons-
1. no one to share the responsibility (physical, emotional and financial)
2. one needs ASSURED help ( in case of an emergency especially) - a reliable circle of people is necessary
3. the child will lack a BALANCED teaching. Both Genders play ESSENTIAL role in child development. The child will be devoid of that balance and IMO it may be essential to provide the missing figure via a close friend / relative of opposite gender.
4. there is no one to share the deepest fears / sweetest dreams of this child.. parents do that together 😊 😳 ..

In a nutshell, single parenthood is not a cup of tea for all. very few can actually provide a healthy environment for child growth w/o a partner. I still insist that it may be better than having both the parents of which, one is abusive 😳 .

to answer the last of your questions, i think a woman can be a better single parent than a man. i have no logical reasoning to back it. that's just my gut feeling 😳. perhaps it arose from watching adam sandler, mel gibson, ben stiller, mehmood movies? 😆😆

Originally posted by: Anu.Rad

Today there was an article of SaReGaMaPa contestant Poonam.. She had adopted a child at the age of 20 and she is now her life and her own daughter.. Previously we have seen Sushmita Sen adopting a child.. There may be few other people who would have adopted a kid and been as a single parent..

What are your thoughts on it??

Being a single parent is advantageous or disadvantageous or will you leave it to the choice of the individual to decide if they want to be a single parent... Even if you leave the choices, who do you think can be a better single parent - a man or woman???

Lets discuss this!!!

In Poonam's case and after seeing where and how she lives , I don't think it is a major problem in raising a child single handedly. Her mother did that with Poonam and her sister and I am sure they have "extended" family type of environment in the neighborhood . In Sushmita's case again she has extended family and maids to help her raise the child. I suppose it would be very difficult for a single girl working average job in a metro city without any familial support on daily basis.

Will add my response later once reading views properly of this debate,

Don't really know if its an advantage or Disadvantage of being signle parents for people. Depends upon situation i guess. 😳 I don't really think many yoing girls would want to be single Parent- many are scared but many do become single parents especially now a days where teenages pregancies are also rising. 😳

But for now just saying i think both partners play an essential role in the upbringing of a child. 😳 Both are required.They both brought child into this world. Need the support of each other.

I would hate to feel that if i ever was a single mother and my child asks where's my daddy, what would i tell that child? Oh your daddy didn't want you in this world? or that oh i didnt want daddy? Both to me are as bad as each other. 😳

A child has the right to know who is it's Natural Mother and Father is😊- regardless whether you are Single mum /dad, adoptive Parents, Divorced and re-married a billion times, and the kid has a new daddy every month.😆. A child when old enough to make decisions for themselves should have full right.

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But wil actually answer the ACTUAL debate Q later. 😳😳

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

Pros-
1. you can plan your work and career around the kid and his/ her necessities with relative ease since time allocation for another person (the other parent) is lacking

One thing on this, some people in order to have career and work just dump their kids in day care😳 How is that a Pro for Child? 😳 Parents struggle to find time as it is 4 kids, dont they? Sorry its just a Q, to all, haha what do i know, am young,😆 just from things i have seen around me....in family/friends etc.

Originally posted by: lighthouse

In Poonam's case and after seeing where and how she lives , I don't think it is a major problem in raising a child single handedly. Her mother did that with Poonam and her sister and I am sure they have "extended" family type of environment in the neighborhood . InSushmita's case again she has extended family and maids to help her raise the child.I suppose it would be very difficult for a single girl working average job in a metro city without any familial support on daily basis.

i agree with you on this. i do agree its a tough decision for the kids to make. i am not trying to be judgmental here but it seems that poonam was already living from hand to mouth. she knew she wont be able to provide the best to the kid, still she went for this just becoz she wanted the kid to have a home. so in a way it was advantageous to the kid.

If you have money /strangth/self confidence to care the child anyone can adopt the child....

When single parent feel or think about life partners then the problem starts....😳