Then & There OR At Home? - Page 2

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

I agree absolutely! If the opportunity still arises, sometimes A, sometimes B.

There was this kid blowing candles on my nephew's birthday cake😡 😭😭
and while blowing the candles , he was also little spitting accidently 😕😕.
I wished his parents disciplined him then and there. I did not want any other kids to consume the cake after that and myself also barely gulped it down.

Don't embarrass your kid by disciplining harshly in public, but some issues should be handled then and there. Best is to make sure they never behave such in the first place. 😳

agree with you cutes....tokney mein aur daantney mein fark hota hai. the impression i got from sohn's post was that whether you spank them in the party or later. i totally agree that parents should keep a check on their kids but any disciplinary actions should be taken at home...not at the party.

Start out with A. Kids are many times manipulative too . So you need a little flavor of B 😳 . Combo of A and B on ICB IMHO 😛 . B should be in communicative manner instead of embarassing the child. Once B is used kids will know they can't cross those boundries set by parents or else they will have to deal with it when they go home too A & B both

Someone mentioned before abt discipline before hand so kids know how to behave in public or at home. There is no set rule like A or B. different situation different measures 😃

@ QT great answer.

With the cake situation, obviously, I dont think you should stand by the kid watching him spit or touching it. Using a stern hand in public is not wrong, as long as there are limits to how much you are embarrasing yourself and the kid. How about taking the kid away from the cake and keeping him away too? Rather than letting your kids run lose and wreck social havoc, you should be aware of the behaviour the kids are taking with others around them.

Dabulls, am laughing at your A & B, both approach 😆 😆 😆

Originally posted by: sohn

Where would you prefer to discipline your kid when s/he misbehaves in public? By public, I mean in front of your friends n family, or acquaintances or the kid's friends..could be anyone.

I've witnessed situations where, the kid has displayed extreme misbehaviour in public...and I've met 2 sets of parents handling the same situation.

A) These parents just give their kids a stern warning and then later when they reach home, they deal with them for having behaved so badly or said something unacceptable in public...or anything in that series. Their logic is..you shouldn't open fire on your kid in public, you can always explain things or scold them or whack them inside the four walls. This spares the kids the embarassment or the insecurity they might feel in public.... but will still teach them the necessary lesson that such behaviour wont be tolerated again.

B) These parents just deal with their kids then and there...leading to embarassment of the kid in front of everyone, at times even humiliation. These parents believe that by doing so, this lesson is comparable to a military lesson. Kids remember this lesson well and understand the fact that if they repeat it, even their parents wont cover up their mistakes or stand by them no matter where they are at that moment. Misbehaviour is unacceptable and will not be tolerated at any cost anywhere.

I've my own sets of thoughts regarding both these approaches...but which one do you feel is better? A or B?

option A) ..ideally would vote for balance between the two, but choosing one for the sake of debate.

Guess what, I once told my Mom out load, in a party "Why are piching me let me eat, I like biscuits" lolss after getting home no surprise what happened😆😆

🤣 Omg Anshu, lolssssssssssss cant stop laughing,

My mum does mostly Option A, ever since i was a kid.

She would also either pinch me really hard. 😭 or give me such a evil look which always means i'll deal with u later, 😳 i used to get scared so bad. Or she just half shouts in my ear, lolsssss, well im a good baachi now, 😆

But ideally if its misbehaving then also do it there and then. Like if you are at someone's house or something then its rude and embarrasing 😳 if your child is misbehaving so ideally both, depending on where you are and who you are with.

But Option A mostly, worked on me, lols 😉

Originally posted by: tisha_g

@QT's experience.- I feel for you.I have seen parents let their kids get away with murder in public saying "baccha hai , shaitani to karega"😡

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🤣 @ RAJ - and pinching story
😆 @ Tisha's biscuit story.. aww u guys so sweet!

I was a rather too well-behaved kid :( got no fun stuff to share :(
I never took other children's toys and never complained sharing any of mine except my Lucy (walking doll) . I used to hide her when other kids came😳.

this topic name is misleading 😛!!

then and there or at home ....what ???

So this topic is about Public display of Discipline....

coming back to the topic:

At home is the best option... then and there is not a feasible option,even if done it will be not effective!😛

So kids should be discplined at home!

oh i have met both sets of parents but i have one question from you guys, what if the kids repeats the same mistake again and again no matter how hard he has been whacked or scolded in public, having seen both types of parents myself, i can say it depends on situations. but i feel for those parents whose kids are out of control. some of the people i know have some cool tactics to deal with kids and it works, where as i have other friends who always get away by saying baccha hai 😡 aye nazneen baccha hai to kya hua sub ki band bajayage? 😡

@ tisha - dont mention those type of parents, i have seen that type of parents and sometimes i feel to smack those parents who go "alle mela bacha", give me a break, for such kids, when those parents are not looking around, i tend to snatch their things away 😡 so that they can learn. your daughter is invited for the birthday party by the way 😳

i have my own ways of dealing with these kids 😡

@ raj - 🤣 🤣 🤣 too funny i laughed so hard on your biscuits 😆

@ qt - i am learning from you guys, when i have a birthday party, i will have mask tape for those kids on their mouth before letting them come near the cake 😡 😡 😡 ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, woh kahawat suna hai na laaton ke bhoot baton se nahi maante you should start madoing their hands when they try to even poke into cake 🤢 🤢 🤢

one of the kids dislikes me for doing something cool on her to discipline, like i care about it 😆 😆 😆

children should be disciplined at home. disciplining them in front of others embarrassed them as well as the parent. i remember, when i was little, my parents used to tell me what to and not to do and how to behave before we were going somewhere imp. or to a party or something of that sort. its really helpful when a child knows what is expected of him/her in advance so they have guidelines to follow.