Return Gifts - Page 6

Originally posted by: raksha.l

🤗 oh yeah? So now 4 states fulto over Puran polis...

Awwwwwww Rakshu 🤗 Although Gujju Puran Polis are made with Toor Daal and not Chana daal like maharashtrians make. But they are equally great. 😃

My daughter's interpretation of return gifts:

" they are smaller gifts given to the people who get you the bigger gifts so that they dont get angry and take back the bigger gift!"

Originally posted by: simtara

🤣 Ladies, you need to be introduced to a more "civilized" group of people to celebrate with 😉

Kiddy parties in our circle of friends (I in/conveniently fall between the married couples with kids and the kids themselves ... such is that fancy numerical thing others refer to as age 😉) ... where was I?
Ah right! Kiddy parties have a decided segregation in our circle... the kids have their fun first with food, music, games and more food. Then they meander off to the closest game/toy room and proceed to either play or watch a movie. The occasional rebel makes his/her way back for more cake and food 😉 😆
The adults then proceed with their music and games (we're more kiddish than the kids with our games of Charades, Pictionary and Taboo...oh the tantrums 😆)

👍🏼These are my kind of parties and most of my friends arrange theirs this way....including me. Levae alone B'day parties....we have some activity for kids even when some of us friends are having a casual get together .....and games for elders too like you mentioned above...and Jenga...love that one too....and not to forget our all time fav antakshari😆 Whenever I have kids over to my place...be it for a BD party or Diwali get together or it's just a plain old visit with their parents, I always give them something special when they are leaving. It does not have to be anything expensive...a well thought out gift does the trick all the time and I love the way their eyes light up when they recieve it. Like you said Simi....kaun sa her roz log ghar aatey hain....and when someone does visit, I appreciate the time they took out for us😳

Equal share of time... kids have their fun throughout (they find the initial party-games to be more of a torture than anything else 😆) and the adults enjoy themselves as well).

Your posts make me think we should start giving out return gifts to the big bachchas as well... hmm 😃 Shall bring that up to mum next time.

Rakshaji ... you are quite right... the smallest of tokens brings a smile to my face. I see it as a show of intimacy... and considering our circle of friends is so close to each other, it's really not a judgement on their social status or anything.

Wow Simi......GMTA....once again😆

Thanks for the 😊 Raj.. it put a 😊 on my face.

If we're speaking strictly in the context of children's parties... consider the fact that activities Gauridi and I suggested not only provide a fun-filled time for the children, but also neatly take care of the return-gift. A simple thank you card as they head off, or even in the mail brings another smile to their faces.

and these activities keep adults busy too because you definitely need the help of your friends to ensure kids are having a fun time😃

If we go into weddings, baby-showers, etc... well I reiterate; in today's "busy" world, it does take some effort to arrange to attend such a social event. And again, I consider return gifts at such events a momento to remember the happy occassion by... a little souvenier.

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Consider this... even the offerings from a Groom to his saalis at the end of a wedding can be considered a return gift. Ergo, the practice is evident within our culture, though typically not at a scale where each guest is gifted something (and yet most manage to take something with them 😉).

how about the laddoos that my dadi's dadi also used to hand out after the ladies sangeet...or keertan done on my dad's birthday...same concept there as well😊

Hi Gauridi! 🤗

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

Raj... as to why we expect a return gift ... in part because it has become an ingrained and accepted custom. In part because it is a part of tradition, though the actual gifts have evolved from the chaandi ka sikka and ladoos to well, anything really.

And in part because you typically go to parties where you know the hosts well and the understanding within the group exists that a little something will be exchanged for the time you spent with each other. The adults too get return gifts in the form of left-over food from these parties, at least with our group. I'm more than sure many of you also participate in the scramble for ziplock dabbas and their matching dhakkans 😆 Might I suggest going to BJs, Sam's or some other such store and stocking up on those styrofoam/plastic dabbas restaurants use for doggy bags. No scrambling for your own precious ziplocks and gladwares and no one forgets to return said dabbas 😆 Also gallon sized ziplock bags 😃

Originally posted by: TallyHo

My daughter's interpretation of return gifts:

" they are smaller gifts given to the people who get you the bigger gifts so that they dont get angry and take back the bigger gift!"

🤣 Innocense is the best thing ever! That is such an adorable and straight from the heart answer. A 🤗 for your daughter for puting a smile on my face this early in the morning 😊

Originally posted by: raksha.l

Oh really, that makes it one new thing that I learnt today 😃

It is called Boli in Kerala. I am not sure which dal is used but it is yellow in color and last part of the dessert which is eaten with white payasam/payash/kheer. Imagine our wedding with 7 diff types of kheers and then Boli. One would immediately get Diabetes😆 .

Originally posted by: TallyHo

My daughter's interpretation of return gifts:

" they are smaller gifts given to the people who get you the bigger gifts so that they dont get angry and take back the bigger gift!"

Oh your daughter had put it so cutely & sweetly. Give a big hug & kiss to her from my side as this make perfect sense from kids point of view. This is the best thing I have read so far in this whole post

Thanks Simtara and daisy...

will defintely givew her 2 extra hugs today! 😊

Originally posted by: TallyHo

Thanks Simtara and daisy...

will defintely givew her 2 extra hugs today! 😊

Can you make it three, please with some extra cozyness 😳 ... really such an innocent and loving thought....

Originally posted by: raj5000

Can you make it three, please with some extra cozyness 😳 ... really such an innocent and loving thought....

ok anshu...3 it is!!😃