How to deal with Death? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Swar_Raj

In India we do depend on Son and are more attached to him as he carries the family name. In US there is no such thing. You raise them to a certain time and then they are on their own. There is no expectation. They move on quicker with time. I guess , they are more practical and we are more emotional.

Very well put in words. To add with, they are mostly self-sufficient and independent. So, for them life goes/has to go on along with the loss.

Not just son, we find it very hard to live without our dear ones.

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

I associate dramatic with fake... so tend to disagree its drama.. its hysteria possibly but not drama. Also remember nevertheless people who dont feel cant create a drama...😊

Well said both QT and Qwerty..!!!! (it Rhymes..!!!)😛

I remember seeing the movie Rudaali starring Dimple Kapadia - where her role was of professional mourner... Talk about drama..!!!!!

Not to minimise the lose caused by death, sometimes Indians can dramatize any event much more then what it is. Keta has taken it to a new level.!!!

In olden times Kings and the rich had women who used to come and cry at funerals. I remember when I was small there was an old lady who used to sweep roads and my mom told me that the lady was a crier (rudaali). I think we got that custom from Europe.

Many people objected to when Sonia and Priyanka Gandhi stood firm near Rajiv Gandhi's pyre. I personally consider wailing dramatic. One doesn't always need to howl to express the loss.

Originally posted by: lighthouse

Well said both QT and Qwerty..!!!! (it Rhymes..!!!)😛

I remember seeing the movie Rudaali starring Dimple Kapadia - where her role was of professional mourner... Talk about drama..!!!!!

We never talked about staged mourning we were just trying to understand the psyche of a mourner based on their race..but even if it is staged its still a part of the culture... like some weddings in india have guys going around collecting the gifts without waiting for them to be given to the couple...so some minor differences in culture are possible..

Not to minimise the lose caused by death, sometimes Indians can dramatize any event much more then what it is. Keta has taken it to a new level.!!!

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

Originally posted by: Swar_Raj

I remember one of my co-worker also lost her husband and she was about 56 yrs. But After couple of months, she was already seeing a guy 😆and I asked her if she missed her ex husband. She said well I need to live beyond my grief. SO I guess , they are more practical and we are more emotional.

Originally posted by: Believe

Someone wish like this :when i die,i wana die like my grandpa who died peacefully in his sleep not screaming like all the passengers in the car he was driving.. 😊

I wanna die like while para-trouping ... or something really wild..... it gives you a peek into that small moment bet' life and death.. an experience you can never get otherwise... and damn it, not believing in God makes it that much more harder since there is no hope in those small moments.....😊