Old and Dutiful!!!! - Page 2

Originally posted by: kisnakiradha

woah! thats just....shocking!!🤢😡

stupid kids....thankfully there are only a few kids like that....just like there are only a few parents who get rid of their kids....

It seems some insurance agent logged on to DM!!!!😆

Mythili, there are lot of things related to this. Depends upon each family, but some things in general are-

1. Parents want their kids to go abroad and settle there. Some of them have worked so hard that they know with the education they have it is not easy for them to find job in city they live.

2. In india recently lot of people have started moving to different parts of country. Gone are those days when three generation live in same city, in same house. So some have kids moved to different city, some to different state and some to different country. Let's talk about all of them.

3. I have seen some parents don't want to move to different country or state with their kids. Now that children are settled in different country and then due to parents are expected to leave all that come back home, but not find appropriate compatible job. Do you think it make sense at all? I don't think parents would agree to that either. With more members in family and not finding good enough job in the city where parents have to live does not make sense. Basically, people move for job security and stability It does make sense to live where you find all this with your family. Why only parents, sometime spouse or kids do not want to move, but due to job you have to move. I have a uncle who moved with his teenage kids from New York to Arizona and kids and my aunt just hated there. For months they used to nag and how they don't like Arizona, but my uncle had good opportunity there so he said this is the option you guys have.

4. I don't think children settled in different country do not want their parents to live with them. I have some friends whose parents have moved to US permanently with them as they want to live with their kids. I also have friends whose parents do not want to come to the country as they don't like it and thats why choose to live in India. They also don't expect their kids to come back for them, as I know no parents want their children to let go their career and settled life for them.

5. So basically, till parents are active and earning they can live wherever they want. Once they retire some might need financial and/or physical help. Then they can always live with their children. I don't see anything wrong in this. If there is visa problem and parents cannot come to other country arrangement should be made then as children should live with parents or send money whatever that each family agrees too.

Originally posted by: sareg

In the old Hindi movies there used to be this plot where brothers get seperated during the Kumbhmela

During the last Kumbhmela a couple years ago, there were a bunch of old couples stranded, whom their children had brought in to get the holy dip and convieniently forgotten to take them along on their trip back.

It was such a sad sight to see these old couples, with no money and place to stay in such a state.The local administration spent over 6-8 months getting the parents back to their respective homes

I guess the moral of the story: It is time for parents to first secure their retirement before they secure their childrens future 😉

OMG!!!! This is really horrible!!!!

Originally posted by: sowmyaa

Mythili, there are lot of things related to this. Depends upon each family, but some things in general are-

1. Parents want their kids to go abroad and settle there. Some of them have worked so hard that they know with the education they have it is not easy for them to find job in city they live.

2. In india recently lot of people have started moving to different parts of country. Gone are those days when three generation live in same city, in same house. So some have kids moved to different city, some to different state and some to different country. Let's talk about all of them.

3. I have seen some parents don't want to move to different country or state with their kids. Now that children are settled in different country and then due to parents are expected to leave all that come back home, but not find appropriate compatible job. Do you think it make sense at all? I don't think parents would agree to that either. With more members in family and not finding good enough job in the city where parents have to live does not make sense. Basically, people move for job security and stability It does make sense to live where you find all this with your family. Why only parents, sometime spouse or kids do not want to move, but due to job you have to move. I have a uncle who moved with his teenage kids from New York to Arizona and kids and my aunt just hated there. For months they used to nag and how they don't like Arizona, but my uncle had good opportunity there so he said this is the option you guys have.

4. I don't think children settled in different country do not want their parents to live with them. I have some friends whose parents have moved to US permanently with them as they want to live with their kids. I also have friends whose parents do not want to come to the country as they don't like it and thats why choose to live in India. They also don't expect their kids to come back for them, as I know no parents want their children to let go their career and settled life for them.

5. So basically, till parents are active and earning they can live wherever they want. Once they retire some might need financial and/or physical help. Then they can always live with their children. I don't see anything wrong in this. If there is visa problem and parents cannot come to other country arrangement should be made then as children should live with parents or send money whatever that each family agrees too.

Full Marks for my question.Additional marks for numbering and top grade for Sweet reply.

Wonderfully analysed but still somehow feel bad for parents!!!! Given a chance I too will go to foreign country 😃 something like UK as of now I feel parents need to be taken good care at old age!!!Hope I did'nt offend you or anyone by this emotional post!!!

Cheers,

Mythili

I can see Mythili, what you are trying to mean. It is a fact that people do live in an old age home, away from their children(living in India or abroad). But that does not happen with everyone or everyone treats their parents like that. Once I got a chance to visit an old age home few years ago. You know the saddest part, there was not a single person I met or heard whose child/children were NRIs, all were locals or from out-skirts.

Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran

Full Marks for my question.Additional marks for numbering and top grade for Sweet reply.

Wonderfully analysed but still somehow feel bad for parents!!!! Given a chance I too will go to foreign country 😃 something like UK as of now I feel parents need to be taken good care at old age!!!Hope I did'nt offend you or anyone by this emotional post!!!

Cheers,

Mythili

Thanks for full and extra marks Mythili 😳

No you have not offended anyone or hurt anyone. We are just discussing or debating on what we feel 😊 I understand it's hard to see parents be alone in old age. However, what I mean is it's not always about children living abroad and parents are left out.

Originally posted by: abhijit shukla

People forget that its their turn next!

A Gujarati poem says:

as peeple-tree's (old) leaves fall, the new buds are laughing (at their fall).
(The old leaves say): what we went through, you will too...just wait!

Need much more explanation please!!!!!