is being sentimental a crime?

Got this interesting note:

This is amazing, Randy Pausch 47 yrs old, A computer Sc. lecturer from Mellon University he died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book The last lecture" before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind...

In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow.

May you be blessed by his insight.





POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE


Personality:
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Community:
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

Being sentimental is not a crime.

However, there are people who externalize and express feelings; there are also people who internalize and mull on feelings. Someone who internalizes is not always comfortable with people externalizing; people need to understand that and not take it as being cruel or coldhearted. Also there are social norms and boundaries about sentiments. Personal sentiments are often reserved for close friends and family. Being expressive about these sentiments to acquaintances or coworkers or not so close friends is committing a major social faux pas. Sometimes people shut you down because they don't feel close enough to share sentiments.

I think lovers are sentimental and are often overcome with melancholia. They are too emo and seek perfection. But often disappointed they may have suicidal tendencies.

They find most people are too worldly and do the value friendship, love and goodness.

So we are advised to be practical and not swing in any extreme emotion of love and hate. We should value each relationship according to their practical worth.

Have a few good friends, we can't be having too many "good" friends in all practicality.