What makes LOVE unconditional? - Page 7

Originally posted by: farheen75

Arti why didn't u accept Khushi's love then? It was unconditional as she didn't hold any grudge against Arnav for the ill treatment he meted out to her... Sweety people who live all their together with each other do it bcz they both fulfill all the pre requisites which r required to live a happy and content life... If u r in a relationship don't u want your better half to be faithful to u otherwise u will leave him so u r putting a condition for him to fulfill in order to be in that relationship with u... Yaar love without conditions is a very dangerous scenario... But the conditions have to be genuine and realistic.

Originally posted by: --arti--

I mean to say that the concept of the "one true love" is far fetched. One can be hopeful, optimistic and romantic about the world. You can go on enjoying the present and living in the moment without necessarily always searching. Applies whether one is single or not.

I do think it's possible to have feelings for multiple people. It's true that we are conditioned to share that kind of relationship with just one person, but there are people who practice polyamoury in different forms. Some people have a primary long term relationship with someone but mutually agree to leave the door open for other sexual/romantic partners. It's amazing how liberating it feels to let go of jealousy/possessiveness and just be with someone because you want to spend time with them, which doesn't foreclose the possibilities you might explore with others.

Originally posted by: boreddamsel

Are you admitting that when you fall in love, you will fall for sex, money, fame or beauty?

You shouldn't expect to get unconditional love if you can't give it!

Originally posted by: -IHATEYOU-

I have never fallen in love so I don't have any idea what makes you fall for a person.
I always wanted to believe that love is the purest feeling and an unconditional feeling.
But as I grew older I started to notice that no love except a mother's love is unconditional.
Every man wants a beautiful woman.Will a rich,handsome and famous man ever fall for an ugly and poor woman.
Yes there are some people who loves unconditionally.But the number of such people is very less.

Originally posted by: moomin4455

Farheen, my gut feeling is that people live together for the rest of their lives because they are compatible, comfortable and have shown each other that they will not break the conditions on which their love is based...

Originally posted by: boreddamsel

Ok, this discussion has been really interesting.

Here are some thoughts.

I agree, you fall in love based on whether someone meets your conditions or not and then you hope that in the course of time, he still continues to meet those conditions. What we don't expect is for conditions to evolve, sometimes our conditions change since our priorities and circumstances change and yet people don't change? For love to withstand those changes in conditions, you have to work with your spouse .. it's a 50/50 partnership and the couple needs to understand that. Now if they do and if love survives all odds, then that my friends is what I think is unconditional love.

I simply love these lines from the song Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol.

If I lay here, if I just lay here,

Would you lay with me and just forget the world?

Originally posted by: farheen75

Arti in every relationship conditions evolve as life evolves and the person in the said relationship evolves as well... Priorities change as the person grow older and take on different roles in life, some old conditions can be replaced with new ones but as long as they remain realistic its a smooth sailing.