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Posted: 19 years ago
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same here!!! i really dont care about it....
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Posted: 19 years ago
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i agree, i mean, before yr marriage u may wish u marry some1 who is light-coloured but u might regret it l8r coz the light coloured person may not be as nice as they look...so u should care about wot their like not their colour or face 😳
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Its doesnt matter. Cuz as long as u have a gud heart n datz all it matters. 😊
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Originally posted by: mkzara

do u people believe skin color matters like is it better to be light-skinned in order to be beautiful. i remembered this cause i was watching saat phere like i know in our culture it definitely is better to be light skinned by what about u guys. i mean i dont believe it matters because i know so many gorgeous people inside and out who are dark skinned. for me i dont believe beauty is with skin color it has to do with something more and i am not talking of inner beauty because that's completely different. some of my friends are extremely hot and they are mostly dark skinned. let me know what u guys think.

Nice topic 👏

I would treat this questions from two perspectives: personal and general. And also, primarily from the Indian society point of view.

Personally, it is politically correct to say that skin coulour does not matter. However, when it really comes to that, do we really practice it? I have seen very few people do that. When I was young, it mattered. Mainly because from my childhood, I had associated fair skin with beauty and attractiveness. Hence for me, being fair meant beautiful. I grew up with an elephant size complex because I was dark. Right after being complimented on being beautiful, even befoe I could feel the elation, pat would come the second line - if only she was a litttle fair....🤢 !!! One of my relatives regularly told me to apply malai and haldi to become fair or else I would not find a groom...🤢🤢🤢...that I found one without morphing into a fair maiden must still be a great mystery to her !!!😆😆

It was only I grew up that I began to see beyong the colour and realized it was truly skin deep. Now it does not matter because I have learnt it the hard way and have come across some beatiful people who are dark. So many of the fair skinned would not even hold a candle to them in terms of true beauty.....

Yet sadly, I have seen so many of them shunned because they are dark and don't look 'beautiful' !!! My brother in law is dark and inspite of being a very confident and a successful person, he hates being photographed.....the reason is obvious. If it bothers the males, imagine what is the plight of the females !!! One of my close friend is very dark. Her only condition of marriage - it would have to be some one fair because she wanted fair kids who wud not be dark as her. So her extremely rich father found a middle class groom for her- needless to say that the guy was given so much dowry that his whole family chose to see beyong the skin colour. She has been lucky, not only she has lovely kids who happen to be fair, she also has a good husband.

I suppose the obsession with the fair skin is due to the 300 years of serfdom that the continent suffered where beauty and elegance came to associated with the advent of the conquerers who were fair. I truly think that had our conquerers been the natives from an African continent, our concept of beauty would have centred around black skin.

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Posted: 19 years ago
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Originally posted by: Minnie

Nice topic 👏

I would treat this questions from two perspectives: personal and general. And also, primarily from the Indian society point of view.

Personally, it is politically correct to say that skin coulour does not matter. However, when it really comes to that, do we really practice it? I have seen very few people do that. When I was young, it mattered. Mainly because from my childhood, I had associated fair skin with beauty and attractiveness. Hence for me, being fair meant beautiful. I grew up with an elephant size complex because I was dark. Right after being complimented on being beautiful, even befoe I could feel the elation, pat would come the second line - if only she was a litttle fair....🤢 !!! One of my relatives regularly told me to apply malai and haldi to become fair or else I would not find a groom...🤢🤢🤢...that I found one without morphing into a fair maiden must still be a great mystery to her !!!😆😆

It was only I grew up that I began to see beyong the colour and realized it was truly skin deep. Now it does not matter because I have learnt it the hard way and have come across some beatiful people who are dark. So many of the fair skinned would not even hold a candle to them in terms of true beauty.....

Yet sadly, I have seen so many of them shunned because they are dark and don't look 'beautiful' !!! My brother in law is dark and inspite of being a very confident and a successful person, he hates being photographed.....the reason is obvious. If it bothers the males, imagine what is the plight of the females !!! One of my close friend is very dark. Her only condition of marriage - it would have to be some one fair because she wanted fair kids who wud not be dark as her. So her extremely rich father found a middle class groom for her- needless to say that the guy was given so much dowry that his whole family chose to see beyong the skin colour. She has been lucky, not only she has lovely kids who happen to be fair, she also has a good husband.

I suppose the obsession with the fair skin is due to the 300 years of serfdom that the continent suffered where beauty and elegance came to associated with the advent of the conquerers who were fair. I truly think that had our conquerers been the natives from an African continent, our concept of beauty would have centred around black skin.

I agree with that totally. It is all the work of different concepts that have influenced our continent for centuries.

Beauty is not restricted to one size, color or shape.

Beauty is a diversity of looks and combinations , and even so called "flaws" make us more beautiful.

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Posted: 19 years ago
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U guys r totally right. i constantly feel that we have had our independence from the british crown for almost 60 years and yet we r still in awe of them and their beauty and their personalities and everything. the british left but that doesn't mean that we are done being serfs cause even now we r under their rule because of the belief that we r less than them cause we happen to be darker. there is still this feeling of inferiority in the subcontinent and most of it stems from the fact that we see the british as better than us due to generation of serfdom and since they were light skinned that obviously started to be associated with superiority. i just feel maybe its time that we accept we r not as light skinned as the british and for some people instead of using fair and lovely get over it.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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well i tink it depends from person 2 person.. like that saying "beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder" .. but then again most indian people prefer fair skinned people. a result of british influence. for example my sister is very fair... and im not as fair as she is. i often get reminded of that.. as our indian community prefers fair people. everyone understands how ur parents friends critize u. but it doesnt really bother me anymore cuz i believe beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder 😛


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