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I cannot understand how Ahuja and Ramakrishnan are being equated and it is being argued that both should apologise.
From day 1, this has been about class. Suhasini and her husband cannot digest the fact that their IAS son has fallen for a Bharatanatyam dancer's daughter.
Initially I found Ramakrishnan overbearing and OTT -- and didn't like the dance angle at all.
But appa has since grown on me. He is a very simple guy who worships his art and who has loads of self-respect.
Despite this, he swallowed his pride and approached the Sinhas for the sake of his daughter. At the Sinha house, he faced nothing but insult.
He was told he had his eye on the main chance and virtually thrown out.
And then they frisked him -- which is horribly wrong. I know something about how bureaucrats function and they do not have frisking at their residences. I have been to the houses of many civil servants and have never been frisked.
Even assuming Mr. Sinha was v.v senior, and therefore needed to have his visitors vetted,, there was no need for him to subject his extended family to frisking. (he seems to be in the Delhi bureaucracy which is really not such a VVIP job)
Had the security staff been told that Ramakrishnan was family, they would not have frisked him. All the explanation about it being unavoidable is pure hog wash. The Sinha House is not PMO or the airport or even a ministerial residence.
I doubt that Ahuja was frisked. So the insult was deliberate. What is surprising is that none of the Sinha lads intervened to stop it.
Ramakrishnan consoled himself and went along. And then began anther round of insults. He didn't carry a gift even though he wanted to. He stood red-faced as other people carried gifts. Adarsh could have easily helped him there.
The ultimate insult was to make him dance and ridicule his art. Nobody who loves his art can stand for it being made fun of. Ahuja was crude and offensive and should have been instantly reprimanded. Instead he carried on heckling Ramakrishnan who being both impulsive and proud gave it back to him.
Had I been in Ramakrishnan's place, I'm sure I'd have done the same. And had I been in Swadheenta's place I'd done exactly what she did. I don't know why she is being called immature and stupid.
As the daughter of a proud man who has no valuable material possessions but has lived all his life only for his art, I would any day place my dad and his hurt pride about my love for a man -- who doesn't even have the decency to see the difference between my simple-minded father and his goonish, boorish relative.
It hurt me so much to see Appa tearfully accept that he doesn't fit in with the Sinhas and would rather go home.He had the grace not to insist the marriage should be cancelled.
So there is no equality here -- neither in terms of class nor in terms of the offence committed.
If I were Swa, I would just walk out and never turn back -- to hell with oh-so-cute romantic pairings.
Disclaimer: I'm a Tamil and understand how art is treated in TN. So may be that is why I feel this way
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