Middle age crisis - Page 2

I am probably going to be in the minority group, but both husband and wife are at fault. I know Kaumudi is very sweet and cares for the family, but is neglecting her husband. Mukut on the other hand should demand time from her. Additionally in this family, Umaben is an additional deterrent to the couple. Mukut also has a past that we don't know of...what did UB bring him back from? Is Mayuri the other woman from prior to marriage or did she come later?
Both Mukut and Kaumudi are victims.
This is a reality in joint families as well as single unit families, and it's not just men who engage in EMAs.
I want to see how this plays out in Chhanchhan.

Originally posted by: MadhuO

I am probably going to be in the minority group, but both husband and wife are at fault. I know Kaumudi is very sweet and cares for the family, but is neglecting her husband. Mukut on the other hand should demand time form her. Additionally in this family, Umaben is an additional deterrent to the couple. Mukut also has a past that we don't know of...what did UB bring him back from? Is Mayuri the other woman from prior to marriage or did she come later?
Both Mukut and Kaumudi are victims.
This is a reality in joint families as well as single unit families, and it's not just men who engage in EMAs.
I want to see how this plays out in Chhanchhan.

Husband fault , why he have 2 kids with her when she is not his type

Originally posted by: samirao

Husband fault , why he have 2 kids with her when she is not his type

To fulfill the requirements of "marriage"...per Umaben's family dictionary...children are required.
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I think there are faults from both sides...in a marriage there is lot's of give and take and as responsibilities increase the need to change and support one another becomes important. Here both have not tried to understand each other and they just fulfilled the duties that society or their family expected from them. They both failed at communicating with each other and empathy. Of course, UB is a factor but if the husband and wife work on it they could have found time for each other despite their busy schedules and chores.

Fault cannot be of just one person.

Nice post and some very good thoughts as well.

Both at fault.
Two people involved in a relationship and both have to participate to make it work.
UB at fault as well...she chose a "Bahu" for the family and not a "Wife" for her son. What will be her take on this disclosure to the family?
I am thinking she is aware and is of the thought "Men will be Men" and as long as he does nothing to disrupt the family all is under the covers.

This is an age old issue...stinks...like it or not...and is not going to go away no matter how "modern" you are. Sometimes it's a fling and sometimes it lasts for a long time.
It happens in the best of relationships and families.

While the majority of the blame lies with Mukut I think everyone involved has a part to play. Yes UB is at fault for being overbearing and thinking about the type of DIL that would suit her home but not the kind of wife her son needed but then that's how she's grown up. Her marriage and those of all her family probably happened in the same way and she found a girl who would do as she was told and never cause any problems whether for the household or her husband. Kaumudi is the least at fault but as a woman she should also be attuned to her relationship with her husband as it is the most critical one in her life and the reason why she's in the BS household. The problem is she's too nice and can't say no to anyone... I hope the first thing CC helps her to do is to say no to Ranjana and make her do her own work so that she has more spare time.

I don't think we can put the whole blame on just one person!! The situation is more complex than that!! All are responsible not just one person!! I would say first Umaben, then the husband and then Kaumudi plus living in a joint family is another issue!! !! Yes, it doesn't give the husband the right to do what he wants but that blame can also go the Umaben of getting a traditional girl for her son without knowing what kind of life partner her son wanted!! And the husband is a wimp for not speaking up which is his right to do since it's about his life!! Although, Kaumudi is more innocent in the scenerio because she is only doing what she knows and plus Umaben has been very strict with her bahus that also has a huge effect!! Anyways, I hope they introduce marriage counseling or something like that !! It would be more realistic!! Heck, I think the whole family needs a huge intervention!! 😆 That is something new in Indian television!! I would like to see that!! 👍🏼

i think its mukut's fault because no matter how the situations are he has no right to cheat his wife just reverse the situation if kaumadi has an affair saying that her husband does not give him time no one will accept it so why are we so open about mukuts affair... children and family belongs to both of them if kaumadi is busy in children's upbringing and family's welfare they not "her's " they belong to both of them and as far as ub is concerned yes she keeps her busy and dominates her but its mukut's responsibility to stand up for her to tell ub that she is his wife too not just a daughter in law of this house...