NOPES LOONS! MerDer are not defeated because they feel pain for not being together...you know why? Because MerDer are each other's hopeee...while Ashi-Yuvi had their friends, Sonia to give them faith loons! Ashi and Meredith are totally different...Ashi was healed because of Sonia...Meredith got healed in season 4...and you see now?? See them now loons...see MerDer nowww...See how amazing Mer was in 7x22...
loons Ashi-Yuvi does not defeat MerDer or vice versa...their love story is different...they are humans are different and so you can't compare who they are and how they behave...but still, their essence is SAME loons...I see my vision of Love in MerDer...the vision I got from AY...and if AY were to defeat MerDer loons...than we never understood AY because frankly, I LOVE MERDER AND I BELIEVE IN THEM!! But I think we understand AY...because what AY gave us is just magical and I believe in them too!!
Loons if Meredith's mom had not told her that you are just ordinary in 3x14...there wouldn't have been season 4 and MerDer would have been happy! And you know in 3x04...Derek walks out? If Mer had chosen Finn, he would have been happy...VERY VERY VERY happy for her...and isn't that what we got from Ashi-Yuvi too??
MerDer are beautiful and so are Ashi-Yuvi...they both compliment each other loons...they both makes me love the other couple moreee because of love...and so they don't defeat each other!