@Mash....you know from experience? Thank God, I have never faced such situations. The extreme case that happened with me was some cousin of my mom's bringing a rishta of a guy who was 8 years older than me and telling my dad that I have grown up and should thus be married off. And my dad 'insulted' his beliefs nicely, and informed him that his daughters will study, become independent and then will marry when they choose to😃. Compared to what happened with my cousin....my only 'extreme' encounter seems chindi.
I don't want to discuss it much here but my father passed away when I was 12...my sister, Api, was 16 at that time....ppl forced my mother to get my sister married at that time as there was a rishta available too....but my mother, our ultimate STRENGTH, refused because my sister wanted to be a doctor and it was my father's wish too. She became a doctor, got married at the age of 25 and now MashaAllah se she has a daughter too. I think I will always love and admire my mother for the decisions she has taken for us, for the liberties and choices she has provided to us...it's not easy to be a single parent, female parent, in a society like ours with four daughters and take such decisions. I look at my mother and I know I'm blessed.