Originally posted by: vishmewell
@ red - We cannot put Aalekh and Ragini on the same platform. Neither their gunah nor relationship are the same.
In Sagini relationship, Ragini was always on the receiving end. But with Aalekh, he was also like a strength of mountain to Sadhana. Nobody dared to say anything to Sadhaan. Lately, he has been bad, but put his mom in her place about the divorce... he handled it very well... he protected her from the mystery guy, yelled at security people, yelled at his manager, yelled at even Mallika... saare zameen aasmaan ek kardiya. He even almost got hit by a truck trying to catch the guy. Never gave up on her.
Sadhana ne tho hadd hi kardi... can she not see how much he loves her??? She signed divorce papers for her mamiji after losing to Ragini on purpose knowing there are no other options other than divorce?
Sadhana did not treat Aalekh right in this respect. Sadhana is 100% wrong. SHE HAS TO REDEEM HERSELF. And that is not easy.
@ blue - yes. Aalekh should move out of the house and live with Sadhana separately. Vasu Sadhana ke saamne gidgidaaye betekeliye.
This may be your personal POV ... and it doesnt have to be a FACT to say directly that Sadhna is 100% wrong. You may feel what Sadhna is wrong ... but cannot measure it like this... it can offend some people and their feelings aswell!
While everyone is entitled to their views ... its also noticable that if for one argument Sadhna is claimed to be wrong ... there are a million other arguments which can definately and much more strongly say that ALEKH did a Crime Against Sadhna (to which Mamaji would agree too ... lolz ... and so will RANVIR or RAGINI now)!
The Saalekh relationship at this point is empty and meaningless. Actually Alekh has NO RIGHT on Sadhna. He has outwardly or inwardly ... in any circumstances ... disowned Sadhna. Everything else is meaningless.... whether he is mature or immature is another matter because LOVE or RESPECT could atleast make him stop her. HE EVEN WANTED TO STOP CHOTI MA when she was leaving ... but he never tried even one bit for Sadhna...
And why only now ... infact since he got well he have been treating Sadhna badly.
While it can be argued that for a GIRL it is compulsory to be a DOORMAT or a low life (shoe of the feet) infront of his undettered autocratic remorseless husband (no matter what his emotional balances) ... but it is also a very strong case if one says that SADHNA IS RIGHT to give this relationship LESS PRIORITY due to its HALLOWNESS.
Its all the way Alekh's responsibility to save this marriage. Sadhna's contrubution to Alekh is without MATCH. Alekh is no where near that...
Infact RagVir relationship is more balanced....while Saalekh relationship was actually never there...and if it was there ... it was all due to Sadhna ...
Alekh in his MAD days used to argue in Sadhna's favor ... just like a toddler cries out when his nanny is being scholded by his Mother... THIS IS A FEEBLE AND UNAWARE EXPRESSION. Its nothing meaningful unless this affection is shown in equal depth when he grows up (and this is almost never the case)...
Alekh REMEMBERS those days .. its not that he has forgotten. Maybe he is yet to learn about marriage ... but Love is something innate ... and so is respect or kindness. MINIMAL KINDNESS should've atleast made him listen to Sadhna when she tried to say something.
Once he gets well ... all his feelings (whenever they were positive) are hidden away from Sadhna. His care about the MYSTERY MAN could also be translated into a MALE EGO. Yep ... some men do have EGO, they would not like their EX to be with anyone ... they become defensive ... and remain confused about other women although progressing into a relationship with them (I personally find that as a HAREM Era tendency). But its certainly not enough to cement a relationship ... atleast in this time and age.
Its utterly unacceptable from his part.
SADHNA SHOULD NOT REPENT - I feel proud of her ... because she did absolutely nothing wrong. She came to an option where she had to choose between a hallow relationship ... or a relationship which had been meaningful to her from her childhood, and the girl was her sister for whose moral and confidence she had been doing alot. Mamiji is Mamaji's wife ... whom she must serve.
While its true that Sadhna shouldnt have sacrificed on the dance floor ... but when looking to it from Sadhna's perspective ... perhaps she felt differently due to the very ATTRIBUTES her own relationship with Alekh was carrying.
Remember that Sadhna (although in an attempt to hide other facts) did mention that her relationship with Alekh is HALLOW....
She does love Alekh ... but every feeling of love or every wish need not come true ... or need not be the most important when other more REAL stuff comes infront.
Bottom Line: If Alekh wants Sadhna back ... I would feel he should beg forgiveness on his knees (which I am expecting to see ... lolz).
Edited by Ice-Thinker - 15 years ago
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