Character biopsy: Jai Singh Rathore

Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na is often taken by our generation as a crash course on friendship and love. But if you shift perspective a little, you will notice that the movie is a brilliant guidebook on parenting.

We are all a product of our upbringing, and so was Jai. Jai was brought up by a single mother who kept him in a bubble about the true nature of his father, thus removing him from the patriarchal and misogynistic ecosystem that was his family. Jai’s mother had witnessed firsthand the insane levels of toxic masculinity running in her husband’s Rajput ancestry, and wanted to keep Jai out of its shadow.

She did not give him a spoilt and pampered upbringing. He cooks (and treats it as a chore and not as a pompous artwork), he washes his own clothes and dishes and takes care of his own belongings. He basically does each of those things for which we are trained to rush to our moms because we were never made capable enough to manage them ourselves. He is way more self-dependent than any of his “macho” cousins or father, and that already makes him ten times the man they could ever be.

Jai is non-violent, but that does not mean he is timid. When faced with threatening scenarios, we don’t see him cry or beg for mercy. Just because he avoids violence does not mean he is afraid of it.

Jai's emotional maturity is also well displayed in the way he treats people around him.

Jai respects and loves Aditi selflessly. He never dismisses off anything related to her as petty, even though it may be petty for him.

We see Jai around not one but two people who probably had weak mental health (Aditi’s brother, and Meghna). Jai has the sensibility to understand the reasons for their behaviors, and also deal with them.

Bollywood has since years been shoving manliness down our throats in the form of violence, abuse, disrespect, and ego. And the character of Jai singlehandedly breaks this entire hero image, and beautifully so. While our movies are inundated with Chulbul Pandeys and Kabir Singhs who are unfortunately celebrated for their toxicities, we really need more Jai Singh Rathores to normalize and simplify the definition of masculinity.

This movie was ❤️ and Jai was a sweetheart. So much better than so many "true lovers" depicted in your usual movies.

Prateik Babbar was also so effortlessly good in this movie. Him n his chuha😆

Nicely said! ... This makes me want to rush and watch the movie!

I loved this film. I loved the lead actor's chemistry

I loved this one. It's because of south dubbed movies, 5-6 year old popular hindi movies don't get any airtime anymore. Except 4-5 selected oft-repeated old movies others are fading away from our memory coz out of sight out of mind.

One of my fave romcoms. Have seen this movie countless times.

loved this movie....... Jai was awesome character.........

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEDgcZ_wFjo

Originally posted by: 2RsFan

A beta male in short

Yup, Beta males are glorified by such psuedo-intellectuals while in real life beta males are crushed in almost every scenario and are left holding the bag emotionally and financially. Imran Khan's personal and professional life is a good example of a beta male.

Originally posted by: 2RsFan

A beta male in short

I don't see how the above description describes a beta male. So any guy who is not acting like an MCP asshole is a beta or less? I can totally see even an Alpha male doing all the above things and still be a dominant personality.

This alpha-beta thing is another way of putting labels on people. Human beings don't act alpha or beta all the time. It's depends on situations. Even wolves don't act like that. The theory has been debunked.

But even if we take this as real, Jai was not beta in the movie. He wasn't an insecure guy. He was popular among his friends. He wasn't submissive either. He was dating a girl before falling in love with Genelia. Just because he wasn't playboy changing women like bed sheets every other day doesn't make him Beta. He was confident enough to ask out a girl.