Why does PARAS hate ASIM? Consistent throughout season. - Page 2

Originally posted by: NepaliArtist

I think its an inferiority-born-superiority complex. Showbiz is really cutthroat as an industry, and 'clout' is everything. In the Indian/sub-continental case, this is even way more important than anywhere else. Its impossibly hard to get work purely based on talent (acting, singing, modeling, whatever it is) and it really matters who/how many people know you. Unfortunately, over time, in this toxic environment, this idea of clout and fame becomes a weird currency of self-worth to these guys. There is a reason why everyone in Bigg Boss (almost all seasons) immediately jump to 'aukat' (worth) in fights. Its because they live/work in such a mindf**k space where self-worth is almost useless and your livelihood is governed by other people's perception of your worth. This is easier to say, but almost impossible for people outside this TV/modeling/movies bubble to understand.

So, Paras's behavior reflects a deeply insecure mindset, which is actually pretty understandable. (let me be clear - I am NOT saying its forgivable at all: battameezi is battameezi) So, this show is a huge opportunity for him (since he is mostly known for Splitsvilla, which is a step down from BB in terms of audience engagement and money). When he came on the show, he must have been enamored by everything he was seeing - Salman Khan, fellow contestants Sid Shukla, Rashmi, Aarti, who are all well-known in TV circles. Then, he saw Asim - a younger guy who has alot of confidence who isn't even at Paras's level before he started the show. So, given his insecurity and misplaced ego about 'earning' his place in the show, Paras feels like how did this kid end up here? Its a really sad and pathetic way to view the world, because you will always be fighting with your own value of self-worth and you will never stop comparing yourself with other people. Also, worth noting - whenever he is nominated he kicks up the battameezi by a few notches. Case in point - his behavior since Monday 😆

Overall, Asim has to unfortunately deal with him because he's locked up in this madhouse with him. But in the real world, people like Asim (at least based on what I have seen so far) are so strong willed that they sort of do their own thing and find their own versions of success in it. Meanwhile, people more like Paras are constantly valuing themselves in comparison to others and its much harder for them to find inner peace.

One more very notable example of this thinking:

- When Paras had a tiff with Abu, he immediately told him "You who knew you before the show?" as a taunt. Abu is a very successful (probably the most successful single-person non-corporate) event organizer in the hindi speaking world. If you have ever attended concerts or bollywood tour shows (especially in north america or india), you probably have been to a show run by Abu. But for Paras, its all about clout. What you built, how much you made, how valued your projects are etc don't mean much - its all about how famous you are. So, its pretty f**ked up and eventually, it really only hurts your own self-worth in life. This is one of the main reasons I never even considered working in a field where my name is a brand before my work - it just messes up your mind after a certain while. Also, this is why social media (and things like insta followers/likes) is so dangerous for young kids, it totally messes up your self-worth as a human being.

[If anyone here hasn't seen it - check our Zoya Akhtar's Luck By Chance. Its an absolutely beautiful and masterful work of art, and it deals with exactly this problem of self-worth and working on other's definition of success in Bollywood. Amazing movie, can't recommend enough!]

@ Bold

So true! I remember during Prince's season Paras had a twitter account. He used to be against Prince though they had just done Splitsvilla together a few months before. Actually SV was still on air when Prince was on BB.

(SV8 was Paras's 2nd round on the show and Prince's first. Rishabh Sinha from the same season of BB was from Paras's first round.)

I remember Paras liking tweets that said that he should have been in BB instead of Prince back then. Even back then Paras believed he deserved it more than Prince as Prince started his MTV years after Paras. I remember agreeing with Paras back then and even saying it on this forum.

He has watched so many of his peers, competitors and juniors like Surabhi, Renee, Priyank, Suyash and many others, who he thinks are less deserving than him make it on the show.

Now that he's finally made it here; after all these years, after waiting for his turn for so long he sees Asim a no name celeb on the show. This nobody in his books is more popular and is getting better feedback than him. His years of built up frustration is now finally showing.

Originally posted by: NepaliArtist

I think its an inferiority-born-superiority complex. Showbiz is really cutthroat as an industry, and 'clout' is everything. In the Indian/sub-continental case, this is even way more important than anywhere else. Its impossibly hard to get work purely based on talent (acting, singing, modeling, whatever it is) and it really matters who/how many people know you. Unfortunately, over time, in this toxic environment, this idea of clout and fame becomes a weird currency of self-worth to these guys. There is a reason why everyone in Bigg Boss (almost all seasons) immediately jump to 'aukat' (worth) in fights. Its because they live/work in such a mindf**k space where self-worth is almost useless and your livelihood is governed by other people's perception of your worth. This is easier to say, but almost impossible for people outside this TV/modeling/movies bubble to understand.

So, Paras's behavior reflects a deeply insecure mindset, which is actually pretty understandable. (let me be clear - I am NOT saying its forgivable at all: battameezi is battameezi) So, this show is a huge opportunity for him (since he is mostly known for Splitsvilla, which is a step down from BB in terms of audience engagement and money). When he came on the show, he must have been enamored by everything he was seeing - Salman Khan, fellow contestants Sid Shukla, Rashmi, Aarti, who are all well-known in TV circles. Then, he saw Asim - a younger guy who has alot of confidence who isn't even at Paras's level before he started the show. So, given his insecurity and misplaced ego about 'earning' his place in the show, Paras feels like how did this kid end up here? Its a really sad and pathetic way to view the world, because you will always be fighting with your own value of self-worth and you will never stop comparing yourself with other people. Also, worth noting - whenever he is nominated he kicks up the battameezi by a few notches. Case in point - his behavior since Monday 😆

Overall, Asim has to unfortunately deal with him because he's locked up in this madhouse with him. But in the real world, people like Asim (at least based on what I have seen so far) are so strong willed that they sort of do their own thing and find their own versions of success in it. Meanwhile, people more like Paras are constantly valuing themselves in comparison to others and its much harder for them to find inner peace.

One more very notable example of this thinking:

- When Paras had a tiff with Abu, he immediately told him "You who knew you before the show?" as a taunt. Abu is a very successful (probably the most successful single-person non-corporate) event organizer in the hindi speaking world. If you have ever attended concerts or bollywood tour shows (especially in north america or india), you probably have been to a show run by Abu. But for Paras, its all about clout. What you built, how much you made, how valued your projects are etc don't mean much - its all about how famous you are. So, its pretty f**ked up and eventually, it really only hurts your own self-worth in life. This is one of the main reasons I never even considered working in a field where my name is a brand before my work - it just messes up your mind after a certain while. Also, this is why social media (and things like insta followers/likes) is so dangerous for young kids, it totally messes up your self-worth as a human being.

[If anyone here hasn't seen it - check our Zoya Akhtar's Luck By Chance. Its an absolutely beautiful and masterful work of art, and it deals with exactly this problem of self-worth and working on other's definition of success in Bollywood. Amazing movie, can't recommend enough!]

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Phattu ki sirf zabaan chal sakti hai, Asim bas ek baar uske sar pe hath pher de, phir Paras kabhi na bolega

Originally posted by: doesntmatter

@ Bold

So true! I remember during Prince's season Paras had a twitter account. He used to be against Prince though they had just done Splitsvilla together a few months before. Actually SV was still on air when Prince was on BB.

(SV8 was Paras's 2nd round on the show and Prince's first. Rishabh Sinha from the same season of BB was from Paras's first round.)

I remember Paras liking tweets that said that he should have been in BB instead of Prince back then. Even back then Paras believed he deserved it more than Prince as Prince started his MTV years after Paras. I remember agreeing with Paras back then and even saying it on this forum.

He has watched so many of his peers, competitors and juniors like Surabhi, Renee, Priyank, Suyash and many others, who he thinks are less deserving than him make it on the show.

Now that he's finally made it here; after all these years, after waiting for his turn for so long he sees Asim a no name celeb on the show. This nobody in his books is more popular and is getting better feedback than him. His years of built up frustration is now finally showing.

Oh wow, perfect example! That really illustrates the whole situation. Honestly, the more I think about this issue (which we've seen again and again and again in BB every season) the more I kinda feel bad for these people.

Another recent thing: when he was talking to Sana, and he said "Himanshi wouldn't even talk to Asim outside the show. Maybe she'd talk to me though!" Perfect illustration of comparisons based on 'clout,' constantly judging yourself against others, and total disregard for human connection, personality compatibility, common interests, etc. Who cares about all that, its all about clout!

These guys must also be scared shitless about how they're coming off! Crazy gamble to go on a show like this where you have zero direction/power on the edit. Anything can happen, you'll only fully know once you're out (which you're actively trying to avoid, as per the format of the show) and the entire career is at stake! I mean, there are people who have used BB as a way to launch into something big. But most of the time, its either a place to cash in big bucks based on your already earned popularity for the exchange of a little bit of your dignity.

And BB is also ek number ka kameena, always makes sure to fill each season with at least a couple of these highly insecure, deeply unhappy people. Its really just a giant corporate production house taking a highly successful and proven international property/concept, and just applying it in India to directly take advantage of people's mental health issues. At the end of the day, that's what this show is. :( Its well known that there is a complete personality and mental health test before any contract is offered, and many international Endemol execs outside India have admitted that these tests are used to bring in personalities that are sure to clash in the house. Then, of course, the way the tasks are manipulated woh toh hume pata hee hai. Last weekend toh Salman also said openly, format jhagadon ka hai, tum nahee jhagado ke toh creative team tumhe jhagadaye gi.

Like, overall the whole idea of these unscripted/edited reality shows is to take advantage of mental health issues for cash, but BB in particular seems really cruel when you think about it. These people are trapped in there, in basically a human zoo, and are constantly put into situations designed to make them uncomfortable and in conflict. Plus, to add to that, this season is even worse because the only other face you get to see is Salman (who is a huge star they all grew up watching probably, so there is a big psychological power imbalance) openly bashing or praising you based on if you're on the favorable side or not. What you're bashed for is sorta secondary, its mostly about the dynamic opposite who you fought with. Got pushed by Shukla? Get in the katghera for interrogation. Pushed Sana once after you saw her repeatedly push your friend and pull his hair? Get ready for a 15-min trashing from one the most influential stars of the country, who many in the audience blindly agree with because of the hero worship culture, plus for good measure here's a planted caller of the week blowing a conversation out of proportion to make you look like the reason two people who just didn't get along are now no longer on talking terms. Its really sad.