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Hey guys,
First of all, thank god they explicitly mentioned that Yash and Pooja had an affair because this forum went a bit nuts with the fake news of Arjun being the actual cheater. The last episode was quite interesting and it made me wonder about the expectations/hopes these 4 characters had for their respective marriages.
Pooja: She expected Adi to be more than a best friend to her, someone who could understand her feelings without her having to verbalise them, she expected passion and she kind of also wanted someone who would be interested in the all the same things as her. Are her feelings justified? To some extent I can understand that she wanted to be treated like a wife and not a best friend you can sometimes take for granted. However, she expected that he would fall into the groove of marriage straight away like she did. Could this have been solved? Yes, 100% because what they lacked was communication. It's not like Adi wasn't open to having a conversation but Pooja preferred to write her feelings down in a diary than actually talk to her husband about their marital issues. Also, spouses don't need to be interested in the same things - what's important is that the core values are the same.
Adi: He expected that his dynamics with Pooja wouldn't change because of marriage. He believed that the only difference is that legally she is his wife now. Unfortunately, Adi didn't realise that marriage is a whole different ball game which require a lot more effort, time and attention than maintaining a friendship. He also expected that he wouldn't have to shed old habits, attitudes and modify some aspects of his personality because Pooja loved these things about him before marriage. However, marriage is about compromise, about taking more responsibility and adjusting to come to a middle ground. Adi didn't know how to distinguish between friendship and a marriage.
Zoya: Her expectations of marriage were kind of similar to that of Adi where she felt like no matter what happens, Yash will always love her and she wouldn't have to compromise on her end. She expected Yash to protect, love and pamper her like her father. However, there's a big difference between a father's love and a partner's love. Parents' love is the closest you'll ever get to unconditional love but otherwise, all other forms of love have some conditions. Yash seemed to have been bored and tired of trying to emulate the love/care shown by Wasim to Zoya to the point where he became attracted to Pooja who was independent, educated and established. There is nothing wrong with being a housewife and I don't blame her for her sheltered existence but I do think she needed to develop her own identity and give herself some healthy space from Yash occasionally.
Yash: It's very hard to tell with him because we have little knowledge of how he met Zoya and how they fell in love. I think he expected his marriage to be him pampering and catering to all of Zoya's needs without ever actually encouraging or inspiring her to grow and develop as a person. A question I have whenever I see their flashbacks is did they ever have a fight? Did they ever have any disagreements? It's like he thought that he had to walk on eggshells around Zoya and he could never confront her about issues in their marriage. He preferred to stay in Mumbai for the half the week and in Mussourie for the other half just as an escape from Zoya. He knew what she was like before he married her and if her sheltered nature was overwhelming after marriage, which is understandable, then why didn't he try to change that? Take her to Mumbai with you so that she can learn to live in a big city. Much like Pooja, his problem was communication and again it's not like Zoya wasn't open to having a conversation.
I feel like I've rambled on for ages but basically there is no justification for infidelity. All four of them were responsible for the breakdown of their respective marriages but the path that Yash and Pooja took was definitely not the right solution to their problems. Let me know what you guys think!
Love,
Shegufta
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