Originally posted by: mghurye
1..Was is necessary for her to sleep with him just to prove her love and faithfulness?
Yes - she should have been willing....No she should not have slept with him
Ok this is what I would have done...I would have declared my reservations about such things and uncomfortably become ready because I love him so or whatever but if he would have been ready still and not stopped me there is the biggest sign that he does not love me as if you love a person you would never make him/her do something that they are not comfortable doing....and then I would slap him and kick him out but that is just me....😉😉
Or else I would just firmly refuse and be like if you want me so much marry me already and then I will sleep with you why sleep today and marry tomm why not marry today and sleep well.....tonight I guess😉...much more fun and tension free and fight free...😆👏well said..a girl or guy shud be firm minded with strong will power, when such situation occurs. One shud send a strong msg that love shud not be demanding and selfish. Ur right marry first legally and then sleep without tension.😊Still if he doesn listen thn dump him, kick him, slap him and say Goodbye forever.👏
2..Why dint she refused him firmly?or she was afraid of loosing him?
Of course I guess she always was infatuated with him and him actually saying that he loves her was a dream come true for her so I guess she is treading carefully now as she feels she might do something wrong or say something bad to him and hurt him and send him away so she was basically scared of losing him....so in a way he is a trader and doesnt love her, just want to have fun. Here she shud not allow her heart to rule her mind, but she has to act wisely and think about wat if he doesnt marry inspite of surrendering herself.
3..Love, trust and faithfulness is a must between both of them for a strong relationship.
Of course it is and they don't have to sleep together to prove it...Yes she doesnt has to, love is not demanding, selfish, mean, but love is sharing, loving, caring and sacrificing. Agreed he ask for it and she is willing, thn he shud be thankful tht someone loves him so sincerely and faithfully. so he can change his stance. And they have to prove their love by sleeping.
4..How about his love and faithfulness and trust? how is he going to prove it for her? by marrying her?
Well that's what she thinks that he will marry her but she is so wrong he will use her and dispose her....which is why she should think that the true test of love is refraining for your love's sake rather than giving in...
And in any case I think for her just having him with her or confess that he loves her is great coz I think she did not even imagine that he would ever love and accept her and the whole act has just left her dazed and happy and brainless😕😕 to be honest...She dint acted bravely and boldly, she shud have told him wat if someone ask his sister this same question?😡
5..They have commited a sin, morally and legally they both are wrong.
Well many people who are in love do sleep together before marriage in other shows...some place the guys are being misleading and in some cases they are truely in love and it is just a moment of passion...but in any case I feel it is morally a sin because (this reason coming soon....too much writing)..hmmm or too many questions i have put up here,,agreed for those moments the marriage is the answer, if the guy thinks he really loves her, thn he shud rightfully marry her. Whole life is waiting for then for passions and love.😊
6..What was the right thing kamna should have done?
She should have told him that if he loved her he would have respected and understood her reservations about such traditions and not expected anything so low from her because love is a feeling which is mostly spiritual and does not depend mostly on physical pleasures....Basically just dumped him when he did this act as if he loved her then he would not have pretended to be so hurt when she refused him...👏
Yes accept as she is, he was for physical pleasures and nothing else, she shud have been firm and refused him outrightly. Traditions, moral values, ethics and family prestige and her self respect is more important thn this momentarily pleasure of passion. If he really loves her, he will accept her.😊
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