What is Mangala so scared of? DTN pg 27 - Page 19

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Originally posted by: Missesha

Mangala has gone bad now and I am not justifying her acts anymore. But you were talking about last 11 years in your previous post, stating that Anandi suffered while Mangala enjoyed. That is why I said it is incorrect.

In those last 11 years (from what was shown), Mangala never purposefully kept Anandi's daughter or harmed her.

Let's not mix the two; i.e. M's behaviour before revelation and after revelation.

She saved the girl and in those 11 years . Even though she claims she loved the girl she could hardly do anything to save the girl from beating , from starvation.

You will say she had limitation , she saved her many times. But we have also seen her suffering many times too. She was tied on the tree top . Sitting in the house and worrying for the girl dont serve any purpose. Where was this stomping, jumping that time which we see now?

Then agree she couldnt do everything what a mother should do. I dont fault her there.

I agree just the way Kamli , Chagni took care of the girl, she too did it in whatever way she could.

But why did she lied to that girl and given her the feeling of unwantedness that she was found in the garbage bin knowing that the kid was so upset because of this. Physical torture didnt matter to her . But this feeling hurt her badly.

It was a two way traffic. She saved her loved her in turn she got to satisfy her motherly feelings which is the greatest treasure in the world. So it is also not correct that she had only gave , gave , gave. But we saw she got, got , got too

Nothing wrong in that too. But only wrong is the truth hidden from the girl and giving her the feeling of unwantedness has been done purposely so that the girl only loves her, no one else. There comes the selfishness, when she knew she has a mother and N was kidnapped by her family members she still hurt her.

I am not telling it is her responsibility to search her mother. But it was her responsibility to tell her the truth so that she is not hurt.

That same purpose which was seen that time vaguely became crystal clear when she got the threat of the real mother.

She understood her love is not enough to keep her.

Originally posted by: prepal

You got it right about Anandi not having abandoned her daughter. And also it is not necessary that love is bound by biological relationship. It is true that Mangala looked after Nimboli and she did indeed look after her lovingly for all those years. But what transpired after that is is what was wrong.

She knows who Nimbolis mother and her family is and she knows the entire truth of how Nimboli was lost to her. But then she willfully kept the truth from Nimboli and has even planted a story about an unkind mother who abandoned her. That does not amount to love, but cruelty and possesiveness in the weirdest way which says "I will keep you whatever the cost and Damn your feelings. You better love me because I looked after you."

As for the serial not showing Anandi searching desparately for her daughter, there were mentions about the search but the story was more focussed on the Jhalra issue. And what could have been shown? Anandi running around in the forest and nearby villages? The fact that the case was not closed is proof enough.

Originally posted by: fast trak

You have nailed the point you want to say. Mangala isn't claiming rights because she saved but because she took care. Exactly what I wanted to say by giving Anandi madhura example. Anandi cannot claim motherly rights over madhura.
She has an attachment for the girl but ever since the real mother has arrived on the scene that attachment has become an obsession. Not just obsession she is harming the child in more ways than one.

No one paid Mangala for taking care of the child she did it out of her own free will but she never overdid anything there. In what way was what she did for Nimboli different or superior to what kamli or chagni did for her? I could've even given some brownie points to her if the child called her maa since the beginning bug that has started only after she ran away from Anandi and it was forced by mangala to call her that.

Anandi only gave her two slaps. Not enough! After whatever she's doing she deserves more than slaps. Maybe jail! She's a child abuser. If she was in the western world she would be certainly jailed.

Originally posted by: hisusmita

She saved the girl and in those 11 years . Even though she claims she loved the girl she could hardly do anything to save the girl from beating , from starving.

You will say she had limitation , she saved her many times. But we have also seen her suffering many times too. She was tied on the tree top . Sitting in the house and worrying for the girl dont serve any purpose. Where was this stomping, jumping that time which we see now?

Then agree she couldnt do everything what a mother should do. I dont fault her there.

I agree just the way Kamli , Chagni took care of the girl, she too did it in whatever way she could.

But why did she lied to that girl and given her the feeling of unwantedness that she was found in the garbage bin knowing that the kid was so upset because of this. Physical torture didnt matter to her . But this feeling hurt her badly.

It was a two way traffic. She saved her loved her in turn she got to satisfy her motherly feelings which is the greatest treasure in the world. So it is also not correct that she had only gave , gave , gave. But we saw she got, got , got too

Nothing wrong in that too. But only wrong is the truth hidden from the girl and giving her the feeling of unwantedness has been done purposely so that the girl only loves her, no one else. There comes the selfishness, when she knew she has a mother and N was kidnapped by her family members she still hurt her.

I am not telling it is her responsibility to search her mother. But it was her responsibility to tell her the truth so that she is not hurt.

That same purpose which was seen that time vaguely became crystal clear when she got the threat of the real mother.

She understood her love is not enough to keep her.

Originally posted by: SPuja

We all know M was made negative to make some sympathy for Anandi. But why did Anandi hid the truth? The root cause is Anandi - for the suffering of both Nimboli and Shivam.

Awww , you know the truth? Why she was made negative? Same old thing

But few of us knew the truth from the beginning that she had that in her. I guess we understand the writer.

Anandi dont need M to gain sympathy. She would have gained enough sympathy without M

Kamli and Chagni were also there.

But why cant you discuss M without bringing Anandi.

We know she is the root couse , actually everything in this serial

Anandi always need a negative person to gain sympathy.

Originally posted by: Missesha

Sorry, no offense, but I lost the point of discussion and have got confused with your above post (in relation to what we we were discussing since pg 21)

Your initial post suggested that Anandi lost so much over 11 years but Mangala gained a lot. To which I said M didn't cash on A's loss.

The final post is saying what did M do that other well wishers didn't. Well, I have listed all that she did for N on page 21 , of this thread, so I won't list again.

In your final post you have also said why she didn't tell N the truth. Not sure how that point is connected to the original point, i.e. Anandi's loss equating to Mangala's gain.

I am not interested in going thru the list what M did in 11 years for N. because I have also seen it.

But by hiding this truth itself says she did everything only for herself, to gain . So that the girl only clings to her. She only satisfied her motherly instinct.

Actually what she did is nothing in comparison to what she got, I mean the love from that girl.

I would have said she didnt cash on A's loss if she would have shared her whole heartedly with A. If she didnt run away. if she had told her the truth. If she had been truthful to the little girl and truthful to herself.

She cashed on A's loss as well we evilness of Harki, Akhi and Kundan

Originally posted by: SPuja

@bold - when did she said that?

She told this to Chagni