Let's question others!

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Last few days many topics on Anandi, questioning her and blaming her - whatever.

I wonder why aren't other characters questioned?

- DS & Sumitra used to claim Anandi changed them. Then why do they still get scared of "Anandi's sasra"? Beg? Or bear their insults silently?
Why do they insult Ganga despite Anandi and Jagya and even Bhairon trying to drive sense in them?

- Anandi's biological father Khajaan used to fly in rage and counter those who tortured or bashed Anandi or crossed limits insulting Bhago. He still defends her strongly when he is around. Then why Bhairon and DS, who are supposed to be maika now, remain silent when Ira or Sanchi openly insult Anandi?

Anandi is called thankless and mannerless and whatnot if she does not speak to defend them but apologises in private. I want to know what is their role as "parents"? Why do they tolerate this insult of their daughter for even serving water to them? What's the use of lamenting or thinking to themselves later?

Anandi at least phoned them to apologise. Did they ever call her to let her know they felt bad for her? Only Sumitra called her and that too, to rant against Ganga!

Are they all okay? Shouldn't they "go and die"? (Punning on topics made on Anandi, no abuse intended)

- Ganga's life was Mannu. Yet how come she leaves him alone readily and gets busy serving Singhs or doing something for Doctor sa? How does she silently tolerate anger and insult of the poor kid at Sumitra's hands? What kind of a mother is she? What's the use of giving love later or apologising to him later when she is free? (Didn't she scold him only to appease Sumitra after Gehna's godhbharai incident?)
How much does she think of Mannu? Why didn't she think of his and his safety when she left with him at midnight after Sumitra barked? On road also she was walking in thoughts of Singhs and doctor sa, not careful enough to notice that a truck was coming. Why? No concern for toddler who depends entirely on her?

- Ganga is strong and more clear na? Now she is educated and self reliant too. Yet why does she tolerate worst abuse and character assassination hurled at her? And her kid? Why she cries and bears curses even after she has been duly married to Jagya and has blessings of Bapusa?

- Shekhars were educated and progressive. They were against SaJa alliance initially. Why did they go ahead with it? Why did they wash off their responsibility and instead put pressure on Anandi to coach Sanchi?
Why they ignored Anandi when she expressed reservations against this alliance? Why no one heard her or consulted her?
Did they talk to her before they started blasting Jagya when he broke the alliance? Then why did they expect her to talk to Jagya to make up for Sanchi's blunder?

- Shiv is educated collector who has received psychology training na? Why he failed to judge his sister? Why he failed to see difficulties and pressures his wife faces? Why he failed to see Jagya's "real face"? (As he and his family claim to have judged now!)
Doesn't Shiv know law? Then what's this BS about maiyka-sasural, iski taraf-uski taraf? Why can't he tell his mother that court will see only truths and facts. Do they want Anandi to lie?!

Breaking engagement was more important case to pursue or attempt to rape case was more important?

If he feels Anandi's difficulty then why does he not express this to her? So that at least she knows she is not entirely isolated in the house?

All accuse Anandi of not "talking" earlier. But how many listened to her and gave her a chance to be heard? How much seriously was she taken? Why were her concerns laughed off or brushed aside?

- Bhairon could go against everyone and support Jagya-Ganga marriage. Why couldn't he take a stand on proposal day and at least ask Singhs to give them time or say openly that such alliance seems weird?
Why does he have to act at last moment only?

Why don't the other adults, wise, educated, experienced, trained, strong people in the show not take charge? Why only Anandi has to be blamed or questioned?
They make assumptions on ther own. Drag her name in everything on their own. And in end she is made scapegoat!

All have compulsions or tendencies whatever. Only for Anandi's behaviour there is no explanation. Right?

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Few things I want to comment on as per my frame of reference.

Blaming others or highlighting their 'issues' or lack of it firstly does not absolve Anandi from her own part in her circumstances now, neither should it be used to cloud the situation.
What Ganga may or may not do as ER each interpretation on any given night has got nothing to do with what Anandi has or HASN'T done with even LARGER repercussions.

DS and rest if SInghs have a huge burden to overcome, that is the burden of guilt when t comes to Anandi. As much as they would want to give Shekhars a proper reply they are bound by this burden. They also have a burden of obligation towards Shekhars because they feel Shekhars have done an up kar to them by accepting Anandi. Similarly Anandi herself probably believes this which is why she never corrects Ira's foul accusations of Shiv rehabbing Anandi.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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@Picasso

Blaming Anandi is not going to absolve others of their blunders in larger scheme of things either.

Anandi also has burden and OBLIGATION. TO BOTH FAMILIES. One she has lived with all her life. Another she has to live with all her life now. Both families have done a lot for her (among Shekhars at least Shiv had supported Anandi a lot and Shekhars were generally nice except for Sanchi and earlier CM).

May I know why Jagya did not talk to Anandi earlier? Why he did not answer her questions on terrace earlier? Why he did not tell her he was going to come to her house and break this alliance? Why he assumed her consent for this rishta? Why he kept reassuring others if he was not interested?

Now he is not speaking up for Anandi's sake. If he cared so much for her sake then why did he not take steps earlier? Why he broke rishta like this?

Why was Ganga pining for a man who was engaged to someone else? Why she kept calling him? Why didn't she bother what havoc it will cause in his life if he keeps attending to her, even as his own engagement and wedding is around the corner?

Why did other Singhs not assert themselves earlier if they felt this alliance was weird and Sanchi was not right for their house and Jagya? As they are doing now?

Everyone is ACCOUNTABLE here. NOT just Anandi.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Skepblun

@Picasso

Blaming Anandi is not going to absolve others of their blunders in larger scheme of things either.

Anandi also has burden and OBLIGATION. TO BOTH FAMILIES. One she has lived with all her life. Another she has to live with all her life now. Both families have done a lot for her (among Shekhars at least Shiv had supported Anandi a lot and Shekhars were generally nice except for Sanchi and earlier CM).

May I know why Jagya did not talk to Anandi earlier? Why he did not answer her questions on terrace earlier? Why he did not tell her he was going to come to her house and break this alliance? Why he assumed her consent for this rishta? Why he kept reassuring others if he was not interested?

Now he is not speaking up for Anandi's sake. If he cared so much for her sake then why did he not take steps earlier? Why he broke rishta like this?

Why was Ganga pining for a man who was engaged to someone else? Why she kept calling him? Why didn't she bother what havoc it will cause in his life if he keeps attending to her, even as his own engagement and wedding is around the corner?

Why did other Singhs not assert themselves earlier if they felt this alliance was weird and Sanchi was not right for their house and Jagya? As they are doing now?

Everyone is ACCOUNTABLE here. NOT just Anandi.

Everyone is at fault in this track. Only anandi is caught between both the families and will suffer the most after the court case. When lawyer was questioning jagya did anyone pressure him to accept this rista..he left silent and DS sumitra sitting silently in the court. The lawyer should question DS and grill her 😆
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Posted: 12 years ago
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What burden of guilt? It was created by Singhs. Why should Anandi bear the brunt of it?!

And Shekhars - someone tell me why would any person allow same friends to come in the house due to whom this fiasco took place?! And why would anyone leave a person unmonitored in a fragile state of mind?!

I remember that scene in AnSh marriage when Shiv was making her hold some plates, stacking one after the other and Ira was saying none of the plates should move or fall and she has to balance them all.

Same is happening in real life! Everyone stacks stuff in her hand directly or indirectly then she is expected to balance them all! 😡

That was a ceremony. What's happening now is crap in real lives of characters!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Skepblun

@Picasso

Blaming Anandi is not going to absolve others of their blunders in larger scheme of things either.

Anandi also has burden and OBLIGATION. TO BOTH FAMILIES. One she has lived with all her life. Another she has to live with all her life now. Both families have done a lot for her (among Shekhars at least Shiv had supported Anandi a lot and Shekhars were generally nice except for Sanchi and earlier CM).

May I know why Jagya did not talk to Anandi earlier? Why he did not answer her questions on terrace earlier? Why he did not tell her he was going to come to her house and break this alliance? Why he assumed her consent for this rishta? Why he kept reassuring others if he was not interested?

Now he is not speaking up for Anandi's sake. If he cared so much for her sake then why did he not take steps earlier? Why he broke rishta like this?

Why was Ganga pining for a man who was engaged to someone else? Why she kept calling him? Why didn't she bother what havoc it will cause in his life if he keeps attending to her, even as his own engagement and wedding is around the corner?

Why did other Singhs not assert themselves earlier if they felt this alliance was weird and Sanchi was not right for their house and Jagya? As they are doing now?

Everyone is ACCOUNTABLE here. NOT just Anandi.


Everyone is responsible for their part in the engagement fiasco but Anandi is partly responsible for that and her own condition today. Why blame others for her condition. She is an adult. She preaches to everyone. Why can't she resolve her own issues. She was the only person privy to everything. She could have still prevented the situation from getting out of hand. Why was she lecturing Jagya on the terrace and in the coffee house to still accept Saanchi. Why didn't SHE make t clear to all parties that BECAUSE Jagya is her ex husband and it involves her maiyka and sasural she is staying out of this rishta. Why did she lead everyone on that she was ok with things by only half assed rebellion on one side and then giving up. Why did she not tell everyone, if you all are happy, then fine. I will be happy for all concerned but this is awkward and don't drag me in the middle if things go wrong. Why didn't she clear her stand on BOTH sides definitively.
Edited by Picasso9 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Skep- maybe you don't remember this but there was a 35 page long thread or two, maybe even three or four bashing Ganga and calling her a desperate leech, ungrateful to the Singhs, ahsan faramosh and a terrible mother too. The others not only get questioned but bashed too.


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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Skepblun

What burden of guilt? It was created by Singhs. Why should Anandi bear the brunt of it?!

And Shekhars - someone tell me why would any person allow same friends to come in the house due to whom this fiasco took place?! And why would anyone leave a person unmonitored in a fragile state of mind?!

I remember that scene in AnSh marriage when Shiv was making her hold some plates, stacking one after the other and Ira was saying none of the plates should move or fall and she has to balance them all.

Same is happening in real life! Everyone stacks stuff in her hand directly or indirectly then she is expected to balance them all! 😡

That was a ceremony. What's happening now is crap in real lives of characters!


Yeah, but she allows them naa? Why does she allow this. Why can't she be vocal when people are plying her with conditions (plates).
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: yanks28

Skep- maybe you don't remember this but there was a 35 page long thread or two, maybe even three or four bashing Ganga and calling her a desperate leech, ungrateful to the Singhs, ahsan faramosh and a terrible mother too. The others not only get questioned but bashed too.



shameless ganga thread
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: ZenerDiode


shameless ganga thread



In such threads also ultimate person to be bashed is - you know who!😆

Though that thread was unfortunate and uncalled for.

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