@Arreyaar and aparna: I agree to both of you with all the points you have mentioned. Please don't remind me of the time when A rushed into the engagement and then put up a sad face in spite of S giving her an option of taking her time, that did not make any sense to me. The worst of them all was her catering to a supposedly sick J. I had taken a break from the show during that time coz it was unbearable. All these things are going against her for which she is solely responsible.
Coming to the point that I was trying to state: as I mentioned earlier, I do not blame S for giving into J's talk. When I say J's talk it is not what he said about the A S relationship but it was also about A still in love with him. He showed proof for the same too.
The facts:
1. A doesn't love Shiv (or may be has started loving him) and is slowly but steadily accepting him. This is not unknown to Shiv at all and he has been patient and receptive. Infact she has become far more receptive to Shiv and his feelings for her in the recent past. So yes she has
left her past behind her.
2. She has very clearly told him that J is her past and S her future, which in itself says a lot about
J's role in her life.
3. She doesn't express her feelings openly (which again I don't think is the right thing to do sply in the initial stages of your relationship), but that's how she is. She did mention this to S as well.
Please don't get me wrong, A has also done her bit to either create a reason for misunderstanding (although unintentional) or not done enough to prevent or clarify anything.
Lets of a minute remove A's feelings for S out of the picture and only talk about her feelings for J which J is trying to score brownie points on. She has moved on and will never want to go back to him. The old stuff in the suitcase was not kept in the store room by A. She had locked the suitcase and had asked Makhan to throw it away. It was DS who kept it in the store room. This is a major misunderstanding which S could have clarified IF he spoke to A. All this problem is happening only because of that suitcase for which A is not responsible.
If he asked A weather she still loves J and what's his place in her life, he would have surely got an honest answer. S has only asked her where he (S) stands in her life, not J's place in her life. Don't you think she would have honestly answered it? S very well knows how to dress his words in order to not hurt her feelings at the same time. This question was never valid till now since J was not in the picture. Now that he is back and wants to get into her life, this question does arise. He needs to know why A refused to go back to J on DS insistence from A's mouth and not from J's perspective. She will be honest about it.
The most important reason for the conversation is that S cannot make a decision on his own and reveal it in front of the family. Although his intentions were purely noble his method was incorrect. It involves the life of A too and the least he could do is discuss this with her and make a decision together rather than reveal it in front of both the families taking her completely by surprise. Like you have mentioned, this might have just been done to increase the drama and also a way for A to take a stand and voice her opinion. Unfortunately in an attempt to do so they just make their characters behave contrary to their nature.
Edited by andv - 12 years ago
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