Friends,
Over the past 3 weeks, there have been lots of discussions on JA union, Ansh union……….But try to think staying in Anandi's shoes for a while………Having modern thoughts, doesn't mean, you can understand the mindset of every individual…….For that you have to step in their shoes, and see how you can fit in………..
Anandi is not able to move on, because one can separate the people physically, mentally...But it is difficult for our heart to accept the bitter truth...Yeah, the CVS forgot very promptly that Jagya and Anandi did share the relationship after they were adults, which they should have not glorified...They should have shown Jagya immersed in studies, going away to Mumbai...Then fall in love and when he did see Anandi after 8-10 years, then he did not feel anything but friend in her...That would have been ideal...But anyhow, it is quite right that every person's chooses their life partner according to their personality only after the age of 22 or 23...Which is very common...And that's what they showed...But what was not correct was Jagya cheating on Anandi, trying to insult her every step of the way, and tell her that she was not worth him, because she was a village girl...He could have done things differently and told her from before only...But what he did was pure adultery, which should not be shown as mistakes of elders for bal vivah...Anandi on the other side was indeed a victim of child marriage and rightly so, they are showing how it affects a village girl...She had held on to the marriage, just like her parents and in laws thought her………Though she was hurt time and again during childhood, she made the most of it and made her own place in hearts of every person in her in laws house……..Though she is strong and knows that Jagya is not hers any more, she still remembers their time together...It is not just her, but many girls in rural India, don't have enough heart to just forget everything and start new so easily...It is just shows how much heart they put in their relationships……….And you have already seen, Anandi almost got killed for her Jagya…...
And there is nothing wrong in it...It is not her fault that she is not able to forget and move forward...But she did what she had to do...Let Jagya go...She wished him luck, asked him to take care of Gauri and let him go...Though she knew what he did was wrong, she harbored no bitter feelings towards him, though her in laws were angry…...But his family are her family too...Jagya can do what he wants, but he can't tell his family to just forget her like he did, just because her relationship was formed due to her...She though was his wife, she was some ones daughter in law, some ones granddaughter, sister in law...She had a unique relationship with every member since childhood and their affection did not change towards her just because Jagya changed...They all know that, they did a mistake doing bal vivah...But did not approve of Jagya and Gauri's approach towards the whole issue...He can't just blame them for his doings, without a thought and put everything as bal vivah problem...
CVS messed up a little bit for sure, but they really showed the reality here………..Men can just forget everything, when it comes to women, but for women, it is difficult to change so soon and accept the future…………! That is the reality………I am not talking men in general………There are both men and women, but if you see in India in rural areas, mostly it is women who suffers, while Men hold prime position…….. It is difficult to let go the memories for a girl.……..Especially a girl, who had loved and worshiped only one person since the age of 8………Jagya's reality came forward, only when he had finished his college and applied for MS……When Bapusa went to Mumbai after he shifted to kunda tai's house……….Till then Anandi had hoped that once he comes back to Jaitsar and joins the hospital he would again be his old self………..She never thought he would betray her, though he changed his name, or hid his marital status, thinking maybe he did it to stop people from asking questions…….She kept quiet, though she was hurt……….But supported him still……….And then bam………One day Bhairon comes home and tells Anandi, that she should forget Jagya………And then Jagya comes in after his first year of MS, with his brand new wife……….What should she do at this situation……….? She did what she thought best……….Let him go………She was hurt………But she never tried to tell him to come back to her, though she loved him……And her memories are her alones……….No one can erase them………! It will always be with her, though she let him go……And she let him go for his happiness, because of her love for him………She let him go, because she knew she can't just keep him out of his will………..But she couldn't let his family go, because her relation to them was not bound by his relationship to her……….And her in laws supported her, when all this happened……..They requested her to stay back, including dadisa………..And she did………..Her parents had let her go at the tender age, thinking about the customs and all……….And her life was revolved around singhs since……….She hardly met her parents after that for around 5-6 years and she accepted her fate and got involved with her new family……..loved them all……..
Other side, Gauri got a chance even after her marriage was nullified, in childhood……..She could have been in worst position, if Bhairon had not supported her education……..Even her parents never thought once before selling her off………But Bhairon did and for that she should be thankful for giving such wonderful life like she wanted………But she harbored bad feelings for him, why? Because he did not accept her in childhood………Bhairon made wrong decision I suppose………He should have accepted her and asked Anandi to go and study and then the opposite might have happened………And Gauri would have been happy…..! It just doesn't make sense that such a sensible girl lost all her senses in anger and insecurity.……….She got a chance to study and make something of herself……….She had a bright future………Yeah, Jagya had cheated her……….But being a educated girl, she should have not just married him the first chance she got……….He had cheated her for 5 years, lied about his marital status, and she forgave him just in a day, when he sat outside her window in rain………She should have thought about the girl who was from a village, who was not at all educated, and was living with him since she was 8……….But she never thought about her………She should have been sensible and asked Jagya to talk with his family and ask for forgiveness………..Talk to Anandi and apologize and then told them that they were in love and wanted to marry………..May be Bhairon and others would have not been so harsh then………Still, Jagya lying to them might have hurt but the consequences would be different………
But Gauri did not do any of those……….She choose to marry and went on the mission to get blessings………That was arrogance on her part………But her mission was clear though……..How can she just think that she can marry a married man and everyone accept it……..? If it was other way then would she not question her in laws that how could you support the other lady, when I am your legal daughter in law? But foolish as she was she went to ask for blessings………I am not sure, if it was arrogance, negligence or anger on her part………But she just flaunted her married life in front of Anandi and the others, showed her happy family life, trying to be sarcastic to Anandi, who had never did anything wrong and conveniently forgot what Anandi was going through…….
Jagya, I just can't say anything about him………Bal vivah was not his enemy, but his arrogance and his selfishness were, which were rightly put in him since childhood by his own dadisa, which dadisa had agreed, regreting her every wrong move...But Jagya was well educated and knew the difference between wrong and right and even his friend had always tried to correct him and he just broke ties with the only friend, who stood by him and showed him his mistakes..……If he wouldn't have cheated and insulted Anandi, just to cover his mistakes, if he wouldn't have cheated Gauri, just because of the fear of losing her, then it would have been different……No? But Na, he never thought of Anandi once, never thought of the consequences of his mistakes, until it was too late……..He even forgot the place where he was almost killed, and if Anandi had not come in between, he wouldn't have been here ever…….But he proposed Gauri at the same place, not thinking once about Anandi, which shows his selfishness…….How convenient for him to forget that she was still his wife and waiting for him, sacrificed so much for him, and here he was betraying her……..Why hide it and make her sit with his parents to serve them as a servant…..?…Any way, even after all this, Still, he could have salvaged what was left, by taking Gauri to his parents and asking for forgiveness………..Tell sorry to Anandi, saying he wanted to marry Gauri, as he loved her…….But they both never considered anyone's feelings except for themselves and people like those, can never be happy, who build their houses on someone's tears……….And then they blamed child marriage for everything……That is the reason Gauri and Jagya are considered as grey characters here……..! Gauri and Jagya destroyed their lives by their own hands……….! Not just because of bal vivah…….Only victim of bal vivah was Anandi, who is still in her past, not able to move on………Guys, though you think so, it is not easy to forget those memories……….A person, who has seen so much, lived her life in such conditions, do you think it is so easy to move on…….? No way……..She is the person, who bounds herself in the relationships, deep in her heart……..And if you still don't get it, then try to take the roots of a huge tree, which has been there for years with your hand……….It takes a lot of time and patience and still there are some roots which are so deep, that it is just there……..No matter, you plant new seeds in that place………
Memories, good or bad, can't just be erased like we do it on computer……..People's emotions are not machines………That we give a command and it will go away…..….It is a very slow process………Anandi, never tied Jagya, nor wished any bad for Gauri………But she has right on her memories…….
Coming back to the point of accepting Shiv, how could she, when she already had one such big unsuccessful marriage……….She gave everything to this marriage since childhood, sacrificed herself to the limits and what did she get in return……..A divorce, insult as well as pain, from the person who was by her side for all those years………How can she move on………Do you think her memories are because of her love for Jagya……..?...No, it is just her pain of the lost beautiful moments…….It is the pain of losing the person, she once loved so dearly, who claimed to love her as well…..….For her to move on, someone needs to come forward and show her the mirror…...Which would show her the past, insults throwed at her by her ex………And then show her the future, giving her a promise that it won't happen again……..And this time it will be forever and for the best……….And that someone should be Shiv……….He alone can change her mind set, assuring her that he would never leave her side, and promise her to keep her happy………! Saying he loves her is not enough, because Jagya said the same……..But showing her is important, which Shiv has to do in next 4 months…….! That alone can change Anandi's perspective towards marriage, and see that her happiness is not in the past, but the future………..Because, even if she marries Jagya again, she won't be able to respect him, neither can she be able to think of him as her lover, because the flashes of his and Gauri's past relationship, will not let her go near him………The unborn child they had, will keep her restless…..…Her mother's death would not let her hold the hands of one person, who is responsible for it……So, the best is to move on……..! For her, for Jagya, for everyone………That is the reason Anandi and Jagya reunion is not at all possible………..They had passed that narrow road, and to come back again to where they were years back, they will need to travel long distance again…….! They just can't take a u-turn any point they want, if the roads are blocked or too narrow……..Jagya blocked all those routes with his anger, with his lies and unemotional behavior, even accusing her of his child's death…….Further he dis-respected the death of her mother……..How can Anandi forget all this……? Though she might forgive him, she can't be his wife again and play happily married couple……….She will have same problem marrying him again, which she has with Shiv………Not able to accept it with whole heart………Though she would do just that if people force her…….!
Other thing everyone is so concerned about is Shiv………That he deserves a brand new bride and all the rubbish…….! Really friends, does it matter, when you are in love………? Love knows no boundries………Love only sees to happiness of the person we love………It doesn't see the past, doesn't see the future……..It only knows one thing………..That whatever I can do for the person I love, I will………And as you all know…...people are ready to sacrifice their life, for the people they love……..Do anything and everything in their will power, whether they like it or not, whether they feel it is right or not…….Same goes with Shiv………He knows forcing Anandi in marriage is wrong, he knows she is still in the past, he knows that she is still not over her divorce and is afraid to walk towards the future………But still he supported her, when she requested him to marry her, for fulfilling her mother's wish…….We see the glass is half empty, but did not see the positive side……..Anandi, though she is not conscious, still she felt that much right on Shiv……….Unconsciously, she told him that she trusted him as a friend, and with that right of friendship, she asked him to marry her, just like she promised him……..She had once promised to Shiv, that if there was anything he could do for her, she would definitely tell him and she did and Shiv said yes, because he wanted to support her, no matter what, because for him she was pure……..It did not matter, if she was brand new or used………She was not a commodity for him, which we see before buying, if the lid was sealed or not.……..! For him, she was the girl of his dreams, she was the girl of his choice, with whom he wanted to spend his life………!
I really hope, that CVS, don't disappoint the viewers and see that they give proper justice to the people like Anandi, and show them the right path……..!
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