Why ask this question to the gals only?

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Monamie

@monamie111

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

well...this is a sensible topic i guess..so get ready ur tomatoes..and alu to throw at me! 😆

today CM ask anandi if she wants to continue her work after marriage?...this is a common question and in real life too people asks this same question to the gal...i have faced this question in my life too..forgot how many times ..in my personal life i actually hate this question! 😛

today anandi's family did not ask any such questions to shiv! of course i know what everyone will say..everyone will say what a ridiculous thing i am saying! shiv is the husband..if he will stop working then what they will eat...😃..in real life too people does the same..no one ask the man will u work after marriage...then why to the gal only? 😔 is she any less than the man? is the family is not the man's family too? if needed can't the man compromise for the family?..

is the gal is not a human being? or in our society she is just a gal and not a human being? she can not have the desire to work like a man after marriage? and her desire will depend on her family's wish always? why so many boundaries? 😭

some one ask me once..are u a family-oriented woman or a careerist woman? 😕 i really want to know are the man not family-oriented? will they give their career more importance than their family? 😕 i used to think that every person in this world is family-oriented only! career comes much later than out family...isn't it?..then why we are expected to give such ridiculous questions's answers? why we gals need to prove ourselves as a family-oriented person every time?

for this part also i did not like today's episode ...it made me sad...

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Suchi-

@Suchi-

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 13 years ago

mona I think its cause Man is usually the bread winner in our society and woman are the home makers.

It depends on how you look at that question. I did not mind cause, woman being the homemaker might have to compromise a lot if they tend towards career.

But then again we also have good career woman who are also great home makers...

Men do not have to face this question cause , the raising of the family at least the nurturing part, has always fallen upon the mother's shoulders, not the father.

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

Trailblazer

+ 4

Posted: 13 years ago

Traditional view all over the world through the ages.Women are home makers men are bread winners.

They cannot ask a man whether he continues to work after marriage because he has to work and earn the bread he has no choice.

Similarly a woman will always be a home maker and that is expected of her regardless of the fact that she is earning or not.

Neither men nor women have choice in this matter.

If a man is not in a position to earn his living he cannot expect to get married either.

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Nikita

@nitha

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

Mona i faced this question, i have 15 yrs old daughter who got national math award from USAA, even she is talented, one day definitely she will also face the same question. even generations changed basic fundamental rules wont change.

Take it in positive way and lead the life.

Edited by nitha - 13 years ago

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XAiShBaBy08X

@XAiShBaBy08X

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

I don't think that there was anything wrong with Choti Ma asking that question...as I think she was just trying to get to know Anandi better and what her thoughts are regarding work. I don't think she would have minded if Anandi hadn't said that decision lies with the family...but I could be wrong.

However, I do understand why you don't like that question. You are definitely right about women always having to prove that they are willing to put the family before everything else. It should be a given that a woman and a mother will ALWAYS put their children and family above their career even more so that the man.

The better question should be...whether they will make sure that the house will be clean and the food will be cooked everyday despite the fact that the girl is working...since this is what they really want to make sure about. THIS thought makes me mad. Why is that the girl is expected to do both...if we have progressed in thinking that women should be allowed to have a career then why can't we also think that the household chores should also be shared between the two (husband/wife). Sure, the man usually makes more money and MAY work longer hours...then the girl should do more work at home than the man but that doesn't mean that he shouldn't do anything.

We all have our own thoughts...however, I don't like this thought that the family is doing the woman a HUGE favor when they allow her to work. It isn't really a favor since the money she brings home is going to help the family a lot. Also, nowadays, families need for both wife and husband to work in order to cope with the increasing expenses and to get ahead in life and improve their lifestyle...however, very few realize that the household work shouldn't always be dumped on the woman. I hope people start to understand the meaning of equality.

This is just my view for what it is worth. Oh and I do not see anything wrong in a woman not wanting to work outside. There is nothing wrong with that as long as she does do the household work since that is just as important as well. 😊

Man...I've been getting really preachy lately. lol

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bluerobin

@bluerobin

Sparkler

Posted: 13 years ago

yaar mona , very tricky question . I will try to answer . A man works , his wife also works. The lady has to work more :- in office, after reaching home do all domestic work , look after children . But when husband returns from work a cup of tea should be ready for him . But nobody thinks of giving a cup of tea to the wife who works more and is more stressed out than the husband . People , I mean society made rules and people are still following it . Hope someday will arrive in the future when men will also think of preparing a cup of tea and give it to his wife .

Edited by bluerobin - 13 years ago

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XAiShBaBy08X

@XAiShBaBy08X

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: bluerobin
yaar mona , very tricky question . I will try to answer . A man works , his wife also works. The lady has to work more :- in office, after reaching home do all domestic work , look after children . But when husband returns from work a cup of tea should be ready for him . But nobody thinks of giving a cup of tea to the wife who works more and is more stressed out than the husband . People , I mean society made rules and people are still following it . Hope someday will arrive in the future when men will also think of preparing a cup of tea and give it to his wife .

😃 Exactly.

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bluerobin

@bluerobin

Sparkler

Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: XAiShBaBy08X

😃 Exactly.

Thanks a lot dear :)

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bhavi_shiv

@bhavi_shiv

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: bluerobin
<font size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif">yaar mona , very tricky question . I will try to answer . A man works , his wife also works. The lady has to work more :- in office, after reaching home do all domestic work , look after children . But when husband returns from work a cup of tea should be ready for him . But nobody thinks of giving a cup of tea to the wife who works more and is more stressed out than the husband . People , I mean society made rules and people are still following it . Hope someday will arrive in the future when men will also think of preparing a cup of tea and give it to his wife .</font>

true dear...in india its kind of become trdition, whatever women do whatever she become even she have a great carear atlast she have to all the household work, bcoz thats how man see them...a householder and children keeper...man need to change their perspectiv women is not only for housework she too hav her own dream to do or become something...
may shiv makes cup of tea or cofee for anandi and give all man a lesson... gals are not for housework only...man too can do something in excahnge of how much gals do for them. give her freedom to make her carear she wants...

Edited by bhavi_shiv - 13 years ago

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Jan50

@Jan50

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

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All over the world it was the duty of a man to be the provider. In our scripture too it says "udyogam purushan lakshanam". Men don't get pregnant. It is the woman who gives birth and raises the child while the man protects her and the child. This is law of nature.

Will any woman like a husband who is ready to give up his job and sit at home doing house work.? Women always expect their husbands to be smarter and more capable at carrier.

Ther is no need to get so offended by this question asked to women.

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