She must forgive in order to move on

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Has anyone thought for A to move on she must forgive J and G. We tend to hold onto hurt and anger and allow it to affect other aspects of our lives. Until she can say I forgive you she wont be able to love fully and that would be a shame. I mean just because she forgives him does not make her weak or a doormat it just means she is finally able to move on in life and love Shiv the way she should. We all have baggage from previous relationships that has impacted or will impact our future relationships and usually not in a good way. We all see how she is behaving with Shiv right now and I see that as the aftermath of J and she needs to go through the stages of grief and then forgivness to move on. what is everyone's opinion on this?

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Posted: 13 years ago
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I read it somewhere:

weak people revenges
strong people forgives
intelligent people ignores..

So i think in order to move on... Anandi need to ignore Jagya and his memories.. She had already forgiven JaGo thats why she never remembers about the bad time or insults from them. Now she need to Ignore J totally... 😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Bidaaifan09

Has anyone thought for A to move on she must forgive J and G. We tend to hold onto hurt and anger and allow it to affect other aspects of our lives. Until she can say I forgive you she wont be able to love fully and that would be a shame. I mean just because she forgives him does not make her weak or a doormat it just means she is finally able to move on in life and love Shiv the way she should. We all have baggage from previous relationships that has impacted or will impact our future relationships and usually not in a good way. We all see how she is behaving with Shiv right now and I see that as the aftermath of J and she needs to go through the stages of grief and then forgivness to move on. what is everyone's opinion on this?




If you are following the serial then u must have seen it is Anandi who was telling the entire Singh family to forgive and accept them.. But what he did on her mothers barsi is not forgiving... Anandi is not behaving rude and non emotional towards Shiv because she has not forgiven jagya and gauri but coz dadisha had asked Shiv to marry anandi and he accepted the proposal only coz he is feeling pity on her and inturn he is doing favor on her...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: mishti31

I read it somewhere:

weak people revenges
strong people forgives
intelligent people ignores..

So i think in order to move on... Anandi need to ignore Jagya and his memories.. She had already forgiven JaGo thats why she never remembers about the bad time or insults from them. Now she need to Ignore J totally... 😊



Well said...:)
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: mishti31

I read it somewhere:

weak people revenges
strong people forgives
intelligent people ignores..

So i think in order to move on... Anandi need to ignore Jagya and his memories.. She had already forgiven JaGo thats why she never remembers about the bad time or insults from them. Now she need to Ignore J totally... 😊

You are right the moment she feels nothing for Jagya is truly the moment she moved on.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: sukvilove

i think she already forgive gaga couple. jagya😡 is weak he will take revenge from shiv seeing with anandi. ds calling shiv as his son.


Yup he will take revenge... but he is weak so he cnt harm Shiv..😆
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Posted: 13 years ago
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it is jagya who interrupts her life like bemausam ki barsat
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Posted: 13 years ago
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she has forgiven gaga for
  1. breaking marriage
  2. insulting her
  3. all the rude avatars- the taunts
  4. she has forgiven for the lbame game
  5. she forgave all when she said i wish happiness for u and in ur life want to see u go ahead that was forgivness( incase u havnt seen the epis)

what is hard fr her to forgive is that her moms death is being used for jado tona, that someone thinks her dead mom is a bhoot that has to be treated!! how can u forgive that?? she has forgiven all when it comes ot her when it comes to her dead mother she is right and abs right it not figiving and why should she??

it is gauyri and jagya who have not been able to move on other than anandi !!
she is not with shiv- coz she dosent love him!!for her love was jagya who broke her trust her love and noew she isscared for more, she is awkward with him coz she is brin forced in a marriage and she feels she is taking a facovr from him, she is lsing her slef respect by asknig him to pls marry herso y will she be all yay my moms dead let me marry the collector now nlove him!!she lieks him yes but will take time before she accepts him and learns to trust marriage again!!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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she has always forgiven pighead...she never remebered about the pain in inflcited upon her ...
and moving on..saying is easy but doing it is quit hard...think...divorce proceding and property mater and property mater not over jaitsir and collector sahb entry..and entry has jsut begin and she was becomingcomfy around colector ke marige proposal...and that too on the day of final hearing for divorce...and that not finish kee bhago sick and then her last wish and then her death and death rituals not over ke pighead again with his sick mind scumb bag nusence and that for anandi's own mother death...and now fulfill her dead mother's last wish...
what do you expcet with a person to go throught all this is a span of 6 months...give her time to recover...but ther is non...so after marrige with shiv she will get soem breath and then slowly with love and lots of care from shiv will bring her back on tracks... give her time yaar...atm remembering..forgivng...thinking..act acording..nothing working for anandi...only working is her mom's last wish...let it all finish..then see the new anandi...it will be amazing anandi again for shure
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I highly doubt that anandi is nursing a grudge against either jagya or gauri.
She is really not bothered about either of them. So she has already forgiven.
Her current mindset is because she is pre-occupied with the upcoming marriage to shiv, and because, as she told shiv, she is ashamed of her role in her mother's death (bhago died while running after anandi). She is scared of letting herself be close to someone again, scared of the fact that he is so urbane and polished and sophisticated... and wondering whether she a village girl could really be a life partner to him ... and wondering whether like jagya, one day he too will reject her for being 'gawar'... scared that her marriage may mean leaving behind her professional career and her identity and her goals behind which she so carefully and painstakingly set for herself.
She is not able to move on because of the fears of her future ... she is not clinging to the memories of jagya.
That being said, she is human, and naturally on certain occassions, memories will certainly be triggered off -- that doesnt necessarily mean that she is invested in those memories or pining away for jagya.
On a death anniversary of someone, we may feel more sad, even though we have made peace with their dying seven years ago, and dont really feel the pain in daily life. We always have milestones in our life that bring us back memories.

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