Cowboys Don't Cry! Why not?

There is a novel that's almost a staple of western school system. It's called "Cowboys Don't Cry"... I read it a lifetime back. Its a coming of edge story of a boy. Nothing else stuck with me though till today but, the title and class discussions we had about it. Am reminded of it every time I hear the phrase - "Boys don't cry". Why? Kyun? Cowboys...boys should cry.

I agree. Tears are not a sign of weakness, nor is showing emotion in general. It is healthy to let one's sadness out... keeping it in can actually cause serious physical damage (hypertension etc). Crying also allows one's pain to leave one's body and, as you say, makes us better rather than bitter. If society were more amenable towards people being open about their emotions, I think life would be easier for a lot of people. But instead we are often told off for crying as children, or told by our peers to "just get over" things that upset us. I think I personally have slowly retreated into myself as a result of feeling misunderstood in that fashion by a lot of my friends. And seeing people bashing Anandi in the current fashion... well, it reminds me a lot of times when I've felt that way in my life. So I really feel for her, and I hope her family or Shiv are able to reach out to her so that she can have a confidant. I'm actually really sad Ashi didn't stay longer... there's nothing quite like a good female friend in one's age group. Perhaps Phooli can drop by for consolation. I guess Bhago is coming, though, which should help make up for Sumitra's absence in part.

For me, I would distinguish whether the person who hurt me did it unintentionally ... or whether he had a clear idea that he was hurting me (either through malicious intent or through selfishness).

Its irrelevant to me what the intention of person hurting me is. That's their problem not mine. I hurt and if I feel like crying then I cry. Because its about grappling with my pain in a healthy way. Once the pain is shed through tears then I determine what is healthiest course for me...revenge? or walking away? or what? I can't control other person, I control ME! My actions and reactions.

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Its irrelevant to me what the intention of person hurting me is.

Originally posted by: tinoo

This is where our fundamental paradigms and world views themselves are different ...so I bow out of the argument right now because i see that we will never come to a meeting point about the specific issue when our paradigms itself are different. 😆😆

To be true , I was against Anandi mourning for a dead relationship from update, What Anadi shared with Jagya was not one but was layers of various relationships. Like in our childhood we share special bond with our sibling because of cherished beautiful memories with them. She shared a same bond with Jagya, they grew up together, they did lot of thing together first time. He was his best friend, his childhood buddy and overall her first love.For her it was all she had from the time she could understand anything about love or marriage.

Kuls - beautifully put. Congrats on Sanchi ka divorce track and Mohan ki mukhi from death!

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Kuls - beautifully put. Congrats on Sanchi ka divorce track and Mohan ki mukhi from death!

Yes finally divorce track it should have been marriage annulment track though..and Mohan is pheonix who always rise from his own ashes😆HE is one and only reason I watch NBT till now😆

Originally posted by: kuls11

Yes finally divorce track it should have been marriage annulment track though..and Mohan is pheonix who always rise from his own ashes😆HE is one and only reason I watch NBT till now😆