BV - Oct 11th 2011 - Written update - Page 3

Originally posted by: hooked

Gauri actually seemed like she had been thinking and for once in the right direction. She seemed to look so disappointed when J owned up that he had kept the source of funds from her - she seems to be realizing that J is too slimy and will continue to say only the things that suit him and sound good to her. She can never be sure of exactly what all he does behind her back. Am glad she can see that.

@ hooked: are you sure Gauri can see that? Are you sure Gauri has finally seen through Jagya and his sliminess? I don't think so. Will she do anything henceforth, since she has already realized that Jagya is a slimeball and a liar? NO.

The point is not that Gauri has seen through Jagya's disgusting attitude but that she has started to comply and accept Jagya's wrongdoings more easily. The way she mildly questioned Jagya about the money "tumne fir se mujhse jhoot bola" was just like how a drunkard's wife would ask her husband: "Tumne fir se sharab piya?" and then lets him have his way without protest. Such a question, followed by doing nothing about it, indicates that the wife, though not appreciative about her husband's action, has accepted it as normal anyway and doesn't have a problem in complying with it, nor will she make an attempt to change it. She will reject her own sense of right and wrong and comply with the husband's way of life. Gauri not rebuking Jagya and not stopping him from taking money shows Gauri has become a submissive wife who will comply to her husband, even if he is wrong or commits a crime. It just shows a further moral degradation of Gauri. She even complies to have the baby, in spite of her own discontentment, precisely because she is now so used to dance to the tunes of Jagya.

The thing about Jagya is - he never disappoints or amazes. He has always shown glimpses of his lying, cheating, grand standing, using people, twisting situations to suit his motives - ever since he was a kid. He has only grown bigger and learnt to do all this treachery with a little more ease.

Originally posted by: woman11

@ hooked: are you sure Gauri can see that? Are you sure Gauri has finally seen through Jagya and his sliminess? I don't think so. Will she do anything henceforth, since she has already realized that Jagya is a slimeball and a liar? NO.

The point is not that Gauri has seen through Jagya's disgusting attitude but that she has started to comply and accept Jagya's wrongdoings more easily. The way she mildly questioned Jagya about the money "tumne fir se mujhse jhoot bola" was just like how a drunkard's wife would ask her husband: "Tumne fir se sharab piya?" The question indicates that the wife, though not appreciative about her husband's action, have accepted it as normal anyway and doesn't have a problem in complying with it, nor will she make an attempt to change it. She will reject her own sense of right and wrong and comply with the husband's way of life. Gauri not rebuking Jagya and not stopping him from taking money shows Gauri has become a submissive wife who will comply to her husband, even if he is wrong or commits a crime. It just shows a further moral degradation of Gauri. She even complies to have the baby, in spite of her own discontentment, precisely because she is now so used to dance to the tunes of Jagya.

Gauri seems to have the same opinions as us - we were pissed @ Anandi giving Jagya this news, and so was Gauri today. I agreed w/ her this time.

I'm hoping that Gauri tells Anandi that if she gives even a paisa to Jagya, she'll abort that baby, since she can't stand the idea of being dependent on Anandi. That alone will force Anandi to cut Jagya off, since she won't want the parpota dead. Please Gauri, let your psychotic instincts work out right at least this once!

@ hooked:
i used the drunkard's wife example just to make the point that if the wife is aware of a major addiction/ flaw/ wrong doing of a husband and just asks him, "you did it again" and then lets him have his way without any protest or any initiative to change the situation, then she is in a way complying to her husband's fault. Whether she should leave him or not is a different issue.

My main objection with gauri today is that, she should have stopped the funding business right away. She should have said that she does not want to be fed with Anandi's money nor does she want Jagya to beg from Anandi. Instead, she apparently expressed disgust (which i did not see by the way) and did nothing about it. This is a way complying to your husband's fault and dancing to his tunes. If she does not object to Anandi's donation now, then she should not have created so much hungama and acted as if it was a huge issue in the first place.

Antara - Agreed !

well, i don't think she was ever butchered in terms of her career goals and desire to be independent. It's Anandi who needs a little redemption in that department😆. Gauri needs redemption in terms of humaneness and righteousness, and i don't see that happening yet 😛.

Now that is a tough one...getting Anandi to even think about her self let alone stand on her own feet is like wanting to move mountains with telekinesis 😆...If only Gauri could trade some of her selfishness with Anandi against her monthly checks !!!