To compare G and A is to compare night n day !! How does one find any common parameters ??
G is to date complaining about a shaadi that got rejected by panchayat all those yrs back - before she got to know her 'beend' or her 'saasra'. She has yet to figure out why the panchayat rejected it...😕 !
A had no option but to mould herself into this "haveli's beendni" from a tender age and she has tried very hard to do that while also trying to see that her one passion - further education - cud also get some support n acceptance..
G still complains about then...A not complaining about her education even now...
G accepted J - got J - still not happy...
G not willing to question or understand even today - why her parents chose to sell her off to a rich haveli as 2nd wife...A accepts that J has had a change of heart and when that is already lost - why to fight over legal rights.
A had J - learnt to love him - lost him - still trying to accept his choice n urging others to let him be - trying to find solace..
They r simply incomparable...one is ruled by raging passion... the other by stoic acceptance of facts and a patience that wud put a saint to shame...
I dearly wish that in times of crisis I can be blessed with clear reason n the strength to do what is right no matter how much it hurts...
Education thru school v/s life experiences bring about different kinds of growth altogether. Thus, It is not right to assume that G being more educated shud behave in a calmer way. that wud come from how crisis has been dealt with in her family and in her formative years. G has dunces for parents from the way they hv behaved in both her marriages so far.
A has a gem called Bhago. A has seen her parents go thru a lot of trials and travesty n always found them trying to find a way out - never just sitting and crying about it or blaming others for it. Even when Khajan went to jail n became so bitter - Bhago never lost her faith and steered him back. Bhago truly is a kindered spirit...A is fortunate to have her.