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cutelilprincess

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Posted: 14 years ago

#11

You are right; However, what angered me was the way in which he handled the situation. He is breaking a relationship with a girl that has done a lot for him and put up with a lot for him and the family. He needs to do that in a respectful way. Part of the reason she is "gawar" is because of him and his family.

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Suchi-

@Suchi-

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Posted: 14 years ago

#12

totally Agreed with you Mona!

He was WELL aware of what he was doing.

Yes he was married to her at a young age , but to go to that level just being carried away then,

he should be given an excuse that, well he is just human cause having a physical relationship outside wedlock is something that is not from our society and our culture and of course religion.

It is immoral and unethical and if one does it then , YES he is human but a human who is committing something wrong.

But Anandi, considers him to her husband and I am sure that she will stick with that mentality and probably not look anywhere else.

Which shows the biased nature of our society that a man fools around its ok, he is just human but , when a woman does something of that nature then , she is this and she is that.

18 is a mature age.

I got married when I was 19 and I knew what I was doing.

May of our Parents got married at a young age and they knew what responsibility was and what they were getting into.

Yes , these two were not given a choice but, they were given the gap, to move ahead or move away or understand the relationship that they had etc etc.

If , Anandi and Jag were made to live with one another for thsoe 5 years I would understand Jag's frustration about him not getting a choice. But no, they were given, or rather I should say He was given a chance , he was studying, he was meeting people and understanding what relationship is etc. and yet he chose Anandi after that 5 year gap.

And another matter is that when he moved away from Anandi ( that is started meeting gauri) he still was 19 and not to mention Anandi was 18 so that means Jagya was older than her correct? like around 1-2 years older?

So , he was 20 def. when he met gauri and 19 probably when he consummated with Anandi?

Not to mention he came back and then again, did it with Anandi, in those episodes when he had met gauri and started befriending her!?

So that means he was 20 when he did it again with Anandi.

So now 20 is not 13 so No, I do not think its got Totally with Child Marriage but its got to do with infidelity and with cheaters like Jagya who use reasons and excuses to cover up their cheapness.

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Poor Anandi, she got the dirty end of the stick and I vouch for her now and always!

ANd I am proud of Bhairon and Sumitra and even DS now that they are standing up for her!

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And as Bhairon said rightly today Jagya lost more, he lost his entire family and thats all due to his lust over another woman, to whom he is also not being faithful.

I do hope he gets what he reaped. I really do cause as I have said its not just Childmarriage anymore its about , how a man should view his marriage. Not everyone is always compatible and marriage is more about compromise and understanding, mutual communication adn respect

and this virmin jagat conviniently forgot that

he was scared of Mumbai , it was anandi who helped him get over that fear

He was scared to stand up for his own dreams when she stood up for him and got that fulfilled (being a doctor)

His sorry life was saved by her

he is a loser of a person who does not respect his parents, his relations, his friends and all of this he is doing for a woman. Yeah right once he gets her laid he is outta there.

I hope gauri finds out and spits on him. come on CVs please make him feel the dirt

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p>S I hate him soo much, that i feel bad that I am starting to hate shashank poor guy, he is giving a wonderful wonderful acting there!

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hooked

@hooked

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

#13

I don't know if Anandi deserves Jagya only bcoz she saved his life. She DID...she took a bullet and had she not survived, J wud already have been married off by now. But she lived...and J still found someone else. J could have have found someone else at any point of time, even when she was away - waiting to turn 18.

My point is - shud Jagya have the right to change his mind everytime his heart does a flip flop ??

In fact, does any married person - be it from a child marriage or high school marriage or arranged or even love marriage - have so much freedom to just announce - Oh I'm so sorry but I found someone who is more compatible so, no hard feelings but now I've demoted you to a friend from a lover, so please walk away...and lets be mature about it - no rona dhona pls and no guilt trips either.

I have spent enough time in NYC to see how all too common it is. One day the woman next to your cabin is all smiles and the next day she has a red nose and puffy eyes and you realize, all of a sudden he's walked out and now she has her kids and the mortgage on the house and is having to wonder how to find someone to babysit when the kids get back form school. She has no time to even think - when did this all start and how to deal with it now. It was so scary !!!

To some extent, what I was able to peice together is - the western philosophy is to quite an extent - be happy in your world. They have very few interactions with their joint families, they just meet up on thanksgiving etc and most have no compunctions about admitting an aging parent into an old age home if care at home is getting too hard to manage. There - often times, people invite their own parents to a marriage (something that was such a shock to me !), coz the wedding is so personal it can only involve the spouse and some common friends...the parents don't hv to do too much to for a son in law or DIL.

But here - in arranged formal weddings - the families get to first know each other and the bond is first between the family - mostly parents, before their kids actually wed. So here, when a marriage breaks, it will have to tear apart this family bond too. And all those individuals who get affected - will want to have a say in it. So here - Dadisa and Sumitra and Sugna, Shyam etc - they all hv a right to say their own 2 cent worth and Jagya will have to answer them all. Jagya cannot just say - oh I met this wonderful girl and I love her and thats that.

Jagya can like Gauri - but before that he has to make sure Anandi is apologized to, financially taken care of, well set in a new course of life and then go get his Gauri. This is assuming Gauri is fully aware of everything and still loves him enough to go through with it all.

My 2 cents :)

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Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

#14

This is funny, but just think - isn't this what Teepri was doing ? She got tired of her family and left them to pursue an old flame (albeit one-sided I agree, but its her life right ?) . She encountered a major block Sumitra, and she went all out to win Dadasa and Bhairon over - and what happened ?? She got branded MAD and senile. No one thought, she was just trying to live her own life..

Lets assume, Bhairon had decided to have a fling with her, just assume that for sake of argument... what then ?? wud that have given the 2 of them the right to say -its our right to live our lives as we see fit and currently this is what makes us happy !!!

Where wud Sumitra be ? and her kids ?

Life is some times just not so easy - I have at a weak moment myself thought - whats the big deal about doing it anyways.. half the population in the world is made up of the other sex - why should I limit myself to just person for my entire LIFE ?? Luckily I snapped out of it 😉, its quite rough for those who don't find a good soulmate the first time around..

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divmath

@divmath

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: mona.lihsa
@ All, I think few of the people who are commenting here in the forum are married... Just think if your spouse is having affair with someone else...will you all still say " Your spouse fell in love with someone he is now selfish and is not bothered or worried about his family's expectation but is it that bad to wanna live ur own life He is just a human".

This is a question specially to you Divmath and truepat...Is the situation which jags has created just out of the grief of Child Marriage? If at all this was the outcome of a child marriage then just tell me why did Jags go for a honeymoon with his wife anandi...Was'nt he adult at that time when he was fulfilling the deed of a matured husband...??

Ok first things first...I dont like to answer personal questions on a public forum...and I am not answerable to anybody...more so to people who I dont even know...

and regarding my comment on "Jagya being selfish and its not a big deal that he fell out of love/relationship with Anandi"...I stand by that...He went on honeymoon with Anandi because it was just a physical attraction...guess Jagya himself has said this in one of the episodes...and he accepts that it was mistake...so what? he slept with Anandi does that mean he has to stick to her for life? one can always fall in love with someone else even after having a physical relationship with another person...From my pov a physical relationship need not be "love" !! so as I see it Jagya never loved Anandi...and he fell in love with Gauri after moving to mumbai, he did not choose Anandi as his wife, for him Anandi was just a friend and since he did not have a choice while in Jaitser and never interacted with other women he mistakenly thought that its love, when actually it was just physical attraction...I am not asking you or anyone else to agree with me...its just my way of looking at this situation...you are free to have your opinion...but according to me apart from Jagya's rude behavior...his falling in love with Gauri is completely justified and I dont see that as wrong...it is indeed an outcome of Child Marriage...if Jagya and Anandi were not married when they were kids this situation wouldn't have arised ! period.

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Suchi-

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Posted: 14 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: hooked
This is funny, but just think - isn't this what Teepri was doing ? She got tired of her family and left them to pursue an old flame (albeit one-sided I agree, but its her life right ?) . She encountered a major block Sumitra, and she went all out to win Dadasa and Bhairon over - and what happened ?? She got branded MAD and senile. No one thought, she was just trying to live her own life..

Lets assume, Bhairon had decided to have a fling with her, just assume that for sake of argument... what then ?? wud that have given the 2 of them the right to say -its our right to live our lives as we see fit and currently this is what makes us happy !!!

Where wud Sumitra be ? and her kids ?

Life is some times just not so easy - I have at a weak moment myself thought - whats the big deal about doing it anyways.. half the population in the world is made up of the other sex - why should I limit myself to just person for my entire LIFE ?? Luckily I snapped out of it 😉, its quite rough for those who don't find a good soulmate the first time around..

@BOLD : She is a woman! lol

its a strange world, if a man does its fine! he is just trying to live his life

if a woman does she is characterless etc. plotting & Planning , vamp, etc. etc

Its a man's world. Her desires were portrayed to us as madness and Jagya's betrayal is 'well its normal and its child marriage'

No matter how much we act 'modern' thats the innate nature of society to blame the woman. For once I am glad that DS did not lash out on Anandi , I was soo worried that she ws going to blame her. Lets see how she reacts when she finds out that gauri is gudya, hey then everything becomes legal right.

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======= The fact is that

Yes , Jagya was forced into Child Marriage but if he was educated he would know what child marriage was as , he was separated from his wife for this very reason.

Then he accepted her as his wife, slept with her, and now, he has found another girl.

So yes anyone who does that has no morals and is not a person of character but rather a cheap guy who has committed adultery.

Jagat can become the world's greatest surgeon , but the fact will remain that, he is a cheater and a Two Timer.

And people like that are .. just like that, with or without child marriage.