Nikki's comment - my observation

Hey every body . If you heard Nikki's interview , she said " Its in a man's fitrat to be unfaithfull . She also added that if her , Sonny ( hubby) ever cheated on her , just once ........she would forgive him .....its human to err after all "

How many of you agree or disagree with her thoughts . I for one don't believe its in a man's nature to be unfaithfull , and i haven't seen it happening in my family !! I believe its something that is from person to person ................even a woman can be unfaithfull .....as well as a guy !!

Also would you forgive your man when her cheats ............i really find that hard to answer ............its hard to throw away your relationship in amy circumstance after you have been in one for several years !!! So i really can't answer . How about you ?

( P.S - i posted this topic in debate mansion too.......as i believe many of you don't go there .....therefore it will be for a different audience )

I agree with you! Being unfaithful in relationships or any aspect of life has nothing to do w ith sex. Now, in today's society when women have equal rights, they also go out, work, in a nutshell, have more exposure - they are or can be equally unfaithful.

Infact, in my personal opinion, men are more sensitive but they don't cry or let it come outside whereas women are known to be sensitive because they mostly their outburst is visual.

It is not a gender issue-some people are unfaithful. It is better to be honest about being unfaithful than not telling your partner. I cheated once and so did my bf but we promised to each other we wouldn't do it again. I agree w/Niki's statment.

I tend to agree with indygirl, women can be unfaithful too, but the society is more permissive and linient with man's infidelity compared to a woman. I think that is why they say it is in men's fitrat. A amn can bring another woman home or leave home for another woman and also come back to his home, a woman would never be allowed such things. If you have seen the movie "Kuchh Na Kahoo" I liked the end part where Aishwarya tells her husband, if she had left hime for even seven hours and come back, would he have accepted her" and he just walked away. I see that movie again and again for just that scene.

Originally posted by: dalals

I tend to agree with indygirl, women can be unfaithful too, but the society is more permissive and linient with man's infidelity compared to a woman. I think that is why they say it is in men's fitrat. A amn can bring another woman home or leave home for another woman and also come back to his home, a woman would never be allowed such things. If you have seen the movie "Kuchh Na Kahoo" I liked the end part where Aishwarya tells her husband, if she had left hime for even seven hours and come back, would he have accepted her" and he just walked away. I see that movie again and again for just that scene.

I think you may be right ......because we allow men and forgive them , are we able to say its man's fitrat . Also you mentioned kuchh na kaho ( not seen it though )...............But there was a movie too called ASTITVA ( It had Taboo in it .............a must watch ) Taboo also had one affair in her marriage , when husband finds out he wants to not see her face any more .............funny part is that he was always travelling and often cheating on his wife ...............She too comments exactly that , you expect to be forgiven for several nights of cheating ............but my one night of cheating has wiped out all my faithfullness for 25 years !!! Oh i got goose p***les just watching that scene !! It was beautifull !!

hmmm - as a man (and one totally under the thumb - but then we all are!) I don't think it's anyone's fitrat...it's true - I know cos mrs. ii told me so! 😆

Having said that, I suppose it would be his fitrat only if it is her fitrat as well! Could this be what our nikki has been saying as well? 😉

Im not sure how i would react until i was in that situation, however regardless if it is female or male, humans do err yes, but men shouldnt be given the right of forgiveness because it is simply in their 'fitrat'...

i have not seen that movie...but will definately watch it now !!

According to me, any relationship is like a mirror..until your faithful..plain & perfect mirror. If you just do a single act of unfaithfulness..it is as good as breaking the mirror.
if ppl try fixing that mirror with glue and being happy seeing their faces...well..fair enough...
I feel it purely depends person to person...

Maybe Nikki is more like her Simran's character after all! Firstly, if a woman really and truly believes that a man is destined to be unfaithful, then already, she is entering her marriage with some level of distrust. Secondly, she is giving him room to cheat because he will think it is justified because it is his fitrat.

I think we are way past that old time thinking that it is acceptable for a man to cheat. Nowadays, alot of women see themselves as being equal to a man and would not tolerate infidelity.

And being unfaithful is a character trait, not something that is genetically imposed on you if you are male. Women cheat as well.

True that in todays times,infidelity is not about gender,but men get away more easily than women when the affair/one night stand is exposed.
This could be because of one's cultural influences or economic dependance.

Science has proved that both sexes have similar biological needs but in most conservative cultures,women are "taught" that it is important to have a control over such desires in order to have a good character.When one has grown up believing that sex outside one's marriage is a "sin",there is a mind set about such values.That's why women may be less promiscuous.
I think it's rather unfortunate that women try to be equal in these areas,instead of the men trying to imbibe values like committment and loyalty in marriage.More so now because educated and economically independant women don't have to tolerate infidelity.Many even have their parents'support unlike in old times.

For example,when a woman is pregnant or has just delivered a baby,she may not have any desire to have a physical relationship.The man/husband on the other hand may have the normal desire as his body is not undergoing any physiological change.If he truely cares for her,he is going to enjoy other aspects of their relationship and share some memorable moments with her.

It's easier said than done to forgive an unfaithful spouse.But I don't think it's impossible.It would all depend on the situation.
If I had to answer a hypothetical question,I would perhaps forgive a one night stand blaming it on a moment of weakness,but an affair? Never.I can't see myself continuing the relationship.

But I know there are women who have tolerated unfaithful husbands.They are by no means weak,infact,I admire their strength to be able to live with that man just to give their kids a normal home.That's some sacrifice!

An unending topic,Indygal but interesting!!

Cheers
Akshata