I will keep coming(Mein Ayungi, Ayungi, Ayungi) - Page 2

Originally posted by: nivi26

Her commitment to benevolent patriarchy is so so strong!!! Ham use "traumatized" samjhte rahe. Ham usse slowly grow karte dekhna chahte the. Ham use khush dekhna chahte the. She doesn't have psychotic problem where she genuinely lacks the capacity to understand the reality. She is the damn believer. A believer whose belief system is shitty. She herself never thought/felt she has been abused. Usko sirf EMA ka aur thoda bahut neglect hone ka dard hai, jisne usne apni "mahanta" se aur apne dushman ka hriday parivartan karke jeet liya hai. She is eternally committed to Shahs. To give "validity" to her transgressions, she simply invented meaning in it. She started to call Baa & Baapuji as Maata-Pita. Naa kisi Dharm ke hisaab se, naa modern science, psychological and philosophical angle se.. wo uske Maata Pita ho sakte hain.

Yaha tak ki regressive religious books tak ye kah jaat hain ki agar Maata Pita (sachmuch ke) bachhe ke prati apna dharm na nibhaye to wo Maata Pita nahi rah jate. To aise "man ka rishta" kahkar justify karna, jabki saamne Wale ke paas "man" hai hi nahi.

Makers ye saari kahani Anupamaa ko ideological level par "sahi" proof karne, Lady Bhagat Singh banakar dikha rahe hain. Ye kahani Trauma ke impact par nahi hai. Ye women empowerment ki story thi hi nahi.

Ye to regressive upper caste/class ke logo ki social understanding and unka apna judgment hai. Through this they're speaking to regular women and encouraging them to accept their abuse and serve their masters without questioning them. They come with this toxic positive attitude ki "ham apni positivity se sabko badal dalenge! Ki achha achha sochne aur aankh band rakhne se sab thik ho jata hai!

Ye log "ignorance is bliss" wali mentality par chal rahe. Modern healthcare sirf inko Vannu/Doshu ke case me yaad aata hai. Unke crime ko "mental illness" ghoshit krne me lage rahte hain. Anyway.

Achha hua ki ab jyada se jyada log ye sab samjh paa rahe. Kaiyon ka moh bhang hua hai.

To be honest my great grand mom is not much educated just like anupama 10th pass

But neither her husband or in law or kids or grand kids can dare behave like shahs do to anupama or all will get slapped and kicked out in first minute by her

sorry to say but this is not correct potrayal of indian women

women are not like anupama at all even those born in 1930s and 1940s forget later

Every woman even those born in 1930s and 40s knows whats ause and would handle in laws and husband very welll even in 1950s and now

Anupama is rare case who keeps liking her abusers and thinking of their well being

And honestly no ones regressive nature can be changed what you think from childhood or till 21 years stay with you for life that character does not change

Anupama too will never change she may mask her regressive behaviour somtime to gain anuj trust but i do not think in this life anupama will become modern thinking and stop going to her abusers

Imagine you are given King crown but want to behave like a servant with shahs nothing can change you

That means you do not deserve the king post in first place

She will always have that patrichilal submissive attitude with shahs

With kapadiyas its diff matter she will abuse them or leave them based on her whims

But i have realized anupama will never chagnge towards shahs till death she will be same using anuj money to pls them and making anuj and CA bend to them all life till her death

Originally posted by: myviewprem

To be honest my great grand mom is not much educated just like anupama 10th pass

But neither her husband or in law or kids or grand kids can dare behave like shahs do to anupama or all will get slapped and kicked out in first minute by her

sorry to say but this is not correct potrayal of indian women

women are not like anupama at all even those born in 1930s and 1940s forget later

Every woman even those born in 1930s and 40s knows whats ause and would handle in laws and husband very welll even in 1950s and now

Anupama is rare case who keeps liking her abusers and thinking of their well being

And honestly no ones regressive nature can be changed what you think from childhood or till 21 years stay with you for life that character does not change

Anupama too will never change she may mask her regressive behaviour somtime to gain anuj trust but i do not think in this life anupama will become modern thinking and stop going to her abusers

Imagine you are given King crown but want to behave like a servant with shahs nothing can change you

That means you do not deserve the king post in first place

She will always have that patrichilal submissive attitude with shahs

With kapadiyas its diff matter she will abuse them or leave them based on her whims

But i have realized anupama will never chagnge towards shahs till death she will be same using anuj money to pls them and making anuj and CA bend to them all life till her death

Women like Anupamaa is not rare cases as you want to believe. Actually they are the majority except that they are not Mahaans. Only rare thing about Anupamaa is: she is actually good at heart.

But anyway. Let's just leave it here.

Originally posted by: nivi26

Women like Anupamaa is not rare cases as you want to believe. Actually they are the majority except that they are not Mahaans. Only rare thing about Anupamaa is: she is actually good at heart.

But anyway. Let's just leave it here.

Most will fight for their rights if abused or beaten or leave home and go even without divorce

Most will not be like anupama submissive to abusers after divorce too

The biggest issue in india is women have no jobs so not finnace. Even educated only 25% have jobs

90% men have jobs its a very patrichial society in company and offices too

So women have no money in hand or property like house in their name

So they hesitate to leave abusive husband or family

But situation s changing slowly now

Also society targets single woman divorced or widows or unmarried so girls are scared to leave abusive family and go

Its society problem and goovt too as govt does not give jobs to women mostly men get jobs

Western county most women get jobs so they are not dependent on husband or father for money

So at abuse they leave spouse and walk off

Further there society is sympathetic to single women do not target them but gives respect like for men

Govt too help marginalized women to get jobs etc so its safer in western country to leave abusive hubby or faily and walk off

In india that cannot be done as most women have no jobs are helpless and no one helps govt law all are very patrichial men oriented

Just go and try putting case on hubby or family he hit me no police will take, they consider all that as internal family issue to be resolved within 4 walls of house never support women

And this is highly qualified women working in big companies i am talking off not anupama kind at all

So other women plight wil be more worst

Originally posted by: myviewprem

To be honest my great grand mom is not much educated just like anupama 10th pass

But neither her husband or in law or kids or grand kids can dare behave like shahs do to anupama or all will get slapped and kicked out in first minute by her

sorry to say but this is not correct potrayal of indian women

women are not like anupama at all even those born in 1930s and 1940s forget later

Every woman even those born in 1930s and 40s knows whats ause and would handle in laws and husband very welll even in 1950s and now

Anupama is rare case who keeps liking her abusers and thinking of their well being

And honestly no ones regressive nature can be changed what you think from childhood or till 21 years stay with you for life that character does not change

Anupama too will never change she may mask her regressive behaviour somtime to gain anuj trust but i do not think in this life anupama will become modern thinking and stop going to her abusers

Imagine you are given King crown but want to behave like a servant with shahs nothing can change you

That means you do not deserve the king post in first place

She will always have that patrichilal submissive attitude with shahs

With kapadiyas its diff matter she will abuse them or leave them based on her whims

But i have realized anupama will never chagnge towards shahs till death she will be same using anuj money to pls them and making anuj and CA bend to them all life till her death

Exactly no kids born behave the way Anuraj defective products do especially in the middle class and even in upper middle class households.

Nahi toh ek flying belan padta hai. And some women of that generation might be less educated but they are very skilled (my own mother knows sewing very well and my Nani was excellent at knitting) and many have updated themselves with time. My Dadi can operate a smart phone. She learned to send voice notes. It all depends on the individual

I have to laud another serial here. Balika Vadhu did an excellent job showing a woman born in a previous generation changing her views over time in the form of Dadi's character. That's what you call good character arc.

Sadly DKP is not interested in showing actual progress but rather only in TRPs so even the good characters become spoiled and go down and down into regressive lanes until viewers are so out off they stop watching altogether

Originally posted by: nivi26

Women like Anupamaa is not rare cases as you want to believe. Actually they are the majority except that they are not Mahaans. Only rare thing about Anupamaa is: she is actually good at heart.

But anyway. Let's just leave it here.

Women like Anupama is not rare who tolerate abuse but there is literally no one who goes back to serve her ex in laws like Anupama do.

Maybe they never got divorce but if for once they break free from them they didn’t run back to them at any given chance. No one is obsessed with abuser like Anupama.They stay aways from them.

You are talking about real characters but in the same show no one can talk back to Leela who is one generation old then Anupama. If someone dares then she what she says,

KAAN KE NEECHE SITAR BAJA DEGI.

No one can insult her like everyone insult Anupama. Anupama should have learned something from her.