I cannot understand Anupama - Page 2

The day she stayed back in Shah house after divorce, was the start of the decline. She then interfered in matters between Kavya-Vanraj, constantly lectured, taunted, tutored, groomed Kavya as a "Shah Bahu" thereby dhowing her one-upmanship, took decisions about Malavika staying in Shah House. Took single ownership of ALL debts of Shahs.

Oh man there are just too many.

just replying to the title…maa is mahaan na dil mein aati hai na samajh mein… try bhi na kariyo🤣

Originally posted by: GunDaa

Its not all about Intimacy or talking with ex.

They have a common childrens so ofcurse there is no wrong in Anupama talking with Vanraj.

People end relationships on a bright note by being friends forever. She was not expecting this from Vanraj(he was being selfish like always) thats why she replied in that way .

Like Anupama herself reacted so strongly and passionately when Vanraj made this proposal talking about how when she looks back at their 25 years of marriage: what she sees is only pain, trauma and suffering - it was a tremendously unequal marriage. There might have been good parts, no there would have been good parts because that's life, but the bad parts were overwhelmingly more than the good, that was actually the point of the show when it started.

And Vanraj hasn't changed for the better even the slightest bit, not does it look like he actually will.

In the past, Anupama has gone out of her way to provide consistent emotional support for him after the divorce - the one who abused her during marriage and has even been abusive to her even after divorce.

Sure, they can come together to make decisions for their children and can talk, but doesn't keeping very strict boundaries make sense here, seem healthy here?

Had it been a marriage which was based on mutual respect and divorce happened on amicable terms, remaining something like friends after divorce... of course that's their choice.

Also, Anupama is not single and that should be taken into account. The boundaries of emotional infidelity can be decided by the partners together - how much is Anuj, someone who is shown to be the epitome of loyalty, actually comfortable with?

Even if you take Anuj out of the picture, what Anupama used to do does not seem healthy for herself. Going out of your way to support your abusers when they show zero repentance and no sincere efforts to better themselves doesn't seem healthy for anybody - and it seems to be a common theme in this show!

Originally posted by: GunDaa

Its not all about Intimacy or talking with ex.

They have a common childrens so ofcurse there is no wrong in Anupama talking with Vanraj.

People end relationships on a bright note by being friends forever. She was not expecting this from Vanraj(he was being selfish like always) thats why she replied in that way .

I don't see any exes interacting like they do. Her kids are all grown ups.

I stopped understanding her when I saw a clip of her staying with them after their divorce and still

Acting as married couple.🤦🏻‍♀️ I could understand if the kids were young to Co-parents but the kids are grown and what is there left to CO-parent?.
If you are missing parents, visits your own, I am pretty sure, your own mother misses you more.🤦🏻‍♀️. It isn’t moving on if you are always there.🤦🏻‍♀️

I am not sure how Kavya puts up with it!🤦🏻‍♀️ I knows I couldn’t.

When my Nani was alive and living with us here in USA, seeing her nieces and nephews in our home every day was too much for me. My mother had no problem but she didn’t have to make chai or snacks for them.🙄

I even said to my mom's cousin (khala)one day, do you not have your parents to visit? Granted, I got in trouble for it.🤣

It was frustrating everyday seeing these people, feeding them, interacting with them. I love them but just not this close.😂
I couldn’t have my husband ex, everyday in my home. Granted my husband has one but he broke off his (10) years long engagement before we got married and he moved to the USA. There is no phone call, visiting her when going back home to reminisce about days gone by so seeing this is a new concept for me.😂

Anupama isn’t over her ex by long shot. She wants him but she also needs her bank balance to cover Toshu’s medical bills and feed her family. 😂😂 This back and forth will continue.🤦🏻‍♀️😂🥰

Originally posted by: blue-ice.1

I just fast forwarded her bullshit bhashan.

Thats like skipping the whole episode for you then 😆

I juat read the updates and thats enough for me. 😳

Originally posted by: Snowstorm22

I stopped understanding her when I saw a clip of her staying with them after their divorce and still

Acting as married couple.🤦🏻‍♀️ I could understand if the kids were young to Co-parents but the kids are grown and what is there left to CO-parent?.
If you are missing parents, visits your own, I am pretty sure, your own mother misses you more.🤦🏻‍♀️. It isn’t moving on if you are always there.🤦🏻‍♀️

I am not sure how Kavya puts up with it!🤦🏻‍♀️ I knows I couldn’t.

When my Nani was alive and living with us here in USA, seeing her nieces and nephews in our home every day was too much for me. My mother had no problem but she didn’t have to make chai or snacks for them.🙄

I even said to my mom's cousin (khala)one day, do you not have your parents to visit? Granted, I got in trouble for it.🤣

It was frustrating everyday seeing these people, feeding them, interacting with them. I love them but just not this close.😂
I couldn’t have my husband ex, everyday in my home. Granted my husband has one but he broke off his (10) years long engagement before we got married and he moved to the USA. There is no phone call, visiting her when going back home to reminisce about days gone by so seeing this is a new concept for me.😂

Anupama isn’t over her ex by long shot. She wants him but she also needs her bank balance to cover Toshu’s medical bills and feed her family. 😂😂 This back and forth will continue.🤦🏻‍♀️😂🥰

Poor Kavya 🤓

Not sure what she saw in this MCP and his family

She ruined her life and career for this cheater V. 🤢

Originally posted by: Musketeer_95

I don't see any exes interacting like they do. Her kids are all grown ups.

Why r u stressing youself for an answer which her own creater shri shri BV doesn't have be happy if you insist for certain relief may be u see I don't stress myself so ,may be

Originally posted by: naaznin

I felt it was wrong when anupama was leaving the place n vanraj asked to stay for some more time n she obliged.

Somewhere it looks like she gets sadistic pleasure in seeing him suffer.

Anupama knows shah house hold is too much dependent on her n that's why she still comes that they remain dependent.

With baa n vanraj i think she loves seeing them suffer n baa pleading to her n vanraj regretting his marriage with current wife with whom he cheated her.

She loves showing off her current life to them n that's why doesn't break the link n pretends she is so mahaan.😆

Sabka chu bna rhi😆

Sorry, if i misinterpreted the post.

But what has Vanraj suffered for his actions?

Knowing well, Shahs are anything but grateful, she does things. I do not know what they call it but there is no love lost, no suffering in the equation.

He was saved from an IT arrest for evading taxes without a penny being paid.

Vanraj was acquitted of an attempt to murder of Anuj without even an FIR.

He almost took over Kapadia Empire by trying to lure an emotionally vulnerable Malavika.

He threw out Pakhi and asked, lo and behold, Anuj to be a guardian.

ALL the drama that she created during Pari's Naamkaran only to be referred a few episodes later that "Kinjal beta, phaisla tumhara hi hoga par jo bhi phaisla lo Pari aur apne bhavisya ke baare me soch kar". Was Rakhi saying something similar in Spanish?

What was the statement in the hospital supposed to mean? "Kagaaj pe likh dene se rishte......."

ALL of this saying "Woh Bure ho sakte hain ghatiya nahin". Not to forget the constant re-assurance of being achche pita.

Me thinking, "Aur kya karna baki hain ghatiya hone ke liye."