Can anyone bring outsiders to others house?

I am not sure how it works in various parts of india

Anupama casually brings anuj, malvika, GK, little anu, barkha or now dimple to Shah house

First anupama herself is guest in that house (ater divorce shes an outsider only, yes her kids stay there but she has no rights in that house or on shahs by law)

After divorce you have no rights on ex husband house actually as per law

So anupama herself is like guest in that house

But she acts as if shes owner of Shah house and keeps bringing anyone without asking permission to their house

Further she starts making decisions for that house like shes till bahu of Shahs

And anuj does not stop her from doing all this although hes her husband

I mean any husband in anuj place would tell wife to not behave so or do all this way

I mean i have seen husbands tell wife that do not interfere in your mayka let your parents or bhabhi decide even about puja etc you please keep quiet

Here anupama is not shahs daughter also shes just ex bahu

Why cannot GK or anuj tell her how to behave in ex house if she does not understand boundaries after divorce

See if shahs consider anupama as daughter or own atleast it was ok but they hate anyone she brings and ill treat them like GK, anuj, little anu or barkha so better she never take them there at all

This is not 90s or early 2000s where you can take anyone to others house as per your wish even if you are daughter or bahu or son

Even parents house you go and take one friend for few hours or lunch you have to ask permission as its their home. Yes its your home too but they own it

Cannot anupama understand such things? Even 10 year old understand that without pernmission you cannot take an friend or relative to others home uninvited

Specially those people like anuj and kapadiyas whom that house hates

How would anupama like if anuj had ex wife and she comes daily to kapadiya house and orders anupam around as if shes still anuj wife? II seriously hope anuj ex comes and orders anupam around in kapadiyas for her to understand how badly shes behaving at shah house?

Sometimes i think vanraj and baa and toshu are justified by how they get angry at her for inteferring or ordering in their house like shes owner of shah house or bahu there. No human actually likes all this domination anupama doing at shahs. Just sta at kapadiyas your in law and hubby home no.

Even dolly really daughter does not do all this although she has more rights than anupama on shah home as real daughter

And why she go pakhi house when she knows pakhi hates her?

Anupama did not bring dimpy to shah house .Ahmedabad ki ssadkein khud Padi thi as we know Ahmedabad ki saari raaste shah se jaate hai to

To anupama ghum ke shah lane se Hote hue dance academy jaa rahi thi .to anupama ko baa main Gate pe mil gayi to anupama ne main gate pe Baa ko greet Kiya

Phir anupama want to meet Pari and hasmukh but baa say dimple ko mut laana Ghar men

To anupama ne kaha Main baad mein Pari se millongi .anupama dimple ko shah house ke andar le kar gayi nahi gayi thi . Anupama standing at lane only with dimpy aur wahan se dance academy gayi after giving caje to pakhi

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Anupama did not bring dimpy to shah house .Ahmedabad ki ssadkein khud Padi thi as we know Ahmedabad ki saari raaste shah se jaate hai to

To anupama ghum ke shah lane se Hote hue dance academy jaa rahi thi .to anupama ko baa main Gate pe mil gayi to anupama ne main gate pe Baa ko greet Kiya

Phir anupama want to meet Pari and hasmukh but baa say dimple ko mut laana Ghar men

To anupama ne kaha Main baad mein Pari se millongi .anupama dimple ko shah house ke andar le kar gayi nahi gayi thi . Anupama standing at lane only with dimpy aur wahan se dance academy gayi after giving caje to pakhi

I understand

when we are passing by relatives or friends home we go inside and meet them

But everytime this baa or vanraj or toshu humilate them no i feel bad for anupamas family or friends

Today also this baa humiliated by saying do ot get dimple inside

They treat anuj and CA too like outsiders toh better they do not go to shah home

Shahs never think that anuj or CA or Gk is their friends too forget relatives

anupama should understand this and not take those shahs dislike to shah home with her

atleast anuj should understand this and stop going again and again to shah house kyunki uska sout wahan rehta hai

If my one friend hates my other friend or my parents do not like my one friend i will never take them to each other home

bas hotel main milenge ya kahi aur jaise mall

See we must understand person who like us may not like my parents or friends too or my siblings

Mujhe khud apne kuch siblings ke kuch friends i refuse to go to their home with my siblings or functions uninvited kyunki mujhe diktha hai woh uncomfortable hosakthe hain mere janne se mere presence se they cannot freely speak wth my siblkings in front of family. I avoid all those whom i think do not like my presence. May be to nurt your siblings woh apko kuch kehte nahi par chhre pe dik jatha hai joh apko pasaand karthe hai aur nahi karthe.

Relatives ka bhi aisa hota hai. Some relatives hate you do not like you, or you dislike thier ways so avoid. Kyun zabadasti gale padna unke jab woh apko pasand nahi karthe hain na

Mujhe toh lagta hai, anupma ke washroom ka raasta bhi shah house se ho kar jaata hai.. 🤣

Why cant a wife interfere in her maayka? That is her house only, a daughter doesnt become an outsider post marriage or her sasuraal becomes her only home. This mentality is very wrong given it encourages the nonsense proverb of paraaya dhan promoting patriarchy. Ans why should only bhabhi decide? Daughter of the house is an outsider but the bahu who is an actual outsider is an absolute family member by law only but she has more rights in the decision making over the actual daughter of the house?

See if its your parents house you can tell

But if house is run by son money like vanraj shah house is you tell anything phir bhai bhabhi bolte hain tum kaun ho bolne wali

VVanraj has not allowed dolly to speak and even did not give her property because as per him that house runs on his money not dollys or his fathers

You think he will do arthi of anupama if she tells him what to do being ex wife? Woh banda kavya ko bolne nahi deta hai

Aaaj ka zamana 1950s ya 1970s ka nahi hai jahan bhabhi nand ko pyar aur izzat dethi thi

where daughter can go and say anything even in parents home because brother and his wife will think its interference

anuapma jaisi bhabhi nahi hai kisi ke paas jaise woh dolly ko izzat dethi aur uske baby k sambhalti

todays bhabhi will allow daughter in house few days is very big thing aisa society hogaya hai

What is saw i society i have told thats all

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I am not sure how it works in various parts of india

Anupama casually brings anuj, malvika, GK, little anu, barkha or now dimple to Shah house

First anupama herself is guest in that house (ater divorce shes an outsider only, yes her kids stay there but she has no rights in that house or on shahs by law)

After divorce you have no rights on ex husband house actually as per law

So anupama herself is like guest in that house

But she acts as if shes owner of Shah house and keeps bringing anyone without asking permission to their house

Further she starts making decisions for that house like shes till bahu of Shahs

And anuj does not stop her from doing all this although hes her husband

I mean any husband in anuj place would tell wife to not behave so or do all this way

I mean i have seen husbands tell wife that do not interfere in your mayka let your parents or bhabhi decide even about puja etc you please keep quiet

Here anupama is not shahs daughter also shes just ex bahu

Why cannot GK or anuj tell her how to behave in ex house if she does not understand boundaries after divorce

See if shahs consider anupama as daughter or own atleast it was ok but they hate anyone she brings and ill treat them like GK, anuj, little anu or barkha so better she never take them there at all

This is not 90s or early 2000s where you can take anyone to others house as per your wish even if you are daughter or bahu or son

Even parents house you go and take one friend for few hours or lunch you have to ask permission as its their home. Yes its your home too but they own it

Cannot anupama understand such things? Even 10 year old understand that without pernmission you cannot take an friend or relative to others home uninvited

Specially those people like anuj and kapadiyas whom that house hates

How would anupama like if anuj had ex wife and she comes daily to kapadiya house and orders anupam around as if shes still anuj wife? II seriously hope anuj ex comes and orders anupam around in kapadiyas for her to understand how badly shes behaving at shah house?

Sometimes i think vanraj and baa and toshu are justified by how they get angry at her for inteferring or ordering in their house like shes owner of shah house or bahu there. No human actually likes all this domination anupama doing at shahs. Just sta at kapadiyas your in law and hubby home no.

Even dolly really daughter does not do all this although she has more rights than anupama on shah home as real daughter

And why she go pakhi house when she knows pakhi hates her?

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You said it!!!!!!!

Also, remember Kavya telling Anupama-Anuj. Take some time off for each other without bothering about here. We will take care.

On hindsight, was she implying, now you are being nosy, please mind the Kapadia's 🤔.

Sorry, why interfere in your Mayka?

Well, Sure if you are ok with your Nanad constantly interfering in matters of your sasural, where you are.

Wait a minute, which bhabhi-nanad are we talking about here, again?

Sorry to say but even tagging a bahu as an outsider does not reflect the right mindset. IMO, it's worse than that of paraya dhan.

When it comes to taking care of the house, housekeeping, and elderly parents, bahu has to take ownership but her opinion holds no value. Small or big decisions are taken by nanad ( married one) ...does not make sense.. I suppose.

Would you mind if I ask you that if one decision or opinion is never considered or valued, will that woman be able to become part of that family?

Does any woman like anyone's interference in her home?

It's necessary to draw certain boundaries in every relationship, otherwise, bitterness takes no time to creep into any relationship.

True, and while a girl is definitely still a part of her maayka even after she gets married, she can't interfere in the day to day decisions of the bahu of that house. Imagine, you live in the house and do all the work, take care of the daily chores and activities, the family etc., and someone who lives outside comes and starts to question your decisions or give their unwanted opinions, when they are in fact of no help on other days? It's less about patriarchy and more about who is actually looking after the family and how relations can become so bitter if you allow that, because there will always be conflict.

Just imagine, the bahu takes care of her husband's elderly parents, takes them to the doctor, provides for them etc. And the daughter comes on some random day or once in a while and complains about it and disagrees with everything she is doing. Is that okay? Who is the one actually doing the work? Or even generally if she complains about the way the house is being run. If they want to renovate the house, they might ask for the daughter's opinion sure, but priority goes to the son and daughter in law who are actually living with them.

I agree that the concept of daughter going away to sasuraal and never looking back etc. is crap, but that's not what this is about. Suppose the parents only had a daughter, no son, and she gets married, she'll still have the right to decisions in her parent's house provided they want her to make them.