How can ghar belong to vanraj?

If he is taking credit for building the house on his father's purchased land, then what about the money his father spent to bring him up for atleast 14 years?

If he is an obedient son, how come he did not give up kavya when his parents asked him to?

Vanraj is the most selfish man. He only was nice to his kids to compete and hurt Anu. He always differentiates between samar and his other kids

Originally posted by: suresh555

If he is taking credit for building the house on his father's purchased land, then what about the money his father spent to bring him up for atleast 14 years?

If he is an obedient son, how come he did not give up kavya when his parents asked him to?

Vanraj is the most selfish man. He only was nice to his kids to compete and hurt Anu. He always differentiates between samar and his other kids

I want to see what bapuji says to him in next episode

The problem is honestly not Vanraj's. Anupamaa is more at fault here.

There is a way each and every character can give a monologue on how hard their life has been.

• Leela is at a constant dilemma because most of her motivations are fueled by principles she learnt when she was young.
• Paritosh just wants peace of mind to be able to work at a job he could never have gotten by normal means but he did and now he wants to do justice to it, but is constantly disturbed by problems in his family.
• Pakhi is struggling with hormones, peer pressure and too many revelations that she is too young to handle.
• Kavya has struggled alone all her life and just wants love, she looked for it in Aniruddh but moved on to Vanraj when he got close to her in her vulnerability, and now all she wants is to settle down. She has no greed of any kind of property too.

There...

I gave a pitiful angle to each and every grey character in Anupamaa. But does that justify the wrong that they are doing?

In no bloody way!!!

So Vanraj's so-called pitiful monologue should also not sway anyone!!

Vanraj's mistakes may have been having an EMA or not being honest with Anupamaa.

But his deliberate evil acts were the constant belittling and chauvinistic taunts he made on her, his physical and mental harassment on her and using her as a punching bag for his other frustrations, that lowered her self esteem so much that she used to have panic attacks which she hid from the family up until the VanYa exposition.

The entire family was shocked at it, but viewers were not because they had seen her get those traumatic attacks twice before when she was kicked out of the house, both times by Vanraj.

Vanraj may have been unhappy with an incompatible Anupamaa, but did he ever bear it in silence? No!

He kept reminding her of it directly and indirectly and vented out all of his possible frustrations on her, so why is he justifying his affair as a way to make himself feel better after all his life struggle. Wasn't torturing Anupamaa all day enough??

After all this, if Anupamaa still sees the good in him and wants to give him a convenient closure at the cost of her son's happiness, it's Anupamaa's fault and no one else's.

Originally posted by: luvdesitelly

I want to see what bapuji says to him in next episode

Exactly!

I would love if he asked Vanraj what he would have done if he had an affair and brought home the other woman! 😡

Originally posted by: Anjalika01

Exactly!

I would love if he asked Vanraj what he would have done if he had an affair and brought home the other woman! 😡

Also he should ask Ba. Will Ba still live with Bapuji for sake of Children? She just not having it with Anu. Constant taunting her not to get divorce.

Originally posted by: luvdesitelly

Also he should ask Ba. Will Ba still live with Bapuji for sake of Children? She just not having it with Anu. Constant taunting her not to get divorce.

Yes I am losing hope that Anu would ask such a question ... either Bapuji or Samar should ask Vanraj and Baa and see what they say...

I do agree that Anu is also at a big fault here. One minute we see a strong Anu who will firmly and politely stops baa or vanraj from pushing her with their opinions and then on the other hand, her mahaanta takes over and logic goes out the window. There is no reason why kavya needed to stay with them when nandini lives right across from them. Kavya can easily stay with nandini. There was no reason to tolerate vanraj insulting nandini or forcing samar to apologize.

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

The problem is honestly not Vanraj's. Anupamaa is more at fault here.

There is a way each and every character can give a monologue on how hard their life has been.

• Leela is at a constant dilemma because most of her motivations are fueled by principles she learnt when she was young.
• Paritosh just wants peace of mind to be able to work at a job he could never have gotten by normal means but he did and now he wants to do justice to it, but is constantly disturbed by problems in his family.
• Pakhi is struggling with hormones, peer pressure and too many revelations that she is too young to handle.
• Kavya has struggled alone all her life and just wants love, she looked for it in Aniruddh but moved on to Vanraj when he got close to her in her vulnerability, and now all she wants is to settle down. She has no greed of any kind of property too.

There...

I gave a pitiful angle to each and every grey character in Anupamaa. But does that justify the wrong that they are doing?

In no bloody way!!!

So Vanraj's so-called pitiful monologue should also not sway anyone!!

Vanraj's mistakes may have been having an EMA or not being honest with Anupamaa.

But his deliberate evil acts were the constant belittling and chauvinistic taunts he made on her, his physical and mental harassment on her and using her as a punching bag for his other frustrations, that lowered her self esteem so much that she used to have panic attacks which she hid from the family up until the VanYa exposition.

The entire family was shocked at it, but viewers were not because they had seen her get those traumatic attacks twice before when she was kicked out of the house, both times by Vanraj.

Vanraj may have been unhappy with an incompatible Anupamaa, but did he ever bear it in silence? No!

He kept reminding her of it directly and indirectly and vented out all of his possible frustrations on her, so why is he justifying his affair as a way to make himself feel better after all his life struggle. Wasn't torturing Anupamaa all day enough??

After all this, if Anupamaa still sees the good in him and wants to give him a convenient closure at the cost of her son's happiness, it's Anupamaa's fault and no one else's.

Such a good analysis...

Honestly I wouldn’t go as far as to say Anupama is more culpable than Vanraj let alone more (in any situation we have seen so far)...

She just isn’t the perfect goddess CVs want us to believe she is...

Anu IS partly responsible for the way Toshu and Pankhi turned out. They didn’t enter her life as the 24 and 16 year olds they are respectively today...

She WAS wrong to reprimand Samar and Kinjal for Vanraj’s sake...

And if she makes the decision to remain in this house even now, like you said that is a huge mistake on Anu’s part that will place her character firmly in the “beyond help” category.