sort out fialures in life - need help

Hi ,

this is going to be a long post , so please bear with me ..this is about someone's life and really need some advice .

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In love, its important to be open and trust one another. Girl Q had a bad relationship with Guy A and she opened her self up to Guy B.

Originally posted by: Rebeliouskid

In love, its important to be open and trust one another. Girl Q had a bad relationship with Guy A and she opened her self up to Guy B.

I guess over here you can see that maybe Guy B could've been apprehensive, since Girl Q loved Guy A alot.girl Q didnt love Guy A ...she accepted his proposal coz he was her very close friend and she cudnt see him in pain ..which he seemed to be pulling off all along ....

Guy B seems like the possesive type. I guess, Girl Q should've told Guy B that she was talking to Guy A. Like, its not really a bad thing - Guy A started the conversation first.Girl Q started the conversattion first , coz she felt she deserves to know why that happened to her ..and more why he did that to her.... So maybe, Guy B thought she was doing something, ykno? Since he already knew about the history about their relationship and just secretly finding out that she talked to him (even if it was a short conversation where Girl Q held her love for Guy B) was not really right.agreed

All I can say is that, in Love, you need to be totally understanding. Both of the partners. Openly, and just accept one another. And trust one another. Be able to tell one another everything. (In this case, Girl Q already did by treating Guy B like a best friend).

I believe that love can happen soo many times, but we only have 1 life to live right? Then why not wait for true love?

In this case, i think it was just love. Or else he wouldnt have left Girl Q and not tried to even just listen to her. You know, when you fall in love, you try to excuse every single bad deed that person has done. Like, lets say "This and this bad thing happened" and then the girl would be in denial, and wont be able to accept it. she did accept all her mistakes and was willing to recitify that but gues sthat was too late When a time comes to being able to fix it, she grabs that chance. Then, when Girl Q wanted to explain her circumstances, why didnt Guy B grab the chance?

Girl Q shouldnt wait. If they are meant to be, hearing about Girl Q's marriage will make Guy B come back to her. If not, then Girl Q deserves better.Guy B knows that ..but he said he has made himself understand that they cant be together ..atleast he doesnt want to be with her .

Andddd, Girl Q better not be rushing into a marriage just to forget about Guy B.Its been a year since they brokeup .

I know this advice is easier to read than follow. Time heals everything. Just take your mind off of him (Im assuming your Girl Q?) and get busier with other stuff. Like, be the best you can be and make him regret that he lost you just by being your wonderful self. In the process, smile more :)

Its not like your luck is bad or anything that you keep on running into guys that break your heart. Its better to know now that the dudes arent capable of your love, than finding out when you're married to one of them, right?yeah thats true ..coz she even asked him ..if all that happened after marriage wudhe have given her divorce and he said yes he wud have divorced her ...
so i guess its good that all that happened at earlier stage .

---- Mimzy

Thanks Mimzy a lot for your advice ...

I may be making assumptions here, but Guy B doesn't at all seem like a trustworthy and understanding person to me. To begin with, he knew about Girl Q's past relationships, and he was the one who proposed, yet after sometime he couldn't trust her anymore?! How ridiculous is that!?

Secondly, he was insecure because she talked to girls?! Really, that means that he didn't trust her that much, and in a relationship, trust is one essential ingredient!

Thirdly, he broke up with her because she has net friends! How does that matter in his relationship with her. I'm sure she gave him the time he deserved and he should be happy that she got more friends and is happy in her life. After all, love is about making the other happy, but in this case he was angry at her for having net friends that she loved.

Now, he has friends that are girls, so what kind of hypocrisy is that? He was reserved when it came to her, but now he's got friends that are girls and that's totally cool!

I believe that for a relationship to be successful, you need trust, love, compromise, and understanding between two people. As much as Girl Q is trying her best to add these things to the relationship, Guy B has none of these to offer.

So I would suggest that Girl Q forget about the Guy B and move on in life. I'm sure she deserves much better anyway. And anyways, it's important to marry a guy who respects you and understands you, if Guy B can't do that, then he's not worth it.

I may have been way too critical of Guy B but those are the things I could assume from the incidents you've described.

I wish Girl Q all the very best!

-Mahi

Originally posted by: -Mystery-

I may be making assumptions here, but Guy B doesn't at all seem like a trustworthy and understanding person to me. To begin with, he knew about Girl Q's past relationships, and he was the one who proposed, yet after sometime he couldn't trust her anymore?! How ridiculous is that!?

Secondly, he was insecure because she talked to girls?! Really, that means that he didn't trust her that much, and in a relationship, trust is one essential ingredient!

Thirdly, he broke up with her because she has net friends! How does that matter in his relationship with her. I'm sure she gave him the time he deserved and he should be happy that she got more friends and is happy in her life. After all, love is about making the other happy, but in this case he was angry at her for having net friends that she loved.

Now, he has friends that are girls, so what kind of hypocrisy is that? He was reserved when it came to her, but now he's got friends that are girls and that's totally cool!

I believe that for a relationship to be successful, you need trust, love, compromise, and understanding between two people. As much as Girl Q is trying her best to add these things to the relationship, Guy B has none of these to offer.

So I would suggest that Girl Q forget about the Guy B and move on in life. I'm sure she deserves much better anyway. And anyways, it's important to marry a guy who respects you and understands you, if Guy B can't do that, then he's not worth it.

I may have been way too critical of Guy B but those are the things I could assume from the incidents you've described.

I wish Girl Q all the very best!

-Mahi

thanks mahi ..😊