Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai actor Karan Mehra was arrested after his wife Nisha Rawal filed an FIR against him for alleged assault. The actor was then granted bail today morning. The complaint was filed under IPC sections 336 (endangering human life or the personal safety others), 337 (causing hurt by an act which endangers human life), 332 (voluntarily causing hurt to deter public servant from his duty), 504 (intentional insult with intent to provoke breach of the peace) and 506 (punishment for criminal intimidation).
In an exclusive conversation with India Forums, Karan narrated his side of the story to us where he spoke about Nisha's bipolarity, how things have been difficult for him over the years and what went down last night.
What do you think went wrong that lead to the present situation?
The relationship was already going through this strain for the past 3 years and it reached a point where it couldn't go further, she was so violent she can get and I was done with it, so by the end of April wherein she said why don't we separate and I was like okay let's do it, I can't hold onto this anymore. Once I came back, I got COVID-19 so I was already unwell, and then once I was out, on 25th, I am still recovering because you don't have strength, and then the discussion wasn't going any further. I called her brother Rohit Sethiya that you intervene because otherwise, it won't happen if something has to be done amicably because she was then telling that 'I will play dirty, call criminal lawyers' but I was still saying that nothing will come out of it because otherwise, it makes no sense. We have a small kid together, how can you make anything out of nothing when his future is at stake. We can be cordial about the thing, we are separating, that is okay, but how gracefully we do it is the question. Things kept escalating and then it came to the financial aspect where she says that she wants an 'x' amount and I am telling her that it is not possible because I don't earn so much to commit to that amount. I don't understand how can I commit where we don't know what is going to happen tomorrow. I have to do something, I will support as much as I can.
What was the turn of events last night leading to the arrest?
Last night I was sleeping because I sleep early due to COVID-19 and then Rohit came and we spoke about everything where I said I can do this and I will try to do as much as I can because I can't be living up to the expectation. This is a divorce and we aren't getting married with a list. If I am earning Re. 1 then I can't promise Rs. 3, because how will I do it. He said I can't do anything and you go legal, and I said that okay if that is what has to be done so be it. I spoke to my mother and told her that this is what is happening and we will file in court, something that I was avoiding. While talking to her, Nisha barged in and started shouting and then my mom also heard and I said nothing, let me speak to her. She started abusing my mother, my father, and the family saying that you have spoiled my life, but I said if that is the thing then we are separating right. If there has been so much trouble in 14 years then you should have parted ways earlier only, but today, I am telling you that I don't want to be together. When I am trying to take divorce then why will I mess things up.
This is not my nature, be it her bipolar phase, from the last 5-6 years I am living with patience, it gets so difficult as a human for me. Even someone like me has lost his patience. I was suicidal in the month of May and June last year, because that's how much I was tortured but I gave myself a chance that I have to do this for the child because how much will someone endure.- Karan Mehra
Then she started abusing and tried to get physical and then I was like don't do it. She spat on me, and I said I don't want to do this, we will talk in court, whatever has to be done. I went to the washroom to clean myself and asked her to leave the room and I simply wanted to stop things from going further. While in the washroom, she told me 'ab dekho main kya karti hoon' and then I left to see what is she doing, she smashed her head against the edge of the wall and started bleeding. I was in shock and then she went out and told her brother that I did this. Her brother then started abusing me and hit me, but I said don't do this and ask her the truth about what has happened. I said there is a camera at home and ask her and let's see the proof but I saw that the cameras are off, so basically it is a planned thing. Then they took out their phones and said that this is what Karan did, while I am standing on the side wondering I did not even touch her. I am like how foolish is this, you are not even understanding that there is a child that we have. This is not my nature, be it her bipolar phase, from the last 5-6 years I am living with patience, it gets so difficult as a human for me. Even someone like me has lost his patience. I was suicidal in the month of May and June last year, because that's how much I was tortured but I gave myself a chance that I have to do this for the child because how much will someone endure. Then the police were called and I was like wow, this is how it is because I could never imagine that someone I have protected for 14 years is doing this. Then the police came and we came to the police station, they registered what they had to register and then I got bail. They heard their side of the story as they are trying to put so many more allegations on me, and they questioned that if so many things happened through the year, then why didn't you speak earlier. If things happened earlier then you should have spoken about it earlier. They have also threatened my mother, my brother, my father, and me. That's how things have become.
Have there been past instances of violence?
She always had had a physical tone of violence and when she is angry, something that has always been there like throwing things away and I did not understand back then because you are also young and you don't understand. Before Kavish is when we diagnosed her with bipolarity and then her medication started. Over the years, we have consulted a psychiatrist, trying to mellow things down and we tried stuff but nothing worked. I am a very patient person but all my patience has been used up now.
I have always had this thing that let it go, I'll try to handle things, even if it is violence, or whatever, but yes you are scared that she might go say anything or do something and it is so uncertain for me that even I get shaken up. Whether I am supposed to go out and work or manage my house or what am I to do, it gets very hard.- Karan Mehra
Nisha filed an FIR. The female side of the story is often given more emphasis, is that something that worries you?
Of course, over the years, I have always had this thing that let it go, I'll try to handle things, even if it is violence, or whatever, but yes you are scared that she might go say anything or do something and it is so uncertain for me that even I get shaken up. Whether I am supposed to go out and work or manage my house or what am I to do, it gets very hard. If I was whatever she is claiming, and I am sure we will hear new stories, but people have seen how she treats me and when everyone has seen it, then what am I supposed to say. I feel like I should have ended things earlier itself.
Do you regret not having taken an action earlier?
I wanted to do things but I prayed things didn't happen but today it is clear what she wants and how she wants it. Now, I don't have any option but to fight it out because I can't even go to my house.
We also tried to reach out to Nisha for a comment, however, she remained unavailable.