The Devil's Own - For the 'Love' of 'Possession'

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Hiii you all lovely people 🤗

First up, hearty congratulations to all the promoted members - new Senior Members, Goldies and Stunnerz 👏 I can gather it's quite a big deal in the forum world 😊 So, well done to all of you 😊

And if she is reading this, Belated Happy Birthday to Melissa 🤗⭐️ May you have a lovely year ahead and a lovely life - God bless 😊

Sorry, I was caught up with a lot on the family front - so couldn't wish everyone separately. Hope everybody is doing great 😃

Now coming to the post 😃

Yesterday's episode was quite eventful but it pulled the fangirl and the critic in me in very opposite directions 😕 The fangirl was obviously rejoicing seeing the Handsome Devil huffing and puffing all the way for his girl - something I'm sure many of us must be waiting to watch 😳

...but the critic in me ultimately raised its head and won the battle 😃

NO, CVs, you haven't convinced me and I AM DISAPPOINTED!

No amount of huffing and puffing is going to convince me that Shaurya is in "love" with Mehek. He just loves his possession - the girl who is his very own, the girl who comes running to him at the slightest provocation - a painful cry or a thought of trouble in his world and she is at his feet. How can that girl go off with someone else? She is MINE, my 'property' - so to say. That's all I can see Shaurie boy! I can see the confession round the corner - something to the tune of "I love you dammit!" is close enough but I am sorry - I cannot see your "love" for HER.

I have always disliked the entry of third angles in love stories because they are the most cliched, easiest (and perhaps the most popular) way of forcing the "love" realization on the protagonists. That's why I was dreading this but then Kanta chachi had to do it 👎🏼 You had my respect before this but not any more 🤢 I totally understand from where your concern is coming - Mehek needs to be taken away from Shaurya but couldn't moving MDH very far from White Chillies been your first step?? Of course, our Devil would have come huffing and puffing there too - as Mehek rightly predicted - but then there were ways to deal with that. How can you assume by marrying her off you will be able to take Shaurya out of her system??? If anything, she will pine more for him, her life would become miserable, and she would never be able to do justice to her marriage or the man you wish to marry her off to. Won't that create greater trouble in the life of the daughter you so claim to love?? Tsk, tsk - I don't approve at all Kanta 👎🏼 Bad step - PERIOD! Anyway, how are you better than Shaurya then - he is forcing her in some way, you are forcing her in another - who is thinking about the girl??

As for the new kabootar in the team - Kanta chachi, your daughter is heartbroken - if at all, she needs a sensitive, good man to do damage control. Not a moron who is after her business - and how easily you give it away to him 😲 It is not for you to give away Mehek's business - let her decide!

Now, coming to Mehek - I have a simple advice for you and here it is-

Before you melt at his confession and go running back into his arms, please ensure you have earned his respect. Because if you haven't - once he has you in his possession - you will be relegated to a doormat once again - his punching board, place of peace, and of course object of desire - BUT not an individual and far from being his equal! And you (or any human being for that matter) deserves to be treated as an individual and equal in any relationship before anything else.

ST has this chronic problem of not being able to show emotional character development (with the exception of RK). His protagonists fall in love overnight - without rhyme or reason. However, in his other shows, there have been dynamics besides the love stories, and of course the chemistry - that make for interesting watch. The case is different with ZKM because here there is very little apart from the love story (and chemistry). If he fails to show character development this time, I'm afraid the show will fall flat 🤢 I had some hope in the previous episode - post the cold storage drama - when Mehek's silence expressed her dislike of Shaurya's joke and they walked back in silence - he at a distance from her - not interfering or dominating, a bit pensive and thoughtful, letting her go when she wishes to, not counteracting or imposing. That seemed like a beginning of a mutually respectful, understanding relationship but the very next day we had Sandy 💔

CVs, I really hope you don't disappoint me in the coming episodes. I want to see Mehek grow, I want to see Shaurya grow. And if you think the moral of your story - the struggles of a homemaker - are equivalent to the struggles of a submissive, ever loving, ever dominated, ever exploited girl - then it will be a very wrong message to send across. However, I will give you benefit of doubt now and wait to see how the story unfolds from here.

Bye bye everyone - take care and happy watching!

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dsr11

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Originally posted by: allforlove
CVs, I really hope you don't disappoint me in the coming episodes. I want to see Mehek grow, I want to see Shaurya grow. And if you think the moral of your story - the struggles of a homemaker - are equivalent to the struggles of a submissive, ever loving, ever dominated, ever exploited girl - then it will be a very wrong message to send across. However, I will give you benefit of doubt now and wait to see how the story unfolds from here.

Yes. Growth is what I wish to see in both these characters. Otherwise. shallow love declarations don't mean much, though I would love one at the moment from him. That's a tiny step forward for his character. There must be a resolve in both of them to work on making their relationship healthier before formalizing it. Mahek needs to be more assertive and Shaurya needs to be more accommodating. In the meanwhile, Mahek can build her business.

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Originally posted by: allforlove

CVs, I really hope you don't disappoint me in the coming episodes. I want to see Mehek grow, I want to see Shaurya grow. And if you think the moral of your story - the struggles of a homemaker - are equivalent to the struggles of a submissive, ever loving, ever dominated, ever exploited girl - then it will be a very wrong message to send across. However, I will give you benefit of doubt now and wait to see how the story unfolds from here.

I'm happy that yesterday's episode made you to write a post and we got a chance to read your take on it 😊 And i loved it once again 👏

@ bold ... So true, cannot agree more on this. I started watching this show because i expected it to break the stereotypes associated with homemakers and what we are getting is complete opposite of the same

Regarding Kanta Chachi, I agree she might be a bit irrational when we see it from a viewers perspective. Personally, even i don't find marriage as a solution to the problem but as i wrote in another post of mine, I don't find chachi's stance completely wrong either. Hasn't she stood by her side during all that mahila morcha thing and whatever followed after half marriage?? Whatever chachi saw on holi must have been the breaking point. When i tried to dig a bit deep into her mind i found her fears to be very genuine. She might have given mehak all the love and care that a real mother could have but at the end of the day, her concerns are bigger for mehak than a parent has for one's own kids.She is not her real daughter and that's the bitter truth. What if she didn't take any action and something happened between SK and MS. That guy will again try to run away just by paying the price 🤢 Fears of such a scenario are looming large and according to chachi only another guy in her life can protect her from the wrath of this man ( seeing how well the girl can stand up for herself )

Most surprising and important aspect for me in this entire story has been the faulty notions of love, trust and respect shown by the Girl herself. She could have easily made chachi believe in her by standing firm on her ground that she indeed wants to make an identity of her own and may be not now but she will give her 100% efforts in getting over this JERK. But what is one possibly supposed to do when your actions contradict your words big time. I have one thing to say. Start taking responsibilty of your actions otherwise keep quiet and see other people meddling in your affairs. She has involved her family everytime in this matter. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. Now, when the water is above the danger mark someone had to take matter in control. And, now the chance is gone that you can blame someone. Face the repercussions.

Logical thing would have been , instead of resorting to show her respect for family by agreeing to this marriage, mehak should have made chachi understand that one last chance should be given to her to take herself and the family out of this mess. And to make this thing believable, strength and determination in one's eyes should be visible, which i'm very sorry to say was nowhere to be seen

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Such a wonderful analysis, yeah even I am not convinced that Shaurya is in love. Its more about posession, it was a massage to his ego, Mehak wanting him and even staying at his home just for him. I know it sounds very cliche, but love is not just wanting the person you love, but wanting whats best for the person.

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Dhwani Dixit

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Originally posted by: geek108
@allforlove
Such a wonderful analysis, yeah even I am not convinced that Shaurya is in love. Its more about posession, it was a massage to his ego, Mehak wanting him and even staying at his home just for him. I know it sounds very cliche, but love is not just wanting the person you love, but wanting whats best for the person.

I would say that Shaurya loves her in his own twisted way. He is very protective about her.

He doesnt want to admit he loves her but he does. He isn't able to express his feelings properly.

I also feel Mehrya need to speak and resolve the issues between them. Mehek has tried a lot from her side to make the relationship work but now i want Shaurya to put in more efforts and both of them to have a open communication and work towards making their relationship work.

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The problem is over a short period of time Mehak has gone through a lot of emotional trauma & nobody has had a heart to heart conversation with her,she has been condemned, criticised, heard complaints, instead of being appreciated, acknowledged, all that she has been doing was taken for granted as if it was expected, to an extent it's Mehak's own fault for the way she is being treated, she allowed herself to be disrespected, you know it's said you can't force people to respect you, but you can refuse to be treated with disrespect, at the moment she looks like a helpless butterfly caught in the net,being torn apart in the egoistic war of Kanta & Shaurya, trying to pull her in their direction,her own feelings ignored & overlooked.It's better to face the hard truth than to give in- the comfort of sweet lies!!

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Originally posted by: dsr11

Yes. Growth is what I wish to see in both these characters. Otherwise. shallow love declarations don't mean much, though I would love one at the moment from him. That's a tiny step forward for his character. There must be a resolve in both of them to work on making their relationship healthier before formalizing it. Mahek needs to be more assertive and Shaurya needs to be more accommodating. In the meanwhile, Mahek can build her business.

Yes, this would be the way to go. If Shaurie successfully stops this marriage, he should let her be at peace from his end too - just stand by her and let her build her business on her own. That would be like a true lover's gift to her 😊 They will understand each other in the meantime and be able to better complement each other in a more lasting relationship then. Donno how good the 'drama' quotient would be in that though - but if the writers are good, they can definitely make it work.

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I'm happy that yesterday's episode made you to write a post and we got a chance to read your take on it 😊 And i loved it once again 👏

Thanks sooo much as always, Stella. Here's a hug for you 🤗

@ bold ... So true, cannot agree more on this. I started watching this show because i expected it to break the stereotypes associated with homemakers and what we are getting is complete opposite of the same

This has happened so many times with me - begin with an expectation of breaking the stereotypes and end up disappointed but still keeping my hopes up for this one's sake...Let's see if it can rise to our expectations.

Regarding Kanta Chachi, I agree she might be a bit irrational when we see it from a viewers perspective. Personally, even i don't find marriage as a solution to the problem but as i wrote in another post of mine, I don't find chachi's stance completely wrong either. Hasn't she stood by her side during all that mahila morcha thing and whatever followed after half marriage?? Whatever chachi saw on holi must have been the breaking point. When i tried to dig a bit deep into her mind i found her fears to be very genuine. She might have given mehak all the love and care that a real mother could have but at the end of the day, her concerns are bigger for mehak than a parent has for one's own kids.She is not her real daughter and that's the bitter truth. What if she didn't take any action and something happened between SK and MS. That guy will again try to run away just by paying the price 🤢 Fears of such a scenario are looming large and according to chachi only another guy in her life can protect her from the wrath of this man ( seeing how well the girl can stand up for herself )

You do have a valid point there. I can reconsider her stance and indeed a repetition of the Holi scenario could lead to dangerous consequences but I still maintain that marriage wouldn't solve the problem. It would probably have if Mehek was less involved or less in love but not in the present mindset. Instead, Kanta chachi should have tried her best to help her focus on her business and become more self-reliant somehow. From my personal experience I can tell that marrying off a girl who is so in love with another man leads only to disaster and more heartbreak. Marriage is an emotional and physical commitment of a very high level and if you are not in it mentally, you cannot be in it in any other way. When she is so much in love with Shaurya, when the wounds are so fresh, when he occupies her every thought, she cannot marry another guy and be faithful to him. Believing that the guy would help her come out is expecting something very unreal from him - that too in an arranged marriage - and the least said of her choice, the better 🤢

Most surprising and important aspect for me in this entire story has been the faulty notions of love, trust and respect shown by the Girl herself. She could have easily made chachi believe in her by standing firm on her ground that she indeed wants to make an identity of her own and may be not now but she will give her 100% efforts in getting over this JERK. But what is one possibly supposed to do when your actions contradict your words big time. I have one thing to say. Start taking responsibilty of your actions otherwise keep quiet and see other people meddling in your affairs. She has involved her family everytime in this matter. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. Now, when the water is above the danger mark someone had to take matter in control. And, now the chance is gone that you can blame someone. Face the repercussions.

Yes, here, you are absolutely right - Mehek is somewhat responsible for her situation. She hasn't been able to remain true to her words. But then again, it is too soon. She is very much in love and it takes time to get over such strong feelings. By nature too, she has always been soft and gullible. Opening her business in front of Shaurya's hotel was a wrong step - she should have stayed faaar away from him. Eventually, there was a chance that she would have learnt to live with the heartbreak (because forgetting is not possible) and start over afresh. Now, with him all the time around her - how will she get over?? Most definitely, she CANNOT have her cake and eat it too! Yesterday, at least, she could have asked chachi to give her once more chance; instead, she obliged her and again gave in to the stronger character (as she always does with Shaurya). She must find her own voice soon.

Logical thing would have been , instead of resorting to show her respect for family by agreeing to this marriage, mehak should have made chachi understand that one last chance should be given to her to take herself and the family out of this mess. And to make this thing believable, strength and determination in one's eyes should be visible, which i'm very sorry to say was nowhere to be seen

Yes, ditto! Time she shows some spunk. And since her strength comes from her love - she should learn to love herself and her work as much as she loves her family and Shaurya!

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Originally posted by: geek108
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Such a wonderful analysis, yeah even I am not convinced that Shaurya is in love. Its more about posession, it was a massage to his ego, Mehak wanting him and even staying at his home just for him. I know it sounds very cliche, but love is not just wanting the person you love, but wanting whats best for the person.

Thanks so much dear 😊

@bold Very true, this!

Shaurya does love her in his way but he doesn't understand it's true meaning yet. He sees only one side of it - possession - but there are many more shades to it. It needs effort and sacrifice and understanding. He needs to learn to respect her, her wishes, her emotions. He cannot keep demanding only, he has to start giving now.

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Originally posted by: ms.nitya12
The problem is over a short period of time Mehak has gone through a lot of emotional trauma & nobody has had a heart to heart conversation with her,she has been condemned, criticised, heard complaints, instead of being appreciated, acknowledged, all that she has been doing was taken for granted as if it was expected, to an extent it's Mehak's own fault for the way she is being treated, she allowed herself to be disrespected, you know it's said you can't force people to respect you, but you can refuse to be treated with disrespect, at the moment she looks like a helpless butterfly caught in the net,being torn apart in the egoistic war of Kanta & Shaurya, trying to pull her in their direction,her own feelings ignored & overlooked.It's better to face the hard truth than to give in- the comfort of sweet lies!!

Yes, I agree. It's ironic that Shaurya won't speak and Mehek doesn't have anyone to speak to. Both of them need to communicate with each other and Mehek must first learn to respect herself if she expects other people to respect her. She is just too soft for people like Shaurya and Kanta. One is bulldozing his way into her life, the other is bulldozing her into letting another person in into her life. When will she find her own life?

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