The poor kuhu narrative

I watched the Friday epi and read almost all type of versions on how mishti shouldn’t have snooped around, though kuhu was not justified in slapping her or people justifying kuhu in her anger and frustration, and that she hates drama in her life which is what led to this slap..

Though this mishti letting kuhu’s secret out unknowingly though reminded me of another parallel on the show when kuhu knowingly and deliberately let mishti and abir’s secret out.. bcoz she wanted bp to reject their relationship..

I don’t think if mishti got to know that kuhu was behind letting jas and the family know of her relationship with Abir, even then she would have behaved like kuhu did, she would have let go just like she did when she got to know about kuhu sending that email..

Did mishti bring that slap on herself?? maybe yes but that is the extent of her involvement in the divorce fiasco.. I don’t even think she deserves any mention after this stage.. now it is time for kuhu to face the consequences of her actions and let Kunal face his rather than bringing mishti into this...

Originally posted by: Isolophiliac00

I watched the Friday epi and read almost all type of versions on how mishti shouldn’t have snooped around, though kuhu was not justified in slapping her or people justifying kuhu in her anger and frustration, and that she hates drama in her life which is what led to this slap..

Though this mishti letting kuhu’s secret out unknowingly though reminded me of another parallel on the show when kuhu knowingly and deliberately let mishti and abir’s secret out.. bcoz she wanted bp to reject their relationship..

I don’t think if mishti got to know that kuhu was behind letting jas and the family know of her relationship with Abir, even then she would have behaved like kuhu did, she would have let go just like she did when she got to know about kuhu sending that email..

Did mishti bring that slap on herself?? maybe yes but that is the extent of her involvement in the divorce fiasco.. I don’t even think she deserves any mention after this stage.. now it is time for kuhu to face the consequences of her actions and let Kunal face his rather than bringing mishti into this...

My thoughts exactly it's about kunal and kuhu not kuhu and Mishti during divorce fiasco kuhu clearly said it's her decision and Mishti agreed don't know why she's dragging mishti into this..it's all kunal's fault he played this..and he's solely responsible and before their marriage both kuhu and kunal took efforts to break mishbir..poor mishbir why do they have to suffer for this 😒

Yes exactly..the divorce issue is between kuhu and Kunal.Mishti should not be dragged into it.

In this show whatever happens they have got a habit of putting all the blame on Mishti.

Hope Kunal comes clean but have got least expectation now

Originally posted by: Isolophiliac00

I watched the Friday epi and read almost all type of versions on how mishti shouldn’t have snooped around, though kuhu was not justified in slapping her or people justifying kuhu in her anger and frustration, and that she hates drama in her life which is what led to this slap..

Though this mishti letting kuhu’s secret out unknowingly though reminded me of another parallel on the show when kuhu knowingly and deliberately let mishti and abir’s secret out.. bcoz she wanted bp to reject their relationship..

I don’t think if mishti got to know that kuhu was behind letting jas and the family know of her relationship with Abir, even then she would have behaved like kuhu did, she would have let go just like she did when she got to know about kuhu sending that email..

Did mishti bring that slap on herself?? maybe yes but that is the extent of her involvement in the divorce fiasco.. I don’t even think she deserves any mention after this stage.. now it is time for kuhu to face the consequences of her actions and let Kunal face his rather than bringing mishti into this...

@bold: Exactly. Mishti would never react like Kuhu did even if she learnt all that Kuhu had done to ruin her and Abir's relationship......she has taken far worse abuse from Kuhu for many years and never slapped her for any of it.

And yet "poor Kuhu" is suddenly totally justified in slapping Mishti cuz Mishti snooped in her papers.

Such is the justice in this story😆

The writers are going out of their way to justify that slap for Mishti and it is so very easy for people to dismiss Mishti as if she alone carries the weight of all nosy ITV leads.....lol meanwhile "poor Kuhu" gets off scott free as usual.....as you said, "the poor Kuhu narrative" indeed....😆. Since it is a narrative that is being forced into the story, I doubt Kuhu will face any consequences of her actions. She hasn't even made Kunal face anything in so long, why will she start now.....Mishti is the easier target for her and for many here who justify her😆

What it boils down to - Kuhu is a selfish brat. She knows she is illegitiamate and rather than trying win over love in her own worth, she acted a spoilt brat and got away with it. So deep down she is insecure and fearful, useses her brash exteriro to go through life but when it matters, she falls apart and tries to blame the nearest person. In this case it is Mishti, who due to her own background, never stood up strongly for herself. That became their pattern all through life.

Kuhu doesn't matter to me in terms of the story. She is a prop. What concerns me is that rather than showing proper growth and repentance, she is just getting away with things to cause upheaval in Misbir life whether it makes sense or not. In real life we would stay away from these type of people because we would know there is something seriously wrong with them!

However one thing made it clear that Kuhu is a murderess in the making. She tried to kill Mishti (dahi handi scene) when she decided all the events in her life going wrong was because of M. Now no matter what, I will always consider her a psycho and one never to be trusted. It worries me that Meenakshi, a clever woman, had been concerned about these two's relationship because as a mother she knew her sons will take their wives sides and therefore their relationship may break but she wrongly put the blame on Mishti. No one ever thought that it was Kuhu who is broken beyond repair. Kuhu who cannot cope with life and then thinks to get rid of her person she feels responsible for the mess in her life. I wonder, when Mishti gets married and wins over people, would Kuhu think to trip her down the stairs to hurt M? she might just then kill her! or will she think 'let me spoil something M cooked so people will get ill and blame her?' again she might end up killing. In her mind there is no right or wrong, no moral code of ethics because when she decides to blame someone they will be punished!

So a slap is nothing to her but to everyone else it is a big thing. I just hope some people's eyes are opened after this event, maybe even think why is Kuhu always trying to blame M?...maybe not. She is being used as a prop to push Mishbir's internal and external story no matter it is just wrong.

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

What it boils down to - Kuhu is a selfish brat. She knows she is illegitiamate and rather than trying win over love in her own worth, she acted a spoilt brat and got away with it. So deep down she is insecure and fearful, useses her brash exteriro to go through life but when it matters, she falls apart and tries to blame the nearest person. In this case it is Mishti, who due to her own background, never stood up strongly for herself. That became their pattern all through life.

Kuhu doesn't matter to me in terms of the story. She is a prop. What concerns me is that rather than showing proper growth and repentance, she is just getting away with things to cause upheaval in Misbir life whether it makes sense or not. In real life we would stay away from these type of people because we would know there is something seriously wrong with them!

So a slap is nothing to her but to everyone else it is a big thing. I just hope some people's eyes are opened after this event, maybe even think why is Kuhu always trying to blame M?...maybe not. She is being used as a prop to push Mishbir's internal and external story no matter it is just wrong.

@bold: Exactly. The most important thing to note here is that she got away with being a brat and throwing tantrums, blaming Mishti without cause many times. She still gets away with it and bullies Mishti. And when there is no accountability, bullies turn into megalomaniacs and start pushing the limits of what is "acceptable". Deep down, all bullies are essentially cowards hiding their own insecurities by lashing out at and trying to demean others. This sums up Kuhu's behavior right now.

To a megalomaniac, anything is justifiable by playing victim. Kuhu is morphing from a bully into a megalomaniac at this rate and without any check to her behavior, it will only get worse.

It's very sad when people "both sides" situations like this.....when you erase the baseline of what is right and wrong behavior, then it might as well be a jungle law here.....if anything goes, and everyone's perspective is justified....even those who abuse, then might as well watch everything burn down. There can be no peace or order then.

I don't think the slap is going to open any eyes.....look around this forum only....have any eyes been opened? lol people are justifying the slap as Kuhu's right to lash out at meddling Mishti.

Yes, the writers are using her as a prop to create contrived conflicts...... but that is the case with most "villains" in a story...they are props to challenge the heroes....but Kuhu technically is not a "villain" here. The irony is that the writers are trying to portray Kuhu as simply "misguided" and underplaying all her abusive behavior in the process......this is why this is beyond a simple case of a prop for drama.....they are sending out very dangerous "both sides" arguments and this is where society devolves. When anyone can play victim to justify even their abusive behavior.

Someone may speak up for Mishti. We only saw pieces of the precap. Jasmeet is being real extra and I don’t believe the family will agree with her ultimatum in the precap. She also called Parul a naukrani, so Kunal’s truth will come out to the whole fam at some point, furthering their insecurities. Bottom line, Abir and Mishti need to run far away for awhile!

Definitely! Kuhu was being a bully in most of situations leading up to this, and even in the Precap that fact that she blamed Mishti for her divorce showcases how she is not justified. This divorce is because of only Kuhu and Kunal, and not anyone else even Meenakshi. For this reason, I want Mishbir and Kuku both to solve their problems by talking separately, without the influence of both of their families.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@bold: Exactly. The most important thing to note here is that she got away with being a brat and throwing tantrums, blaming Mishti without cause many times. She still gets away with it and bullies Mishti. And when there is no accountability, bullies turn into megalomaniacs and start pushing the limits of what is "acceptable". Deep down, all bullies are essentially cowards hiding their own insecurities by lashing out at and trying to demean others. This sums up Kuhu's behavior right now.

To a megalomaniac, anything is justifiable by playing victim. Kuhu is morphing from a bully into a megalomaniac at this rate and without any check to her behavior, it will only get worse.

It's very sad when people "both sides" situations like this.....when you erase the baseline of what is right and wrong behavior, then it might as well be a jungle law here.....if anything goes, and everyone's perspective is justified....even those who abuse, then might as well watch everything burn down. There can be no peace or order then.

I don't think the slap is going to open any eyes.....look around this forum only....have any eyes been opened? lol people are justifying the slap as Kuhu's right to lash out at meddling Mishti.

Yes, the writers are using her as a prop to create contrived conflicts...... but that is the case with most "villains" in a story...they are props to challenge the heroes....but Kuhu technically is not a "villain" here. The irony is that the writers are trying to portray Kuhu as simply "misguided" and underplaying all her abusive behavior in the process......this is why this is beyond a simple case of a prop for drama.....they are sending out very dangerous "both sides" arguments and this is where society devolves. When anyone can play victim to justify even their abusive behavior.

Sorry I disagree with you in terms of the slap. No one should slap each other, it doesn't matter what they show, violence doesn't resort to anything. But I don't think people are justifying Kuhu's behavior from the beginning up to now. I think people are justifying why she was furious. And in all honesty, she has every right to be. In the U.S, the reveal of personal information to even a parent or spouse without that person's consent can be chargeable, under HIPPA regulations. When Mishti tried opening it once, which was accidental the first time, Kuhu made it clear that she does not want her to read it. The fact that did it again knowingly is the problem here. However that is the extent of Mishti's mistake, should she be blamed for the divorce? Of course not! She had nothing to do with it, even the reveal was accidental. But Mishti looking at someone else's information was wrong, no matter what her intentions were, especially after Kuhu told her to not look at it is wrong. Kuhu is not a victim here, a lot of it was her own doing, but she definitely has had an invasion of privacy. It may be just deserts, as she has done this to Mishti before as well, but that is where our biases come in. Should we call a mistake out even if someone bad has been in the receiving end of it? I guess, in conclusion what I am trying to say is that I am not justifying Kuhu's previous actions, but her getting mad at Mishti for opening her letter is justified, although it does not give her the justification to pin it all on Mishti, as it was not her fault.

Originally posted by: Aishu13

Sorry I disagree with you in terms of the slap. No one should slap each other, it doesn't matter what they show, violence doesn't resort to anything. But I don't think people are justifying Kuhu's behavior from the beginning up to now. I think people are justifying why she was furious. And in all honesty, she has every right to be. In the U.S, the reveal of personal information to even a parent or spouse without that person's consent can be chargeable, under HIPPA regulations. When Mishti tried opening it once, which was accidental the first time, Kuhu made it clear that she does not want her to read it. The fact that did it again knowingly is the problem here. However that is the extent of Mishti's mistake, should she be blamed for the divorce? Of course not! She had nothing to do with it, even the reveal was accidental. But Mishti looking at someone else's information was wrong, no matter what her intentions were, especially after Kuhu told her to not look at it is wrong. Kuhu is not a victim here, a lot of it was her own doing, but she definitely has had an invasion of privacy. It may be just deserts, as she has done this to Mishti before as well, but that is where our biases come in. Should we call a mistake out even if someone bad has been in the receiving end of it? I guess, in conclusion what I am trying to say is that I am not justifying Kuhu's previous actions, but her getting mad at Mishti for opening her letter is justified, although it does not give her the justification to pin it all on Mishti, as it was not her fault.

I never said that Mishti didn't invade Kuhu's privacy....why would I claim that invasion of privacy is right? 😕.....but I don't agree with someone getting slapped for it. I simply pointed out the fact that many people since Friday have justified Kuhu slapping her for it. You may not be one of those, but many others have.

My disagreement is with people downplaying the torrent of abusive behavior from Kuhu many times where she has also KNOWINGLY and DELIBERATELY demeaned and blamed Mishti. The rest, I've said my piece about the larger problems with Kuhu's bullying and megalomania and have nothing further to add.