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Akshara's Column: Exploring relationships & handling superstitions
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Hello friends, hope all is well at your end. This week, I had the opportunity to explore relationships that are important to me.
I had a romantic wedding anniversary celebration with Naitik, I spent time bonding with Ma and I also learnt how concerned Bhabhi Ma and Ma are about my pregnancy, although I am not sure if I agree with all the superstitions they believe in.
The week began with a shocker as the delivery guy mixed up the gift which was a laptop I bought for Naitik and he ended up delivering a joker suit. I was obviously shocked when Naitik opened the gift and I realized the blooper. But as they say everything happens for the best. I gave Naitik something that I am sure means a lot more to him. I gave him a diary containing pictures and memories of our journey together, since marriage. I had planned to give the gift later but maybe God had something else in store. I felt so happy seeing Naitik smile after going through the pictures. Naitik, too, had a special surprise for me. He gifted me a CD depicting my various moods that he had captured on camera. It was such a thoughtful gift and is very precious to me. It means so much more than something purchased from a store. Friends, I also had a dream where I saw Naitik and I having our cute little arguments after 50 years of marriage!! Yes, we were behaving in the same way, though we had grandchildren. How sweet!!!
No matter how hard I try to keep things perfect between Naitik and me, somehow misunderstandings crop up. This time, it happened because I felt that Ma must be feeling lonely and awkward in our house. I decided to spend time bonding with her and make her feel at home. Naitik felt that I was ignoring him because of Ma, while I was expecting him to understand my feelings as a daughter. Even Bhabhi Ma was unwell and I had to spend time with her too. I got upset with Naitik when he started behaving strangely with me. I am already trying to cope with the demands of pregnancy and I expect Naitik to support me, it hurts when he misunderstands my intentions. The other day Naitik had booked tickets for a movie but I explained to him that it would not be right for me to leave Ma alone and go with him. Of course, spending time with Naitik is important to me but sometimes it is not possible due to circumstances and I hope he understands.
To tell you the truth, the time spent with Ma was super fun. I taught Ma to chat with Bauji through webcam. I felt so good seeing Ma happy after the conversation. I know that she misses Bauji a lot and that is why I came up with this idea. On her part, Ma helped me to develop a new interest. She taught me embroidery and I got hooked on to it. This made me nostalgic and I was flooded with memories of the past, where I would spends hours together learning new things from Ma and also chatting and laughing away with her. I felt like those days had returned.
Although, I love spending time with Ma I have to confess that I don't agree with some of the superstitions that she and Bhabhi Ma believe in. The other day Bhabhi Ma advised me to drink coconut water as it will ensure that I give birth to a fair child. Naitik pointed out that if this was true then there would be no dark people in the world. I agree with Naitik but I also know that Bhabhi Ma would be hurt, if I refused to listen to her, so I agreed to have coconut water.
If that was not enough, Ma and Bhabhi Ma also got upset after learning about Naitik and my plan to visit Shivji's temple. Apparently, it is believed that pregnant women should not pray at Shivji's temple. Now how can praying to God be harmful to the child? This superstition truly left me baffled but then again, I had to keep Ma and Bhabhi Ma's feelings in mind and let them have their way.
Friends, while I would not like to comment on other people's beliefs, I also feel that it is important to change with time. Holding on to age old beliefs will not allow us to progress. It is important to decide which ones are useful and which ones are simply illogical. Have you heard of any such superstitions that left you shocked or surprised? Let me know at akshara@starplus.in
Fan comments
Ria -Hi Akshara, How are you? I'm really happy for you that you got such a caring husband and family. I must say that both of us share some common things. I still remember the day two years ago, end of august 2009 when I got married. At that time you also got married to Natik. Now after two years you r pregnant and so am I. But here things have changed. You celebrated your anniversary with your darling husband, I was alone with my baby. Last week was my anniversary and my husband didn't even call me, neither did my in-laws. When I saw you and Natik happy when you saw your baby, it brought tears in my eyes, because last week when I saw my baby, I was all alone. At this moment my husband is in India, and I live in Europe. We also had an arranged marriage just like yours, but things changed now. I still love him, but I don't know if he still loves me or not. I don't even know if he loves this baby. All I can say is that everything that I see you and Naitik doing reminds me of my husband. Sometime I don't want to watch your serial, because I remember my husband and all the time I have and would have spend with him during my pregnancy. I still remember that my husband doesn't like serials. He used to get angry at me and them I would leave the serials and spend time with him. My husband has some misunderstandings about my parents and he is giving me punishment for that. It's not easy to go through this all at this time. I'm really missing him. Nobody can understand my pain, its very easy to say that everything will be alright and have patience, but believe me it's not easy. The worst thing is that it's been five weeks now and he didn't called me once. And when I call him he doesn't talk properly. Five weeks ago he stood next to me, he was the one who dropped me at the airport and was crying when I left, but the moment I arrived at my parents home he started behaving strangely. Even his parents didn't call me to ask how my health is. It really hurts! We know each other for almost five years and in these five years there was not a single day that we didn't talk to each other. Even when we had a fight we used to call each other. Now only God knows what happend to him and his family. God bless you Akshara (Hina) and the whole team.
Akshara - Hi Ria, I felt very sad after reading your story. I know it is not easy when the person you used to love and trust the most, starts behaving so badly with you. I feel that you should talk to your husband and find out what the problem is because there can't be a solution without knowing what the real issue is. Don't lose hope, be strong and I am sure that you will be able to save your marriage. I really hope that all your problems are sorted out and that both of you are back to being a happy couple. It is important to be happy during pregnancy, so don't worry too much. Take care and do keep in touch.
Akshara - Hi Ria, I felt very sad after reading your story. I know it is not easy when the person you used to love and trust the most, starts behaving so badly with you. I feel that you should talk to your husband and find out what the problem is because there can't be a solution without knowing what the real issue is. Don't lose hope, be strong and I am sure that you will be able to save your marriage. I really hope that all your problems are sorted out and that both of you are back to being a happy couple. It is important to be happy during pregnancy, so don't worry too much. Take care and do keep in touch.
Bashitha Bhanu - HI Akshara. I am from South Tamilnadu. I like you so much, you know something, and I am watching your serial atleast three to four times. Akshara daily star vijay 8.00 PM and in net daily 12.30 PM and evening 4.00 PM and again daily night 9.30 PM . I like very much your acting. Of course I am also sometimes imitating you. I'm waiting for your reply. Take care Akshara.
Akshara - Hi Bashitha, its great to know that you love or show so much. Thank you for the compliments and I would like to know in what ways you imitate me. Do let me know about it and you take care too.
Akshara - Hi Bashitha, its great to know that you love or show so much. Thank you for the compliments and I would like to know in what ways you imitate me. Do let me know about it and you take care too.
Nisha Saini -I Akshara I am your big fan every morning I will wake up and watch your serial please do reply me back say something please . I will be waiting for your reply also congrats that you are being a mother soon in your serial okay. I will be waiting for your reply.
Akshara – Thanks for your wishes Nisha. I am happy to know that you begin your day by watching Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai and that you are a big fan. Keep in touch.
Akshara – Thanks for your wishes Nisha. I am happy to know that you begin your day by watching Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai and that you are a big fan. Keep in touch.
Shaharyar Khan -Ok Akshara first of all a million congrats on getting the good news once again. You have made such a place in our heart that it seems like my own bhabhi is going to become a mother. Secondly I wanted to wish a very happy and blessed Eid Mubarak, Best regards from me and my family. I was thinking why dont you put up a poll in deciding the name of your baby daughter/son. After all we the fans also have some right. Dont we?
Akshara – Hi Shaharyar, that's an interesting suggestion. Maybe we could have a poll of my favourite names where you fans can help me pick the best one for my baby. I am touched to know that you feel like I am a member of your family. Eid Mubarak to you and your family too.
Akshara – Hi Shaharyar, that's an interesting suggestion. Maybe we could have a poll of my favourite names where you fans can help me pick the best one for my baby. I am touched to know that you feel like I am a member of your family. Eid Mubarak to you and your family too.
Starplus.in news | Monday, September 12, 2011
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