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Love is such a beautiful feeling.It fills the person in love with a sense of completeness,purity,abandon, unrestricted joy,,unbridled hope,unfaltering trust and relentless optimism and transports them to magical heights overnight.When in love we suddenly feel so beautiful and light .When handled in the right way,that lightness can help us fly.When handled the wrong way,the same lightness makes us fragile and so easy to break.
Today Sameer's situation is that of a person in love who has been handled the wrong way.The lightness of his love that once helped him fly has now made him fragile and so easily breakable. Like a child lost in the dark woods,he simply runs towards the first stream of light that he sees vainly hoping that he will once again feel the same happiness and lightness of love that once helped him soar. He is right in thinking that if his love for Naina helped him soar freely once ,it should help him soar again.This is what makes him go back to Naina again and again and again .But little does he realise that his wings have been clipped so badly by the very person he loved,that his heart now fears to fly.
Now the relationship between Sameer and Naina is a love story that is imbalanced. Naina is free and ready to soar and wants Sameer to fly with her. Sameer desperately wants to fly too,but he has a problem.The last time he was flying unfettered his wings were cruelly and suddenly clipped by the very person he loved and he fell crashing down to earth.Now Naina and Chachaji have given him new wings,but after his previous experience he is too scared to fly.What if they clip his wings in mid air again?After all this time,the flight is longer and higher.Which means the fall is deeper too...
The current Samaina love story(as I see it)is a story of imbalance between one person set to soar and the other who is too scared to even flap his wings.When imbalance comes into a relationship,then love takes a backseat.The more the imbalance the more the relationship becomes devoid of "Us" and "We" and moves into the zone of "I" and "Me"
1) When Naina left Sameer(for his own good),Sameer fell down crashing to the earth.Wounded badly in this crash,he lost everything,but his love and concern for Naina remained intact.The VO of Sameer said that he could have committed suicide then,but did not attempt to do so because he knew that whatever he did,Naina would do the same too.Though Sameer had no will to live,he pulled on because he wanted Naina to live.Compare that with the actions of Naina today,who decided to(threaten to) jump off the roof of a building without a thought for Sameer and the imbalance is clearly visible.
Where one person constantly thinks of the happiness of the other even he has no will to live,the other thinks of threatening to take her life to get back the person she loves on her terms and conditions,there is a clear imbalance.Does emotional blackmail really qualify as "love" ?
2)When Naina wanted to break up with Sameer,she met him and told him face to face that she was breaking up with him.She did not even offer a proper apology for her actions.She went ahead with her life never bothering even once to find out the impact of her unilateral decision on Sameer.Similarly when she wanted to be friends,all she had to do was walk up to him and ask and the boy jumped at the idea.This shows that Naina is so free and comfortable with Sameer that she is able to ask or tell him anything and everything whenever she wants to without hesitation.Contrast this with Sameer 's reaction after the mandir wala epsiode with Chachaji. Sameer feels uncomfortable but is unable to convey this in clear terms to Naina.The boy who held his head high and confessed his love for Naina to Chachaji now hesitatingly tells Naina about his fears hiding behind the shield of Munna.Something amiss?
To have a balanced relationship both the people involved must feel free to communicate their feelings with the other without fear of judgement or fear of retaliation..Here,Naina has that freedom with Sameer but Sameer seems to lack that freedom.He had that freedom with her earlier,coaxing her for movies and the birthday trip etc,but of late,he seems to have lost it.
3)Naina's suicide threat effectively and swiftly put an end to Munna's genuine concern of Naina dumping Sameer again.A mockery was made of the whole issue by Naina signing some crap on a piece of paper and proposing to Munna(!!!)
When one person refuses to address an issue in the relationship in a sane manner and refuses to take the trouble to assuage their better's half's fears,there is a problem in the relationship.When these problems are swept under the carpet by emotional blackmail or knee jerk reactions,it is even more harmful and dangerous for the relationship.If this behaviour is extrapolated(as might be in real life scenarios),Sameer should be prepared for multiple suicide attempts or self harm attempts by Naina in the future everytime something doesn't go her way.She has tried emotional blackmail and has been successful the first time.In real life such people are likely to try it again.
The impact of Naina's actions on Sameer are there for all to see,but only for those who will bother to see them.It is unfortunate that the very person he loves is so engrossed in her own happiness that she is oblivious to the extent of damage that her insensitive actions have inflicted on someone who loves her more than he can love himself.
It is ironical that "Naina" is turning a blind eye to the one she purports to love
PS:When Naina attempts suicide all of Sameer's and Munna's issues are effectively forgotten.What if Sameer had turned up in front of Naina's house threatened to jump off her roof when she left him?Would she have left her family for Sameer then?Or would she have watched him plunge to his death?So much for undying love...
