How did you tackle eveteasing and/or did ur bit to the society?

Since i or my peers or friends have never been at receiving end of eve teasing or otherwise, I wanna know how u have tackled this issue of eve teasing?

How did u convince that person that he/she was wrong?

And what ground level things u did to ensure tht this behaviour is not repeated with other girls in your neighbourhood?



Brief-up from comments below:

1st Step: Social Awareness - starting from home. Stand up and voice ur opinion logically (not emotionally) so that it is taken seriously.
2nd Step: Raising issue and taking collective step "as a society" , involving as many ppl as possible, lone wolf acts don't held much ground. plus united we r stronger.
3rd Step: Involving an authority figure - can b anyone society chairman, community elders, parents, teachers, seniors, principle, elder siblings. Thy can guide us correctly.
4th Step: Changing mindset and making the boy and boys' parents publicly responsible for his actions. Prevention is better than cure. And also being sensitive yet unyielding can some times do wonders what harsh punishment cannot do.
5th Step: Being vigilant about such nuisance and bring it in public awareness of the society. Involving society is v. essential to bring about the change.

and the most imp step learning some sort of self defence, which boosts up physical as well mental strength and develops courage and confidence, irrespective of the gender.

Copy pasting my reply from the other post:

Originally posted by: AaishaM

Copy pasting my reply from the other post:

You are a lucky person if you have never faced eve teasing👍🏼

First of all, girls here start facing eve teasing when they don't even know what does it actually mean. And mind you, most of the times, Eve teasing is not limited to passing stupid, sexual remarks alone. Girls are touched, groped and what not. But yeah passing lewd comments on girls passing by is normal for boys.

Anyway, I had the same issue. I first faced it when I couldn't even comprehend what the guys were up to. I won't deny, I was scared like hell. I ran away. But this kept happening again and again and I was always scared. Walking all alone on a deserted road or travelling by public transport is an open invitation for guys.

So I couldn't take it anymore and I started responding. When people passed comments, I gave them befitting replies; I even slapped a guy once.

I think you can not make guys here understand that what they are doing is wrong. They think it's very normal. And when girls don't respond, they get even more confidence that they can do anything.

The only thing wrong on our part is that we get scared and we keep mum.

If I ever come across a girl being eve teased, I always stand up in her defence. I always advice my friends and my sisters not to remain silent, either respond or complain about it to the p olice but not remain silent. That's what I have been doing on my part.

😊I dont know about others but despite the fact that my parents are so open minded, I could never share these things with them. I won't say they were at fault but yes parents should at least once talk to their girls about all this so that they don't ever feel uncomfortable sharing.

Self defence is the only thing you can vouch for. Even public don't respond now a days if you ask for help. This is the kind of mess we are into

But that didn't deter them right? So what collective steps did u girls take as a society not as an individual?

Did u seek any responsible person's help?

Did u talk to the family of those guys?

But what u tell the boy, ur ex?

I just want to know to what level this issue is being addressed in general?


I believe lone wolf fights r not gonna help. It's a collective responsibility and should b tackled collectively. It will give ur fight more impetus.

Making the guys understand is also key point here. Actions r mere reflections of one's mindset. By changing the mindset, we change the society.

Also involving an authority figure is v essential.

Originally posted by: violette

But that didn't deter them right? So what collective steps did u girls take as a society not as an individual?

Did u seek any responsible person's help?

Did u talk to the family of those guys?

But what u tell the boy, ur ex?

I just want to know to what level this issue is being addressed in general?


I believe lone wolf fights r not gonna help. It's a collective responsibility and should b tackled collectively. It will give ur fight more impetus.

Making the guys understand is also key point here. Actions r mere reflections of one's mindset. By changing the mindset, we change the society.

Also involving an authority figure is v essential.

If you are talking about collective action, I have been part of groups which through plays, lectures try to spread awareness.

I faced it when I was 6 ...that time I didn't even know what it is. I just ran away from there ...

I am not in India but get deeply disturbed by reading about news about rape, brutality against womenfolk in India. Few ways to curb

Originally posted by: AaishaM

If you are talking about collective action, I have been part of groups which through plays, lectures try to spread awareness.

Yes, you are right that lone wolf fights will not completely change the scenario. But if we don't speak up, boys don't stop. For years, girls have been facing all this silently and this is what have given a license to the Boys to do anything. If you don't speak alone, you can never even think of fighting this on a collective basis.

See I truely believe that parents should teach their boys how to behave with girls. I don't know about other cities, but here I have seen parents who know that their son have been involved in eve teasing and they don't utter a single word. If right from childhood you teach your son that all this is wrong, nothing can make him take that path in future.

Though I won't put all the parents in one category. There are parents who despise such behaviour but they never even get to know what their sons are upto.

For boys who don't think they are doing anything wrong, I have tried explaining but it never worked. This is where lone action doesn't work. I have been part of some groups so yeah that is the only thing I think I can do.

BTW Abhi to girls go and complain to police phle to police bhi nahi sunti thi😕 Again I am not generalising.

How can we talk to family of those guys when they are always strangers? Most of the times they are on bikes or crowded buses and they just go away.

Eve teasing is such a big menace now that it can not be corrected in a day or two. Right from the childhood if boys are taught to respect women and girls are taught to speak up, itwill surely bring a change.

And regarding my ex that's a long story. Cut short, I couldn't be in a relationship with a guy who couldn't respect women.

So what I gather from your post:

1st Step: Social Awareness - starting from home.
2nd Step: Raising issue and taking collective step as a society.
3rd Step: Involving an authority figure - can b anyone society chairman, community elders, parents, teachers, seniors.
4th Step: Changing mindset and making the boy and boys' parents publicly responsible for his actions.
5th Step: Being vigilant about such nuisance and bring it in public awareness as a society.

and the most imp step that I didn't c in ur post was some sort of self defence classes, which boosts up physical as well mental strength and develops courage and confidence.

I say collective bcoz not many have the courage to do so singlehandedly. Plus as society we can have a broader longreaching and longlasting impact.

In our generation, eve teasing was promoted in film as harmless flirtation. Hence, its considered as quite normal in family and generally doesn't fall into harassment category. If ppl can categorize and raise questions over the accusations of Harvey Weinstein, u can understand where we as a collective society stand.

One can do nothing about those eve teasers who just fly by... if they had courage, thy wud stop by and dare.

What my father taught me was to never show signs of weakness in ur body language, play safe but not defeated, and most of them r too coward when they see someone defending thmslvs strongly, irrespective of gender.

I m so proud of my father who was way ahead of his time. Belonging to a middle class family and having very limited means and no such classes easily available, he taught me fight moves watching Bruce Lee movies.. 😆

My Dear Father I love U!

And yes wen I chose and proposed my boyfriend, I had only one criteria - a clean character and high moral values. Rest - the looks, the charm, and the intelligence was added bonus. 😆

I don't know what youngsters look for in their boyfriends hubbies these days, bt in our time character and values were placed high above every other trait. 👍🏼

Originally posted by: Kavila

I faced it when I was 6 ...that time I didn't even know what it is. I just ran away from there ...

After that by the God grace never encounter Such thing till now yes my brother too watches p*** magzines. But as the age passing he is forgetting it Bec the responsibility ND pressure is what making him engage. Plus he has a gf so ...that's the complete another case

My bro has done many thing including smoking drinking too once I remembered how he came running to me and started crying that how one of his friends forced him to Eve tease but he was stick to his principle. . I got mad just grilled him left ND right coz he himself didn't do but he didn't even stop his friend ..

That time I was like if I could killed him lol but then...I had told him about the incident that happened with me years back after that he just changed ND now whenever such thing happen he is the first one to condem it ND even he teaches the boys lesson ND my task is to grill thier parents. .

😊see one of the main reason for eveteasinf is family either the guy under peer pressure or his family ..is learning bother about him or way more pamper that they thing it's thier birth right to do so but. .. here parents has to play the main role u know but unfortunately. ..the reality is way different from what we assume

In India we always give gyaan ND make a girl understand how she has to behave with other ND according to society but ...what about boys . ? Nor I have saw a single family advising his or her boys to behave accordingly with society norms ND women's ...in that case I ND my bro are lucky that our parents have always treated both of us equal ...ND ...if they advised me too how to behave then my bro also has got that ND even ..now also he is 19 he get that ...on daily basis...

But unfortunately 88 percent cases are ...all opposites. It's women who are receiving ends always ..

Kavila that's a grt story! 👏

And no u r wrong, thr r families who value morals over everything else, even gender. 😆 My FIL was stricter with boys than girls. 😆

And yes peer pressure is a very real thing and teens need someone to guide them. So yes, I didn't judge Sameer on that basis.

He didn't take a stand against eve teasing which was wrong. He regrets and wishes it to change is right thing to do. Everyone needs to b given a chance at correcting their mistakes. 👍🏼 Not everyone is born bad. 😳

Smoking, drinking, and watching those kinda movies is a very Boys kinda thing.. at that age, thy want to try that for once.. and see how it works.. even my hubby did that with his best buddy group.. except for drinking.. a few of my friends do drink.. so its all abt learning as you go and NOT cultivating it as a bad habit.

its a part and parcel of growing up. It's just that many middle class families r like that of Naina's.. itni privacy hi nahi milti aisa kuch karne ki.. 😆

But here I m asking about concrete solid steps.. all this is fine at first stage. Now its time we take things to next level. 😳

Hence this post. 😳

Originally posted by: violette

So what I gather from your post:

1st Step: Social Awareness - starting from home.
2nd Step: Raising issue and taking collective step as a society.
3rd Step: Involving an authority figure - can b anyone society chairman, community elders, parents, teachers, seniors.
4th Step: Changing mindset and making the boy and boys' parents publicly responsible for his actions.
5th Step: Being vigilant about such nuisance and bring it in public awareness as a society.

and the most imp step that I didn't c in ur post was some sort of self defence classes, which boosts up physical as well mental strength and develops courage and confidence.

I say collective bcoz not many have the courage to do so singlehandedly. Plus as society we can have a broader longreaching and longlasting impact.

In our generation, eve teasing was promoted in film as harmless flirtation. Hence, its considered as quite normal in family and generally doesn't fall into harassment category. If ppl can categorize and raise questions over the accusations of Harvey Weinstein, u can understand where we as a collective society stand.

One can do nothing about those eve teasers who just fly by... if they had courage, thy wud stop by and dare.

What my father taught me was to never show signs of weakness in ur body language, play safe but not defeated, and most of them r too coward when they see someone defending thmslvs strongly, irrespective of gender.

I m so proud of my father who was way ahead of his time. Belonging to a middle class family and having very limited means and no such classes easily available, he taught me fight moves watching Bruce Lee movies.. 😆

My Dear Father I love U!

And yes wen I chose and proposed my boyfriend, I had only one criteria - a clean character and high moral values. Rest - the looks, the charm, and the intelligence was added bonus. 😆

I don't know what youngsters look for in their boyfriends hubbies these days, bt in our time character and values were placed high above every other trait. 👍🏼

Originally posted by: AaishaM

😊self defence se mera matlab vahi tha, but yes I should have explicitly mentioned about classes.

And yes, you gathered it all right.😉

😳That's very nice of your father. I am truely impressed and in awe of him.👏

@ Bold: I think the same. Character and values above looks any day.

😉Sahi, aapko bonus bhi mil gya😉

har ek ko apni life mein Sammy baba jaise looks wala charmer nahi chahiye.. uske liye to bas Naina jaisi nazar ur dil hona chahiye.. 😛 Hamare apna customized version wala Sammy Baba mil hi jaata hai.. 😉 😆

Plus for me its always brains over looks! 😳

And I never like to judge ppl without listening to their side of story/clarification.. that way the points that we raise, will have solid impact on the other person. 😳

Uff.. I m becoming Gyaani Baba like Randeep! 😆