What has a teacher to do with your personal life?

Dnt understand.. shanti mam finds naina's letter? But even if she does.. what does a teacher have to do with whats going on in your personal life😕 uska kya matlab?

Yes she has aur yahn india mei toh maano teacher k hath love letter ka lgnaa bomb lgne k barabar h 😆 i mean this age is meant to focus on your studies aashiqui can wait but not studies ... Everything goes well at right time aur teacher ka farz h student ko right wrong mei fark btana aur usko sahi path dikhana ...

Teachers do play a role... specially she has caught something in school, in her class. so she has all the right to question. if proper rules followed, the letter cud b handed to Principal as well since the gal involved is a minor...

Being a teacher in the past of students from 9th - 11th grade, I have personally caught some students having affairs in their school time...Okay don't bash me for being a pyaar ki dushman...or as we colleagues jokingly called each other as 'Jodi Breakers' 😆...I am personally a bit of a private person and I had a similar type of discussion with one of my colleague that how right it is for us as teachers interfering with lives of our students. But there are a lot of reasons behind we interfering in a student's life:

Teachers can do this if the student do those in school. To keep discipline in school. School is not college/university. School students are under 18 and under 18 kids are not allowed to get married and do other stuffs which adults do.
As long as students are in the school teachers are responsible for students, they are the second guardians of students as long as students are in school.
After school is not teacher's headache. Parents are responsible for their kids when students are outside.
Naina is a good student. That teacher loves her. If she sees those letters and know that Naina is failing in exams. Obviously as a well wisher she will try to protect Naina. That is nothing wrong.
Naina is still a child, she is only 16. At that age can she marry or raise children? No. It's against law. Child marriage is forbidden. However Naina can make friendship with any boy she likes. Because friendship is not forbidden.

P.S. the problem is that Naina bought heart and arrowala writing pad. Toh pitai and dhulai toh hogi. 😛

Teachers are responsible for the students in school for all their actions and moreover Shanti teacher is more like a friend and luckily good that the letter reaches Shanti mam...else can't imagine if it would have reached in the hands of Safari suit.

Teachers are like second parents. They are equally concerned about their students as much as parents so there won't be any difference in the way they react to certain situations.

Originally posted by: KashafZaroon30

Being a teacher in the past of students from 9th - 11th grade, I have personally caught some students having affairs in their school time...Okay don't bash me for being a pyaar ki dushman...or as we colleagues jokingly called each other as 'Jodi Breakers'😆...I am personally a bit of a private person and I had a similar type of discussion with one of my colleague that how right it is for us as teachers interfering with lives of our students. But there are a lot of reasons behind we interfering in a student's life:

1. Having love-life in school, finding your soulmate and all that is fun for only sometime. Now that I look at Samaina, I also feel that 'Kaash ek affair kar liya hota toh life mein thoda fun hota...etc, etc.' But as we can visibly see it in the show as well, relationship in school time is a distraction. And distraction can lead to many painful and harmful consequences if not controlled and curbed down in time. Teachers are role models, just like parents and hence as role models we have certain amount of right on the child, to guide them, to make them understand their responsibilities and make them aware of their conduct.

2. When things happen in the school premises then it becomes a matter of reputation and integrity. Probably if I see a student of mine, having an affair outside the school premises, especially with a person not of the same school, I might not question him/her or take any action thinking it as his/her personal matter. But if things are happening at a school premise, then it is my responsibility to question the child or report it to her parents. Cause at the end I work their and I have to maintain the reputation of my workplace.

3. Usually I had the tendency to personally talk to the child first and try to sort out the things, without reporting his/her parents, something similar to Shaanti teacher, because directly reporting it to parents can also be very painful for the child as the child has to bear the wrath. And when you warn the child personally, I have observed that they start having confidence in you and also remain guarded because back of the mind they know that now the teacher also knows and if I don't pay attention they might report to my parents.

4. But that doesn't mean that if things are going out of hands then we should not let the parents know, because this happened with one of my colleagues. She warned the child, talked to her personally, and the child promised her that she would now pay attention to her studies and sideline everything else, but eventually she lied and continued with the affair outside. Things went out of proportion and her parents came to school and complained saying if the teachers knew about it why didn't they tell us. And eventually once the semester was over they withdrew her admission from our institute. Which indicates that the reputation of the school was at stake. No parents would like to keep their child in such school.

5. The era in this case was 90s, when having an affair at a young age was a big thing. Probably many of us 90s kids dared not to have an affair fearing the society and our parents' wrath. But now things are a bit relaxed. Not everywhere, and not in all households, but there are some parents who are fine with close friendship or even a relationship between girls n boys. I remember having a student couple, both aspiring to be doctors, both being in the toppers list, their parents had told this in a parent-teacher meeting that we are completely fine if they wish to be together, as far as they are inclined towards their goal and be successful. We will keep a check on them time to time, but we don't have a problem with they dating. In 90s parents were not even in agreement for a friendship, affair toh door ki baat hai. I belong to a family where my parents were pretty strict about certain things, and used to keep a tab on me and my sisters' whereabouts and what kind of friendships we had.

6. As Shaanti teacher knows things, Naina will now be more aware of her conduct and will herself keep a tab on her actions.

Sorry for a detailed reply. But interference from the teacher, I believe at times is needed for the betterment of the child. Thank you for raising this question, I was able to share something.😃

👏 Totally agree with your post...and during the 90s yes dosti tho door we were awkward to even talk to the boys...and now in our whataspp group the way the girls and boys ...rather men and women from our school talk like bumchums but in school we never even used to smile at each other...and LOL so agree looking at Naina feel school time mein bf hota tho life kuch aur hi hoti 😆 but real mein kohi Sameer nahi tha aur na hi aisa kuch hota hain...serials/film mein sab theek hain all should focus on their studies and work hard that is the only way to achieve anything in life.

I remember a similar incident in our school.
We were in co-ed. We had a new teacher who used to work in a girls school before she joined in our school. She was more like Rakesh Sir, always searching for flaws in girl students only.
We were like brothers and sisters in school. 😳
But there was one girl in our school who had an affair with a boy. We knew it...but the teacher most probably guessed it or heard it from someone . Although she had no clue who that boy is. But she had some evidences...a love letter written by her to the boy.
One day her twin brother who was in same class but different section came to our class to borough a pen from her.
That teacher caught her and her bro and scold her in harsh way. Saying the girl is characterless etc as she thought her bro is the boy she is in love with. Later terrible incident happened to her. Our teacher was scolded by the principal as he knew they are brother and sister. But love letter toh tha na...that girl went to the Principal and she herself accepted the blame of writing the letter. But she said "I just wrote this as I want to be a writer" or something like that.
This lie saved the reputation of that girl and saved the teacher's job too.
Ladka bhi baach gaya, ladki bhi and teacher bhi...😆

Teachers play a very important role in our life..they shape our character!! Shanti teacher has such a characterisation that she's understanding n gives the right advice to the students!!