Betrayals and Forgiveness

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Kshithi

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Posted: 7 years ago

Hi All,

I am still trying to catch up with all the episodes I have missed since two weeks.

I know it is difficult to understand why Naina cannot forgive Sameer when clearly he is doing so much for her love. There was a dialog from Naina to Sameer: "I will forgive you when I am able to forgive myself" or something to this effect. This is very significant and sums up everything Naina is going through.

When someone we trust betray us in the worst possible way, it is difficult to comprehend. It shakes us to our core. Yes, you feel angry at that person, humiliated, hurt, and sad. But most importantly, you lose confidence in yourself and your own judgment. It is not just the trust you lose on that person, you also lose trust in yourself. How can you trust your own judgement when you were wrong to trust that person before?

Sameer wooed Naina before, he did things for her before like helping her and her family. He was charming and attentive. And he is doing the same thing now. No doubt he is sincere this time. We know that. Naina can see that he is trying to prove himself to her. But can she trust her own judgement on that? She trusted him once before. Even if she wants to trust him again, is she confidence enough in herself to do that?

It is easy to forgive others for their mistakes. It is not so easy to forgive ourselves. It is not easy to overcome our own shame and guilt for having being betrayed. Only when Naina can let go of that, can she embrace Sameer's love once again.

Love

Kshithi

Edited by Muggle_Diaries - 7 years ago

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sweet_tehs

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Posted: 7 years ago

Wonderfully summed up...

Yes the whole thing why she can't forgive is she can't forgive herself for going against her family and trusting someone who didn't value her and her love.

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Kavila

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Posted: 7 years ago

Then what about paper stealing incident ??

Naina knows arjun stole that still she is mum ..

Naina's trust was broken ...no doubt what about sameer his character was malgin totally he was proved thief ...his relationships with his mother bittered further ...?

Naina is a blind eye when come to her family yesterday she said to sameer ki agar papa ko tumahara jhoot sach lah jata to unki sari umeed lhatam ho jati like really if that man even concern about his sin for him arjun is a simple trophy child ...

This girl is seriously blind as u said mai jab khud ko maaf kar dungi tabhi tumko mqsf kar payungi but that does not applicable to only sameer bet ..but also to her family ..

Naina is responsible for sameer nd his mom relationship to be bothered more sameer I'd paying for her crime ...naina has to pay ..

Kyunki it rightly said jo gunah karta hai woh culprit hota hai lekin jo crime ko chupata hai he is even more culprit

So naina here had simply puttrn blanket to her brothers deed nd yet she has a guts to say such thing to sameer .

I know for sameer the paper incident will not will impact any but I really wish somehow vishaka ...get to know nd then I would like to see vishaka roasting naina nd arjun nd rakesh ..

Naina is not less than any culprit ...

Sam may even forgive her ...being in madly love but this is definitely will somehow bring a question mark on thier relationship!

Sam has a guts to accept wrong nd rectifying but arjun ..forget arjun even naina too...nd they are highly inherited from thier father ...

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EndlessHope

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Kavila
Then what about paper stealing incident ??
Naina knows arjun stole that still she is mum ..
Naina's trust was broken ...no doubt what about sameer his character was malgin totally he was proved thief ...his relationships with his mother bittered further ...?

Naina is a blind eye when come to her family yesterday she said to sameer ki agar papa ko tumahara jhoot sach lah jata to unki sari umeed lhatam ho jati like really if that man even concern about his sin for him arjun is a simple trophy child ...

This girl is seriously blind as u said mai jab khud ko maaf kar dungi tabhi tumko mqsf kar payungi but that does not applicable to only sameer bet ..but also to her family ..

Naina is responsible for sameer nd his mom relationship to be bothered more sameer I'd paying for her crime ...naina has to pay ..

Kyunki it rightly said jo gunah karta hai woh culprit hota hai lekin jo crime ko chupata hai he is even more culprit

So naina here had simply puttrn blanket to her brothers deed nd yet she has a guts to say such thing to sameer .

I know for sameer the paper incident will not will impact any but I really wish somehow vishaka ...get to know nd then I would like to see vishaka roasting naina nd arjun nd rakesh ..

Naina is not less than any culprit ...

Sam may even forgive her ...being in madly love but this is definitely will somehow bring a question mark on thier relationship!

Sam has a guts to accept wrong nd rectifying but arjun ..forget arjun even naina too...nd they are highly inherited from thier father ...

Does she really know that mom abandonment part coz of paper stealing? I may have missed the episode.

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Kavila

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: EndlessHope

Does she really know that mom abandonment part coz of paper stealing? I may have missed the episode.

Yes his mother walks away nd saying she is ashamed of being his mother I. Front if naina only...at the day of paper stealing incident later she came to know about arjun truth yet she has no guilt worthless girl

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Anmol

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Kavila

Yes his mother walks away nd saying she is ashamed of being his mother I. Front if naina only...at the day of paper stealing incident later she came to know about arjun truth yet she has no guilt worthless girl

No that scene had happened in home.

Yes his parents walked away from school but being abandoned by his mother is in home.

And his step father is no less. Btw

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Kshithi

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: sweet_tehs
Wonderfully summed up...
Yes the whole thing why she can't forgive is she can't forgive herself for going against her family and trusting someone who didn't value her and her love.

Thanks a lot. 😊

You are right,

Love

Kshithi

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Kshithi

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Kavila
Then what about paper stealing incident ??
Naina knows arjun stole that still she is mum ..
Naina's trust was broken ...no doubt what about sameer his character was malgin totally he was proved thief ...his relationships with his mother bittered further ...?

Naina is a blind eye when come to her family yesterday she said to sameer ki agar papa ko tumahara jhoot sach lah jata to unki sari umeed lhatam ho jati like really if that man even concern about his sin for him arjun is a simple trophy child ...

This girl is seriously blind as u said mai jab khud ko maaf kar dungi tabhi tumko mqsf kar payungi but that does not applicable to only sameer bet ..but also to her family ..

Naina is responsible for sameer nd his mom relationship to be bothered more sameer I'd paying for her crime ...naina has to pay ..

Kyunki it rightly said jo gunah karta hai woh culprit hota hai lekin jo crime ko chupata hai he is even more culprit

So naina here had simply puttrn blanket to her brothers deed nd yet she has a guts to say such thing to sameer .

I know for sameer the paper incident will not will impact any but I really wish somehow vishaka ...get to know nd then I would like to see vishaka roasting naina nd arjun nd rakesh ..

Naina is not less than any culprit ...

Sam may even forgive her ...being in madly love but this is definitely will somehow bring a question mark on thier relationship!

Sam has a guts to accept wrong nd rectifying but arjun ..forget arjun even naina too...nd they are highly inherited from thier father ...

Hi Kavila,

I understand what you are saying and completely agree with you. Naina is in no way faultless and blameless. She has committed mistakes too. She is blind towards her own family's fault, like Arjun and her father. She is quick to judge. She is a deeply flawed person just like Sameer. And going by the current track, I hope and I wish that she is forced to look at her own self and her family in an objective way and understand that everyone commits mistakes and deserves another chance.

Mahatma Gandhi said "An eye for an eye makes the whole world go blind". There is a difference between revenge and justice. There was an injustice done to Sameer during the paper stealing incident. Taking revenge is never an answer. Someone steals something from my house, I go to the police. I do not go to that thief and rob him. What happened with Sameer is certainly wrong on so many levels and that really needs to be rectified. The whole paper stealing incident need to come out in the open, especially in front of Rakesh. Sameer is still in need to justice. Having said that, him taking revenge on Naina in retaliation is never an answer.

If my husband hurts me in someway, I should not hurt him as an answer (although it is very human thing to do. To hurt the person who has hurt us. Sameer's reaction and his revenge is very human, I know) But, the right thing is for me to do is make him understand his mistakes and let him know where he went wrong.

One person making a mistake is never a reason or an excuse for the other person to make a mistake.

What I really love about Sameer is that is very empathetic. His understanding of Naina and her mindset is really appreciable. Sameer understands human nature, and the grey areas of life. That is why he is able to own up to his own actions. On the other hand, Naina while not an evil or bad person, is a very naive girl. Her understanding of her world is very limited.

Having said all of this, I I do hope just like Sameer, Naina too would understand her faults and come to appreciate Sameer for what he truly is.

Love

Kshithi