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Hello everyone,
This is my first topic in this forum. I've been following the show since day one. I love it that this forum is one of the most peaceful and lively with interesting & intelligent discussions doing rounds almost every day. The high-pitched drama & twists in last few episodes prompted me to make a topic today.
In the name of love... ??
I've been unsettled by the way Raman & Shagun are behaving in the show 'In the name of love for their kids'. Whereas, in reality, it seems all they care about ( subconsciously ) is how to hurt each other and score a point against the other. They go on any extent to hurt and insult each other, even if it demands dancing publically with someone who is unassuming of their tactics and then shrug off as if nothing happened ( Raman ) or drivig all the way to a Chinese restaurant with your boyfriend and kid for a petty apology ( Shagun ) The list is endless. None shows any self respect, genuineness or even humanity and consideration for others when it comes to hating the other.
For what ?? Love for their kids ??
I fail to understand if they really love their kids, why doesn't it show.
Shagun -- She clearly failed before Ruhi, couldn't bond with her or get her custody just because she was never concerned about her. Their interaction never translated into Love which the audience could palpate.
As for Adi, does she really love him ? Is love all about buying expensive gifts and showering verbal 'I love you's' which are more superficial than a soap bubble. She is least bothered if Adi was trying to take bhaang, she teaches her 11 yr old son all about dirty politics, insulting elders, stooping low to get 'sorry's' for things which can be ignored ( She doesn't bat an eyelid to use her son as a pawn to get an apology for him and for herself too 😆) She is letting Ashok destroy Adi's childhood and makes him manipulate his father, Sorry, but I fail to understand this 'kind of love'... no mother destroys a child for satisfying her ego !!
Raman - He says he loves his kids. But not even once did he says that - Adi, this is not how you behave ! Being a father, he should have at least questioned him or 'at least tried' to steer him out of his thoughts by questioning and reasoning before playing a rug-doll to Adi's demands ( It wasn't a 3 year old asking dad to become a horse so that he could ride on him ) This Adi gentleman is 11 years old and Raman needs to put his foot down before agreeing to his silly demands. This is the only way he'll get Adi's respect when he refuses to budge before him and stay with with what is right and justified.
Just like Shagun, even Raman is least bothered about a BIG issue that is Adi trying to take bhaang. Instead of thanking ishita and thrashing Adi, he gave a disastrous message that -
"Go on beta... have bhaang, drugs, alcohol, whatever you want. No one will stop you. If anyone does, I'll make them apologise to you. Moreover, let Ishita apologise to Shagun too, though I have absolutely no idea how Shagun misbehaved with my wife and sister ( simi )...but that doesn't matter. Right or wrong, I'll say what you do, coz I'm too weak to take a stand !!"
Now for Raman-Ruhi - no matter how much I adore them, like Ishita says, now that Raman has Ruhi's custody, he is taking her for granted. No matter how much verbal declarations of his love for Ruhi, Raman may make, he ends up hurting her always...because he never understands her, never makes sure to keep her happy and even he used Ruhi to reach that Chinese restaurant for Adi's apology. He shouldn't have taken Ruhi along pretending to care for her or given her hopes that RuhiIshra are one happy family. A very wrong message went to the girl at a tender age.
I am just too disturbed with these parents who claim to love their kids, do every nasty thing in the name of love but fail to display even basic criterias of healthy parenting and don't pay any attention to their kids' 'what-could-have-been & -should-have -been -normal' upbringing.
Sorry for lengthy rambling...
This is my first topic in this forum. I've been following the show since day one. I love it that this forum is one of the most peaceful and lively with interesting & intelligent discussions doing rounds almost every day. The high-pitched drama & twists in last few episodes prompted me to make a topic today.
In the name of love... ??
I've been unsettled by the way Raman & Shagun are behaving in the show 'In the name of love for their kids'. Whereas, in reality, it seems all they care about ( subconsciously ) is how to hurt each other and score a point against the other. They go on any extent to hurt and insult each other, even if it demands dancing publically with someone who is unassuming of their tactics and then shrug off as if nothing happened ( Raman ) or drivig all the way to a Chinese restaurant with your boyfriend and kid for a petty apology ( Shagun ) The list is endless. None shows any self respect, genuineness or even humanity and consideration for others when it comes to hating the other.
For what ?? Love for their kids ??
I fail to understand if they really love their kids, why doesn't it show.
Shagun -- She clearly failed before Ruhi, couldn't bond with her or get her custody just because she was never concerned about her. Their interaction never translated into Love which the audience could palpate.
As for Adi, does she really love him ? Is love all about buying expensive gifts and showering verbal 'I love you's' which are more superficial than a soap bubble. She is least bothered if Adi was trying to take bhaang, she teaches her 11 yr old son all about dirty politics, insulting elders, stooping low to get 'sorry's' for things which can be ignored ( She doesn't bat an eyelid to use her son as a pawn to get an apology for him and for herself too 😆) She is letting Ashok destroy Adi's childhood and makes him manipulate his father, Sorry, but I fail to understand this 'kind of love'... no mother destroys a child for satisfying her ego !!
Raman - He says he loves his kids. But not even once did he says that - Adi, this is not how you behave ! Being a father, he should have at least questioned him or 'at least tried' to steer him out of his thoughts by questioning and reasoning before playing a rug-doll to Adi's demands ( It wasn't a 3 year old asking dad to become a horse so that he could ride on him ) This Adi gentleman is 11 years old and Raman needs to put his foot down before agreeing to his silly demands. This is the only way he'll get Adi's respect when he refuses to budge before him and stay with with what is right and justified.
Just like Shagun, even Raman is least bothered about a BIG issue that is Adi trying to take bhaang. Instead of thanking ishita and thrashing Adi, he gave a disastrous message that -
"Go on beta... have bhaang, drugs, alcohol, whatever you want. No one will stop you. If anyone does, I'll make them apologise to you. Moreover, let Ishita apologise to Shagun too, though I have absolutely no idea how Shagun misbehaved with my wife and sister ( simi )...but that doesn't matter. Right or wrong, I'll say what you do, coz I'm too weak to take a stand !!"
Now for Raman-Ruhi - no matter how much I adore them, like Ishita says, now that Raman has Ruhi's custody, he is taking her for granted. No matter how much verbal declarations of his love for Ruhi, Raman may make, he ends up hurting her always...because he never understands her, never makes sure to keep her happy and even he used Ruhi to reach that Chinese restaurant for Adi's apology. He shouldn't have taken Ruhi along pretending to care for her or given her hopes that RuhiIshra are one happy family. A very wrong message went to the girl at a tender age.
I am just too disturbed with these parents who claim to love their kids, do every nasty thing in the name of love but fail to display even basic criterias of healthy parenting and don't pay any attention to their kids' 'what-could-have-been & -should-have -been -normal' upbringing.
Sorry for lengthy rambling...
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