Intimate friends?

"To have a great man for an intimate friend seems pleasant to those who have never tried it; those who have, fear it."

what is your take on intimate friendships, esp. between people of opposite sex? Can you be friends without being intimate? or is friendship synonymous with intimacy (both in same sex, and opposite sex)?

How come society is always suspicious of intimacy between people of opposite gender, but when women or say men chat and share their lives amongst themselves, it isn't viewed as cheating esp. when friends are married to other people?

Also, how close is too close?

I don't know if any of this has been discussed before, but the quote made me want to put my thoughts down.

Later,
Persy

no no lets do this again 😆 😆 😆 i dont want to go back to the thread and see my comments, will comment again just to see if i have changed my views or not 😆 😆 😆 intimate relationship between the two doesnt exist necessarily, if the friendship exists, it should be within the boundaries.

Originally posted by: tisha_g

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/debate-mansion/590062/clean-relationship

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I guess the question this time is a little different..... how close is too close? 😃 And why do people fear when they have been there? do they not believe in themselves or don't trust the other person?

[quote]no no lets do this again 😆 😆 😆 i dont want to go back to the thread and see my comments, will comment again just to see if i have changed my views or not 😆 😆 😆 intimate relationship between the two doesnt exist necessarily, if the friendship exists, it should be within the boundaries. [/quote]

how do you know where the boundary is?😉 I think my opinion has changed a bit ... just cause boys seem like they are really stupid, and read "cues" which the girl doesn't even intend to drop😡.😆

Originally posted by: reeps

😆😆😆I guess the question this time is a little different..... how close is too close? 😃 And why do people fear when they have been there? do they not believe in themselves or don't trust the other person?

No its not about belief, but the fear of unknown...Its those butterflies in the stomach when you know that something different is happening... 😉 😳

Originally posted by: reeps

[quote]no no lets do this again 😆 😆 😆 i dont want to go back to the thread and see my comments, will comment again just to see if i have changed my views or not 😆 😆 😆 intimate relationship between the two doesnt exist necessarily, if the friendship exists, it should be within the boundaries. [/quote]how do you know where the boundary is?😉 I think my opinion has changed a bit ... just cause boys seem like they are really stupid, and read "cues" which the girl doesn't even intend to drop😡.😆

i totally disagree, a guy will only pick up cues if you cross your limits or you are very flattery, it has to be two ways in this case but if the guy really sees everything as a cue then sorry that guy is a real stupid 😕 but in many cases as adult, in professional world etc it doesnt happen, people go out of their way when you give way to them.

[quote]in many cases as adult, in professional world etc it doesnt happen, people go out of their way when you give way to them. [/quote]

Meaning what? 😕 and what do you mean by 'cross your limits'?

Originally posted by: reeps

[quote]in many cases as adult, in professional world etc it doesnt happen, people go out of their way when you give way to them. [/quote]

Meaning what? 😕

meaning if you let them pass the line they will definitely do. it depends on you how you handle the situation 😉

Originally posted by: reeps

"To have a great man for an intimate friend seems pleasant to those who have never tried it; those who have, fear it."

what is your take on intimate friendships, esp. between people of opposite sex? Can you be friends without being intimate? or is friendship synonymous with intimacy (both in same sex, and opposite sex)?

there is a very fine line between intimacy and close friendship especially with opposite sex .😊

To be realistic it is difficult in general to maintain pure friendship without being intimate with friends of opposite gender. Yes I can maintain it but I can't take garantee of the other one so always keep a bit distance 😊

How come society is always suspicious of intimacy between people of opposite gender, but when women or say men chat and share their lives amongst themselves, it isn't viewed as cheating esp. when friends are married to other people?

It is very difficult to keep a pure friendship in general... plus what I feel that if a person is married ..then she \he should be very careful .. marriage is not a joke . very easy test is if your spouse knows about your friendship with another person of opposite gender and you really don't have to hide anything from your spouse for eg. your messages etc then it is ok otherwise better stay away from such friendships no use to destroy your marriage over a friendship .

I was surprised to found out about some married people who made friends just for fun\flirt to spice up their so called boring life 😕 but for their partners they were very possessive and never approve any such thing for their partners😆 to phir us becharay ya bechari nay kia qusoor kia 😆

Also, how close is too close?

as Raksha said *buterflies*

I don't know if any of this has been discussed before, but the quote made me want to put my thoughts down.

Later,
Persy