Good Debateable topic, Sowmya.
1. If a young son in India dies we have so many restrictions for one year. We don't celebrate festivals or laugh or express joy.
India is a land of cultures and traditions. Whether we live in India or Abroad, we do follow our culture and traditions by choice or for family sake. Technically sons are supposed to give their soldiers to their parents dead body and do all the final rituals for them. Mother give birth to a child and child is indebted to their parents till they die. Its called PITTAR RIN and MATTAR RIN. But when parents see their son die before them, they feel like they are BESAHHARA or helpless and they don't feel to enjoy any festivals. Time is the bigger heeler and slowly they look at other grief stricken families ( Nanak Dukhia Sab Sansaar) and try to move on with their lives. We Indians are so much attached with our kids and families that we cannot think beyond this life. Lord Krishna's preachings: Everyone who is born must die sooner or latter, go in vain because we don't want to accept that who was our son one day, must be reborn somewhere else and giving happiness to his new parents.
On The other hand Americans after age 16-18 go out of their house and live on their own. Parents still love them but they don't have big hopes that one day their son will be their support in their oldage. Parents want to save enough money for their oldage than helping kids to pay their University education and giving them place to live atleast till they are married. It is difficult for them as well but they get out of grieving little faster than us. In fact, I have seen Catholics invite all the families and friends from Funeral Home to their house for light snack or Lunch and drinks. I guess this is their way of grieving.
2. We morn for this grown up son's loss for rest of our life.
Why?
We don't morn for grown up son's loss for life but at least for longer period but slowly parents try to live on for their other kids. If son was the only child, parents try to look at nieces and nephew's happy life and live based on that. Some parents just quit all social activities and join some Sewa Project or some temple and spend rest of their lives there. It all depends on each parents family: How many kids they have and how good they are treating them. If other kids are giving them all financial and moral support, parents do want to live their lives for them.
1. Do you think Americans are less attached to their family and thus they get over the loss faster?
Some families yes, they are less attached to their parents and in turn their kids are less attached to them and they get over with the loss faster than other families, who are more attached to their kids and are more family oriented.
2. Do you think they are more practical and try to move on with life rather easily? Yessssss, Americans are more practical than Indians. We try to live in our memories more than Present Time.
3. Or you think that Indians are more dramatic when it comes to loss due to death? No, Indians are not dramatic, we are narurally more attached to our families than Americans. We have read stories about our Gods like Lord Rama as MARAYADA PURUSHOTAM and we try to follow what our Holy books are trying to teach us and give good respect to our parents.
4. Or you see some other reason behind this?
Other reasons are if parents are young and they are working, their time passes easier than another Grieving parents who doesn't work and stay home and totally dependable on their son.
Edited by NKSUDHIR - 17 years ago
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